Can a girl and a guy be friends without catching feelings or making things complicated?
I’m my experience no. If you have a long running friendship one of you is pretty likely to experience some type of desire for the other. This alone will make things complicated. However, being friends and not making a mess out of things is totally possible. So far I’ve learned you need about 4 things to make it work
1. A clear understanding of what you want from relationships
2. A clear understanding of why this person is a friend and not a potential romantic partner
3. A clear understanding of relationship boundaries
4. A clear understanding of the differences between possessiveness and protectiveness
Every relationship is different so it’s difficult and maybe pointless to go into more details than that but overall understanding these things together can help phenomenally in maintaining friendships with any gender and sexual orientation.
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I mean, I think catching feelings is part of it all. Just depends how deep they let them go. You can have feelings for someone the same way you would a family member. I definitely think a guy can be friends with a girl without catching feelings. Just the fad of always having sex these days make it a common place thing to consider your friend for bedroom fun and theb leads to risky behavior and possibly escalates things if the other party goes along with it.
Catching feelings and things being briefly complicated doesn’t mean things are ruined.
My best friend is male, we’ve known each other for twenty years, we’ve both fancied each other at different points, and at times there have been drunken kisses, but never more, and never whilst we’ve been in relationships. We trust each other, we know our boundaries, and we love and respect each other too much to let occasional little crushes make things awkward.
I do also think there’s a difference between being friends from the get go, and when one is Pursuing the other through friendship hoping for more, as expectations are different
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First of all, men and women aren't all interested in the opposite sex so that is an obvious yes. But if the question is whether a straight guy and a straight girl can be friends without there being feelings, it's still a yes. People aren't automatically romantically interested in each other just because they are of the opposite sex. Even if their personalities matched, that doesn't mean they'd find each other attractive.
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My best male friend and I have been best friends for over 2 years now and it’s worked out perfectly. However he’s mobed back to his homecountry about 1.5 years ago so that might be a factor I don’t know for sure though... but I do think it can actually work ;)
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Of course they can! After all - you can only date one person at a time anyway!
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In all my friendships with gals they've always gone through at least a short period of awkwardness. Usually a short lived crushes, flirting, or attractions develop and pass without much note. It's not really something to fret over. Friends with the opposite sex work fine, just be honest with yourself about your feelings. Is it something short lived that you just fell into or are your actually developing a deeper affection for them?
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Absolutely! I have a lot of guy friends because there is far less drama than with girls (although as I get older the girl drama seems to be getting better).
I think guys sometimes HOPE for more (feeling friend zoned) but I just treat everyone like a friend and ones I want romance from I flirt more and I think go over the top past friendly to more... I think it's a hard line to define on both sides maybe but it IS possible -
Yes that is possible, but it's typically the people around them who make things complicated.
I once got a third degree about my close friendship with a girl by a group of her friends. That was very uncomfortable and very unnecessary in my view, but the outside world often thinks differently about these friendships then they ones in it. -
Absolutely! My best friend and I are going on 15 years of great friendship. Sure, weird feelings come up at times. Usually at rough times of your life (maybe feeling lonely) but true friendship is a real thing and it ultimately goes beyond those temporary weird feelings.
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Yes actually very very easily I'm actually friends with over 30 women and don't have any feelings for any of them but I cannot speak for women because the mind of a woman is very different from Men's because men are able to block out things easier when it comes to stuff like that with women more things come to mind more things run through your brain and more things make you curious and make you think
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ye but it imply a reciprocal limit of distance of respect. For example this pic is the sort of thing that could broke this kind of friendness.
The age is also important.
The people in ur pic are too younger, at this age everyone is searching someone.
After a certain age, this decrease, and true friendness become possible. -
As long as both parties understand where the lines are that should not be crossed, but yes it's possible to have friendships with the opposite sex without complications. However over a period of time everyone will experience a situation that becomes complicated
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Definitely, it may not be the easiest task for the guy. But as long as the friend zone policy is there and its obvious then it's all gravy. Some guys are oblivious won't know the difference and that will lead to an issue. Ladies, be careful how "nice" you are, and call him "dude" if you want to stay just friends. Being lead on sucks.
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Yes for me, it is possible. I do have a guy best friend, he has someone in a relationship with. What we have is a platonic friendship, like we're treating each other like brother and sister.
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Yes but not likely
Your still in a relationship. Even if it isn’t physical. Just like how there’s a relationship between your parents, your girl friends and your family. Not every relationship is sexual. But as soon as it’s physical, depending on personalities... things can get complicated quick. -
Not really - the guy will have always wanted to have sex with the girl, even from day one. And in those cases where the girl isn't attractive, it only takes a bit of time for the guy to end up coveting her after all.
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I have a lot of guy friends that I’m just friends with. Yes, some said they were attracted to me but we sorted that out just fine. So to answer your question, yes it’s possible because I do it all the time.
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Yes! My closest friends are guys, and we never done anything physical.
I can't deny that there are a few flirtatious moments, but it never went further than that.
They respect me, and after a while I became just part of the boys -
Other question. Can a guy and a guy be friends without getting in complicated situations? When you are real everything is possible just don't lie to yourself and people will copy this trait. There won't be many problems anymore
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If they grew up together then yes. But in order for a strictly friendship status. The girl can't lead the guy on, or ask sexual or basic questions that would make a guy think they're catching feelings. This is a problem that tends to occur a lot nowadays.
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To be honest if both are very attractive and are attracted to eachother, one or both of them are going to start questioning how sex would be or the thought of them dating
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Am not sure, i fell for my best friend but he had no feelings for me like romantic feelings so after sometimes i myself fell out of love and now we are absolutely just friends.
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Yeah as long as no friends with benefits kind of behavior is going on.
Sometimes it happens anyway, it's uncontrollable but I have female friend that I'm not in love with. -
I had a friend for 5 years. Then we we're together, then we broke up. Quess what - we're still friends. So yeah i quess its possible
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