Can a girl and a guy be just friends?

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Curious..

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Friendship is based off a common interest. Musicians, a job, a common interest such as guns or video games... drugs even.

My first and foremost question when some girl is trying to say "he's just a nice guy" or "he's just a friend," is yeah... what is the common interest? Because him being attentive and friendly because he's trying to find an indirect way to get her in a completely non-friend zone and her knowing this or not knowing this but nevertheless allowing it simply because she likes the attention... that's not a common interest. It's not a common interest until the two of you are agreeing on sex and who gets his attention.

99 times out of ten, the situation has more to do with her liking the attention he gives and him liking the idea of getting his foot through the door when he probably would've of been rejected outright if he got straight to the point of what he really wants.

So can they be friends? ... yeah, if there actually is a common interest. If it's just a guy acting nice and listening to all her stupid problems while always relating in a way that is obviously an attempt to make himself look like a knight in shining armor... yeah right, that's not a friend.

A friend will tell you how much of a kunt you are. Point out how stupid you're being. Friends help safeguard yourself from your own ego. Sycophants of any type tend to have an agenda. If all you two have in common is a job... how much of that job being done together. I mean the reason 1/4 of the cheating stories here are from work trips and work stuff has a reason too.

I say just be a realist. Especially to the females out there. They have a tendency to make themselves believe he's just nice, just friendly, just this, or just that... no woman, he just wants your va jay jay and probably doesn't even like you as a person.

winterfox10 · Accepted Answer

I've never seen it work.

LoveableBreak · Accepted Answer

Hmmm well tbh I have guy friends and some fall for me some don’t and even when I’m not their type at all but my personality they like a lot but these are the single ones wen they are taken and have a girlfriend they look at me different. Meanwhile I’m dating my guy friend now and I don’t regret it. It wasn’t even weird.

When my guy friends have problems they would tell me things like” I wish she had your personality” when the girls turns out to be bad sometimes they would do the comparing shit I hate lol “ why can’t u guys trade personalities” or my favorite “ why dosent she have a good heart like you”

Or the others act distant when they have a girlfriend. I honestly feel like it can work if one of the other have a girlfriend or boyfriend honestly all my friends end up liking their guy friends it’s hard but if she’s an girl u totally go opposite for you can be friends. Someone who dosent fit to your standards. How can you be friends with someone who is attractive and have an amazing personality?

Hard question 😭 lol because most people start out as friends then few years later married

ToxicKisses · Accepted Answer

I really want to say yes, but honestly last year I saw that it can't happen. My two best childhood friends are two guys. We grew up together and I and everyone else saw me as a younger sister to them. Sadly they didn't, one saw me as a wet dream and said that when he was drunk, that he fantasizes about me. And to make things even more tense the other dude started pushing him and arguing how he doesn't see me just like that, that he actually loves me. All there is to say is that i got them both home safe and never really went back to the close friendship we once had. A girl and guy can't be just platonic friends, if they are striving to be really close. Regular friends that you see every now and then, probably, but really really close... nu uh

VaIiant · Accepted Answer

My best friend for years is a guy. There’s no romantic feels whatsoever, even though he’s stated multiple times im “beautiful” (So it’s not that he finds me horribly unattractive, like many comments state). It all comes down to a real friendship— thinking of dating him actually repulses me, and likewise, as many of our friends and relatives used to make jokes when we were younger, but other people would make the mistake of thinking we were attracted to one another, simply because of the stigma around co-ed friendships.
But besides him I don’t have a single platonic guy friend, so there’s another perspective.

just_tired · Answer

Yeah, I have a lot of female friends

CallMeDave · Answer

Absolutely. I've had quite a few female friends over the years that were friends and that's all. My closest friend for a while was a woman. We did a lot of things together and spent a lot of time together as best friends do, but there was absolutely nothing romantic in that relationship. A lot of people thought there must be something romantic going on but there wasn't.

My guess is that those people don't understand that a male-female relationship does not always have to be about sex. It can be just two people that have common interests and enjoy each other's company, like any friendship, and gender doesn't matter.

Maybe some guys only think of women in terms of sex (or vice versa), but I think of them as people first. Certainly there are some I have romantic interest in, but many are just nice people that I like and enjoy doing things with that happen to be female.

Personally, I think people that only view people of the opposite gender in terms of potential romantic partners are missing out on a lot. I've had a lot of fun over the years with female friends that didn't involve anything sexual at all.

The1Guy · Answer

Can't. If I communicate with a woman and it doesn't matter how old, I always think of her in a sexual way. Would I? Wouldn't? It's hard for most women to understand, but it's impossible for men not to think that way. Also regardless of age.

A woman can use a man in this way, to get free attention from men. But if you think he's just your friend, you are fooling yourself.

The only way for a girl and a guy to become friends is to get together, make love, get married, have children, raise them and get old together.

Real friendship between polar opposites take hard work, sweat and tears over a long period of time. Sex is required even if just to let out the tention.

I could go on, but my point is clear. Guys and girls, be honest to yourselves and each other.

Prince83 · Answer

I believe that if trust is kept to a limit, then yes they can be friends; but when you totally open up and beging to share things and do things that are potentially harmful, then a form of physical attraction that can lead to other unwarranted behavior could come to fruition and cheating would take its course. Sorry, but thats just the way it is. So if you keep the trust limited, personal space and personal boundary respected, and limited contact overall, then yes they can be, but if you are constantly texting and at all hours, going out to places, complimenting each other, and what not, then you can bet your ass that there is a chemistry that wil develop a certain level of comfort and trust which will lead to some sort of attraction and eventually to the ice breaker...

Whisperhead · Answer

For a very long time (almost 12 years) I was friends with a girl my age, she was almost like a sister to me. I idolised her and would have done anything for her, but I never once thought of her as a potential partner. So I guess it is possible.

However, a gap mainly paved by financial differences grew between us and gradually it dawned on me that one day her tastes and mine would be incompatible. It happened eventually, around 3 years ago, and one disagreement about a trip (the three peaks challenge, of all things) split our friendship down the middle and we haven't really spoken since.

Most of that is irrelevant to be fair, but I don't know any women from my childhood anymore, as most are married, engaged, riddled with children or dead.

ScottL · Answer

Sure, as long as either he or she is gay. Otherwise, they can be friends as long as they don't claim to be "platonic".

If the absolute perfect opportunity became avaliable, one or both of them (usually the guy) would take it to be with the other.

100% of everyone I've challenged with this question and they said they are strictly platonic, have admitted that if they weren't currently in a relationship with someone else, and they knew with absolute certainty that the other agreed to be with them, that they would "try it"... or at the very least, wouldn't turn them down if they asked.

Usually the girls innocently say they have no intentions and would turn the guy down if they were asked, but most guys agreed that if the perfect opportunity presented itself, and she asked to be with them, they wouldn't turn her down.

Miristheiss · Answer

Probably, most successfully when neither had any attraction or interest to the other.

If one is attracted to the other or interested than no, not really. That will cause a problem if one wants the other but that feeling isn't returned. That will end the friendship (at least a close friendship... they can still be distant friends) or one will just secretly pine for the other all the time (if you have the situation where one is afraid to make a move and state their feelings) and not really be happy.

robske · Answer

Nope, one of the two 9 out of 10 Will develop feelings for the other, the other 1 out of 10 will usually just end up fading away

So just friendship won’t be

What is possible is being friend zoned by the woman you love and just staying friends so you can keep her close to me.

aicarg · Answer

Yes, most definitely. If a guy and a girl has no romantic emotional chemistry nor physical connection, they're more than able to be just platonic friends. I have plenty male friends who I simply just hang out to grab drinks or a bite with, shoot ball with, talk about random stuff with.

C2000 · Answer

Of course they can. Even if they have lots in common , its only the idea of men and women that make people feel like guys and girls can't be just buddies.

I have many many female friends , some I'm real close with but I would never consider a physical relationship with them, they are just great friends.

But I guess technically some guys just can't handle being just friends with a girl.

pribeiro97 · Answer

Yes, but honestly, it's really hard to find a good and real friendship between a boy and a girl, because men are really straight forward when it comes to friendship, either they are completely real with a friend or he isn't your friend.

Most of the times men have jokes that can only be said between a group of male friends, wich makes it hard for women to be part of that group because they often find those jokes offensive, but if a girl enjoys that kind of humour, they probably will be good friends.

Understand men's humour and you'll be like a guy to them.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Yes! we can. No sexual attraction , no sex no nothing just being friends, i won't go around and have sex with every female friend, NOPE i go have fun with them and socialize. Why would i ruin my friendship with nice people just for sex? Doesn't make any sens.

silverqueen · Answer

Yes they can. The people (mostly men) who say they can’t be, only see the opposite sex as a tool to have sex with or to get money from.

Men and women CAN and ARE friends. I have many male friends as well as female friends. I treat them all the same way, and they treat me the same way they treat all of THEIR friends.

idrilcarnesir19 · Answer

Yes, but let's say you are sure that you are not going to like this person... you can't say the same for the other. Most likely you guys will either stop being good friends or start to have feelings for each other. My boyfriend was my bestfriend and I was the one that was sure I'm not going to see him anymore than just my bestfriend, but it became more than that. It also came to mind that if we date other people, most likely our friendship won't last.

katy97 · Answer

Absolutely!
Actually i met my best guy friend on tinder. When we met for the first time we were bullshitting like kids and having so much fun, but absolutely none of it was flirtatious at all, he's still my best friend now. And he even says he'll be my maid of honor when/if my current boyfriend and i get married.
Every person needs a friend of the opposite sex, to support them without jealousy and give advice on their gender without things being awkward

Chris1456 · Answer

yeah my best friend is a girl. we have been best friends since we were six years old and grew up together, we both love each other as brother and sister kinda love, and have a strong bond, but thankfully were never attracted to each other which is why even tho she is married, we still see each other as best friends and it's never ever weird. so yeah it is possible.

ScareBear · Answer

No. Every girl and guy that ever see each other actually have to breed by law. Natural selection will sort out the rest, actually rather quickly. Bodies will be liked high in droves, executions will be televised on the Execution Channel, where everyone voted for the best one

dontevenplayyaa · Answer

Yes , I’m friends with a guy now who is a good friend : his personality is amazing but I am not sexually attracted to him. We’ve hung out in bed or have gone to dinner and he has never made a move or I and he’s straight. Some people can just b like bro and sis but I do think he likes me a lot but I do not return the feelings

Ripper_E · Answer

They can, but that doesn't mean there couldn't be any attraction between them. Friends or not, they are still attracted to the opposite sex. You don't see an attractive person and then just stop feeling attracted because you want to be friends. There is no on or off switch.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but there are conditions; typically they either grew up with you, friends of friends or family or lesbian.
There is an exception with a certain type of personality profile some girls have; tomboyish for the lack of better words, almost always grew up with brothers and generally prefer to hang out with guys vs. girls and with usually an A-type personality who can manage herself really well.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd like to say yes but in my experience, no. Not unless one of them are gay/lesbian.
I've never been friends with a guy who didn't have a crush on me and vice versa. This even happens to people I know. Two friends of mine, a guy and a girl, had been best friends forever. Then about a year or so ago they surprised everyone and announced they're dating.
You can pretend to be "just friends" but one of you is probably feeling more.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Here is an experiment: Go tell your "just friends" guy that you're offering him a friendly blow job. How do you think he will react? Will he say "no we're just friends." or will he pull out his dick in nanoseconds to receive it? I say the latter will happen unless we're talking about gays or beta male cucks.

Ayer93 · Answer

Yes. But the thing is if they're your friends, the likelyhood of you liking their personality is high. As for me I have friends that are girls, but they're in 2 categories... 1 is they're physically attractive with a great personality, in which case I can't help but feel at least somewhat attracted to them. The second is not physically attractive (to me) but has a great personality, in which case I feel absolutely nothing more than feelings of friendship.

Obviouslyfabulous · Answer

There’s always one member of the party that has romantic attraction I feel unless one or both of the friends are homosexual. But with a straight guy and girl, there’s always a little something at at least one end from my experience.

Anonymous · Answer

Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.

One might be secretly in love with the other but chose to stay friends in order to not to ruin the friendship. The other party wouldn't know because he/she fails to see the signals of attraction coming from their super close friend.

desperatelyhungry · Answer

Yeah but not best friends I think. I don't care what they say, if I'm dating a guy and he hangs around all the time with another girl and is always texting her and telling her about our business, I have a big problem with that

SmalHoomanBeen · Answer

MY 2 BEST FRIENDS ARE GUYS!!! They are so amazing, I get shit for being so close to one of them (the other is gay) guys. and. girls. should. be. friends!!! It’s really good to have male and female friends!

smith_this · Answer

If the guy is attracted to her and they never have any physical contact (you know what i mean) then that woman is mentally killing that man i know i tried it and i can tell you the whole time i wanted to walk infront of a train or drive my car into a railing or point a fake gun at a cop (p. s. i also lived with her and heard my bestfriend beating that p**** up) so yeah i dont make friends with women and if im attracted to a woman i avoid friendship like the bubonic plague

Anonymous · Answer

In a girls mind, yes.
But males do NOT make time for girls they are not sexually attracted to.
No matter what any of them try to tell you.
NO straight guy will wake up and think of texting the fat or ugly girl to ask her what she is up to or to say hi.
He won't make time out of his schedule to make plans with her either.

AaronKrieger · Answer

If I had a nickel for every time I was with a female friend, then someone would come back and ask... "Are you two dating?" It could just be due to the people around my age I don't know. But yes, girls and guys can be friends.

Askkenny · Answer

Yes absolutely they can be also many a times they also land up been happily married couples because they know each others flaws and advantages that makes it more secure for both
(Exp from My circle of 3couple friends)

MisterSage · Answer

Absolutely. I have a crush, but she’s on the other side of the country, and isn’t looking for a long distance partner, so we’re still very good and relatable friends, with some obvious sexual humor, but not much passing that.

thomasf4532 · Answer

I really like to think so I feel like guys can be a lot more open if they have girl/s for friends. I always screw up first impressions with guys and girls so the closest things to friends i have are online. :P

Justacatlady · Answer

Yes, my best friend is a guy. We've been friends for over a decade and have always been just friends, even when we were both single

ProfessorOswin · Answer

Whereve you been living under? Do you think that people care what gender you are just to be friends? I have many female friends. It doesn't mean that I'm playing them all. I can't even get a girlfriend.

Priiime · Answer

Kinda. As long there isn't attraction from either side, then it's fine. As soon as any type of romantic feelings get involved, would recommend letting them know as soon as you realize it, so you don't feel strung along if the feelings aren't being reciprocated.

TimTheVegan · Answer

Yeah, one of my closest friends is a girl. We consider each other like family. I like to call her sis. And she told me that I'm like the older brother she never had lol. Every time we're saying bye to each other we was say "I love you". we have only ever just been friends over time we became more like family 😊.

mel117min · Answer

Personally no
I had a friend and he always said that's what we were friends and thats what we always will be , and then he said I don't want to be friends anymore because I want to be more and that seems to happen often

Plumy · Answer

Yes umm I mean it must be so otherwise I'd have to kill my boyfriend... and then myself 🔪

SuperNovaRoyalty · Answer

@txdiie_ ok this one guy said that guys wouldn't be friends with someone they aren't physcally attracted to. thoughts?

Jesslin412 · Answer

Yep! Sometimes you might catch feelings though hanging out to much together and if you are both single. Most of my friends were guys in school. Girls were annoying!

Joshcurnow17 · Answer

In some cases, a lot of the time, girl believe that guys are looking to get with them so they become friends first. But there are some nice guys out there that respect the girls and are only looking to become friends. But in the society today, if you have too many 'girl friends' you are judged to be gay. Personally, I have loads of friends that are girls, and I get on with them more than guys because I can talk to them about so much more and I feel comfortable around girls

siddhi1017 · Answer

Obviously they always can be... becoming close to someone is natural.. bt being in relationship wid tht person is completely ur own decision... A person might be close to u bt not necessary tht u r in relationship wid tht person.. U feel a bond between both of u... bt it may nt be love

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Not if there's physical/emotional attraction between the two, otherwise our natural instinct to come together romantically/sexually will get in the way of that frienship.

AnonCMT236 · Answer

Yeah. The main thing is if either individual has/has had feelings for the other then they just need to make sure to keep that in check. Regardless, in both friendships and relationships, communication is key.

Idocareforu · Answer

Yes untill it is a pure friendship. When anyone of them getting towards the love border, it will be no more a friendship. Coz it will increase the expectations and will spoil the relation.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I have a lot of guy friends who only see me as a friend and so do I so yes I believe it’s definitely possible. Some guys would argue that guys and girls can not be just friends

HikerDude · Answer

It depends. If the guy feels sexual attraction to her, it makes it tough. I have been with about half the female friends I'm attracted to, but we were mature enough to not let sex make things awkward enough to ruin our friendship.

weaponsdude · Answer

Friends with benefits? Absolutely we can be friends. I havn't had a female friend where there wasn't sex involved since high school. And because I've cared so deeply for my love, I havn't had any female friends besides her in a long time.

eanubis89 · Answer

Yes people have been asking that questions for years and it’s starting to get annoying. For me i kinda have more guy friends right now. It’s no big deal.

djmchfx · Answer

Yes. In my opinion... I had my best friend Jenna "best woman" stand in my wedding. Trust is everything. We always say I love you , and she is like the sister I never had. We still to this day will not allow anyone or anything to come between us. Just my experience.

Anonymous · Answer

having sexual interest on a friend doesn't mean that it's not a real friendship, it's just human nature to get sexually aroused by the other gender. i have a lot of female friends, and i don't mind having sex with them while it's nothing emotional. but it doesn't work that way, a friend is a friend, having sexual interest is okay, but doing it is uncool.

txdiie_ · Answer

I read it's unlikely because boys most likely imagined the girl naked before (friends don't imagine each other naked). But I think they can just be friends

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Sure! Why not? I have a lot of male friends. Meanwhile, my man has numerous female friends. My brothers have a lot of female friends too.

Bellydancer83 · Answer

I've had "moments" with freinds who I only saw as freinds. It's going to go either way eventually. Either non freind or more.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

Yeah. There are plenty of females I don't find attractive in any way that I'm friends with. They're nice, but they're not someone I could see myself with in any way.

Hannajenky · Answer

As long as the guy is not attracted to you it's possible. I've had guys get mad at me that i friendzoned them but the whole time they know i had a boyfriend.

sahas20 · Answer

It depends. I have never had any female friends, only acquaintances. So, I've always only preferred one woman in my life at one point and that is my girlfriend. The rest of the women are just acquaintance

studDMuffF1n · Answer

If your a real man, No. I wouldn't fuck any of my guy friends but I would fuck all of my girl friends. It's the slow play, you start off as friends yadadada when her guard is down slam bam thank you mam.

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