Is it possible a guy and a girl to be just bestfriend without catching feelings?

[Anonymous]

i have a male best friend that is currently traveling. We knew each other from school and got very close. He told me about the girls he went out with etc. At first we rarely texted each other however since he left school we texted for about 3 months. We flirted, sent pics, and stuff. All of a sudden he became distant and i knew it there must be another girl there. And im right. So I decided not to reply to his text. Somehow i get very angry cause he didn’t say anything about who he went out with, but at the same time i don’t think i have a right to feel angry.

Can be bestfriend

Cannot be bestfriend. One or the two of them can catch feelings for each other

[_Maya_]

It is possible but probably not in your case. It doesn't sound like you are capable of being just friends if you are going to flirt and then get mad if he is with another girl. If you just wanted to be friends with this guy then why would it matter if he was with some girl or not? Why would that make you upset and angry? You are correct that you have no right to be mad at him because you are just friends or at least that is what you claim you want. It doesn't sound from what you write that you can just be friends with this particular guy if you are going to act the way you did. Sorry to be so blunt.

[Asker]

Thanks for the response Maya. At least from my side I dont think I can see him only as a friend since then. It’s just so confusing whenever we texted or called each other he hides everything especially about girls but he shows that he’s jealous whenever i said i went out with a guy.

[_Maya_]

Your welcome. I definitely can see how it would be very hard to be friends given that it seems you want more. It is odd he hides girls from you considering you are friends. There should be no need to do that.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Yeah, a male and a female can just be friends. Of course the idea of dating might’ve crossed their minds a couple of times, but they don't go through with it

[midnightmoon05]

No such thing as best friends between two adults of the opposite gender… that best friend should only be with boyfriend/girlfriend. /husband/wife.

since you have feelings for him… I would suggest that you block him. And move on to find a boyfriend.

[IslaTheWitch]

it is possible if you set up friendship boundaries from the beginning

[Olgamasha]

Maybe he felt the way you felt too. And he noticed it. Maybe he doesn’t want to hurt you at all. You can tell him like this: “I wish you were more open with me. I would support you no matter what.” Something like that.

[OtterMan68]

my best friend is a female. No romantic or sexual feelings between us

[BonzoInBitburg]

Only if she's not attractive

[elizamichale1]

I dont think so

[Iron_Man]

That’s a real longshot