Can guys and girls be just friends?

[Hafia_xo]

[Cynicaldreamer]

My guy friends would like to have a talk with several of you saying, "You can't just be friends with a girl!"

Yes, it is not only possible, but having a platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex can be one of the BEST friendships someone can have! My guy friends are phenomenal: if I need advice on something, they get straight to the point. No games or telling me what I want to hear; they tell me what I need to hear. That's the main difference between most guy and girl friends. Plus minimal to no drama with most men. We hang out, talk, play video games together, work together... basically do things you do with a friend.

For those saying it's impossible, that's because usually one or the other person falls for the other-

Usually, not always. If there's no attraction there [It helps I'm unattractive, and yes, I'm honest enough to admit that], it makes it easier for guys to just see you as "one of the guys" rather than be sexually or romantically attracted to you. Or if they're already in a happy, committed relationship/marriage. Several of my guy friends are married or in long term relationships and we talk almost daily (yes, their partners know me and are aware of our friendship before anyone asks).

Also, setting clear, upfront boundaries! Let the other person know you're just after a friendship and nothing more.

[Topaz1979]

Nope I love working with people of all genders I work well with men and I form great acquaintances with them, I talk to them laugh with them but I would never befriend them the only men I befriended are my brothers and family members who I grew up with otherwise I befriend my boyfriend, I look for bfs who will make great friends and partners.

Like I don't get why a man and a woman would be friends because then your dating that person 😂 your going to talk to them, hang out, laugh together and those are things that bfs and gfs do together 😂!. but if you do those things with someone who has the same gender as you it's a different dynamic, bro time and girl time is very different from girl hanging out with male friend time.

[Topaz1979]

the kind of laughing and talking that I do with my friends/boyfriend is different from the one i do with my male acquaintances, the one i do with my acquaintances is friendly, professional and light hearted.

but the talking I do with my lady friends is deep, friendly, unfiltered because those women know me and they are my friends we can be our real unfiltered selves around each other, and we can help each other, support each other, socialize and talk about serious topics pertaining to our lives and anything really and our friendship is non professional,

and then the one I have with my brother and guy family friends is a brotherly and sisterly relationship. the relationship i have with my boyfriend is the same as the one i have with my lady friends but it's more so focused on our relationship, it's deep, it's romantic, it's unfiltered, supportive, we help each others it's authentic and friendly of course. i can tell my boyfriend things that i can't tell my lady friends and i can tell my lady friends things that i can't tell my boyfriend.

[D_Bone_Steak]

If the common interest that is bringing them together is anything other than just sex/attention... yeah.

9 times out of 10 though what do we actually see?

No common interest, hobby, or activity to share... just someone that enjoys the attention and/or someone that holds "romantic" interests to say the least... thus they get called "emotional tampons." (Google that if I just sound stupid right now) ... possibly admit they're "friend zoned."

I say as the guy, just point out you really just need to put your penis in her vagina, because the talent show is tomorrow. <--South Park reference.

[LimitedBenefits101]

absolutely not

Go to spotify and listen to this podcast called " men are food , not friends" by Natalie Quadros

she explained it perfectly why men and women can't be friends.

[sirderpsalot123]

Of course they can.

Being straight won't mean that you're attracted to everyone of the opposite sex. Even if one or both are attracted to each other, There can be a whole range of reasons why they wouldn't want to escalate...

1. They don't want to risk ruining the friendship.

2. They are already in relationships and respect their friends and their own relationship.

3. You can have eyes and see that someone is attractive, without being interested in sleeping or being in a relationship with them.

And why is the argument always that a girl and a guy can never just be friends, and never that gay men/lesbians can't be just friends with other gay men and lesbians?

[dustybiker]

Bully. Who’d want to be friends with you? (😁) Nice shiny down smirk you have there. Not mine.

[sirderpsalot123]

@dustybiker 😱 bully?

I know. It's a blue smirk, lol.

[dustybiker]

@sirderpsalot123 Oh does it still show the color smirk for you? They took that away from the ios app months and months ago. Uncool.

[sirderpsalot123]

@dustybiker Yeah, I can see which one if I look at my opinion history.

[dustybiker]

Interesting. I will check that out.

[sirderpsalot123]

And now we have a pink smirk 😏

[dustybiker]

Probably forgot which account he was using.

All these lonely people on GaG. Wishing they had friends.

[sirderpsalot123]

@dustybiker 😂😂

It is easy to forget. I always forget to sign out of your account... 😫

[dustybiker]

@sirderpsalot123 There is only room for one of us at a time.

[JDAC092299]

I used to think yes but these days I’m not so sure but that’s because I’m an adult and there’s less reason to mingle with women now other than to become more than friends as I think that’s what most women assume if you try to get to know them outside of a circumstance like work for example

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Maybe.

As long as the friend is on the internet lol. When I had male friends in person, most of the time they also wanted to take it into the next level. I guess it'll be difficult for opposite genders to be just friends in person. In some cases they can, but it's kinda rare.

[Adititte]

For me this isn't a problem. My ex girlfriend is still my best friend and there are no romantic feelings involved. But if guys and girls can be just friends depends on the guy and the girl and also the maturety

[Anonymous]

As long as she keeps it that way. You can't start coming on to me, then change your mind, and then think we'll go back to being friends. But yeah, I have a lot of women friends. Because thier designation of me doesn't change when they need it want it to. They respect me enough not to try to exploit our friendship like that. Not all women are like that, and we don't remain friends when they pull that.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I have a lot of female friends and i never understood why we can't just be friends in the first place, no one has an a answer nor explanation 🤷‍♂️

[OpenClose]

I mean yes, easily. Most of my friends in college were girls.

Though it's definitely less complicated if you aren't especially attracted to them.

[NathanDavis]

absolutely not, never and NOPE whatsoever... lmao

[dustybiker]

Pretty sure about that.

[NathanDavis]

@dustybiker lmfao... almost convinced myself

[dustybiker]

@NathanDavis 😂

[dustybiker]

Amazingly so. So many on GaG cannot fathom this.

[LilyByte]

ikr, they never go outside I guess lol

[dustybiker]

@LilyByte lol It doesn’t seem like it.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm sure it's out there. I personally have never once seen it work. I think male-female friendships are extremely sexual things, even if the two people never actually have sex.

[MysticDevice]

Short answer: yes. I have several girl friends that are just friends. It is indeed possible.

But it is common for those relationships to turn into something more.

[Anonymous]

Put a cup up, put a four in it Sixes on that Chevy with some hoes in it Them hoes playing, they don't wanna fuck I'ma put they ass out, they gon' be walking, bruh

[Mamaganja]

No. No man has ever been able to just be my friend. Always has to ruin it with a confession.

[Agape93]

Of course they can.

I also don't care if you disagree Brooklyn

[chicosuave]

Only if the girl is really ugly to me then yes

[JPresidente]

For me, I've found it's very difficult because you're always wondering what it would be like with the other person.

[Havthrills]

Some can be. Most of the time it seems one will start to get feelings. I don't see why not though.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Of course they can. It doesn't automatically make them compatible just because they are the opposite sex. This is exactly why people have types because not all of them are their types

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Those who say no have the same reasons here. It makes me wanna ask if they think bisexuals cannot have friends.

[XXblack88]

Yeah their are friend that see each other more like brother and sister then friends.

[exitseven]

I had a few female friends years ago. one of them was really my best friend for a while.

[AsaKyo]

Yeah, it can happen if there's no attraction there

[Avatar74]

I think so, When I was in college I had lots of female friends.

It never progressed to a romantic relationship.

[OddBeMe]

Yes with a “but”.

Sexual thoughts can be present but its not a friend killer. Our sex thoughts can go wild sometimes…

[LilyByte]

yes lol, source I have some friends who are guys

[Anonymous]

I’ve at least been kissed by every single female friend I’ve ever had… and it was initiated by them. You can be friends but just know you are a possible hookup at any moment.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes, assuming they don't find each other attractive.

[Nahid1707]

Respect is the most important part and having no unnecessary arguments

[Twalli]

Yes, it's not hard. You just need to be natrual friends.

[htmndg183]

Yes they can. I have female friends. My girlfriend has male friends.

[Anonymous]

As long as you're both banging someone you find hotter than the other, then yes.

[nickaboy]

Yep as soon as you both have no-one, one of the 2 will admit he/she got feelings for the other and that will destroy everything

[Opinion Owner]

@nickaboy Exactly! It's always SUPER easy for a guy to be friends with a girl--he just needs to be banging a hotter chick!

[nickaboy]

I haven't been banging for 10 years. Now the girl that was my bestfriend when i was with other Girls looks fine ass hell actually how we treating eachoter we actually were acting. like a couple allready. she does not want to make that step. So yep everything is ruïned now.

[Opinion Owner]

@nickaboy Wait--the last time you got laid was 10 YEARS ago? WTF dude? You gotta fix that!

[nickaboy]

Yeah my last girlfriend was 5 years ago.
She didn't want me to fuck her she just really wasn't ready then for real.

We got back in touch last week and i now started teasing her. first reply on it is looking good. So yeah I am trying to fix it however i can. Even if that means going to past Girls

[Anonymous]

To. Tall. Ly. Guess what gender my best friend is? Ha! And I'm positive we're not going to date.

[Hulk30]

if they're bi or straight then that depends on specific things

[Anonymous]

Yes, its very possible for that to happen. But boundaries might have to be established.

[MCheetah]

If one or both of them are gay, then yeah, sure.

[Anonymous]

How many times would you ask this question?

[Nikki1989]

Of course they can.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I disagree with that. I think they can be friends if there's no mutual attraction cause if there is then that friendship will quickly morph into something else

[Adam1978]

Yes if there is no attraction between them.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some of us have that capacity!

[Pot8o]

If there's no attraction either way

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. They can.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Yes, but not every guy and girl.

[FunkyMonkee]

Why couldn't they be?

[Anonymous]

If they are both gay.

[Hafia_xo]

😂😂😂

[Massageman]

Yes, it's possible.

[blondfrog]

If they are not attracted to each other then yes

[omnivert]

I have a best friend as a girl.

[Iron_Man]

Only if you’ve never dated

[xJayleenx]

If the guy is gay yes lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

I think they can be friends as long as there not attracted to each other if they are they'll end up being more than just friends

[LexiPrice]

Yes absolutely!!

[Bklynbadboy12]

I disagree

[LexiPrice]

Why do you disagree

[Bklynbadboy12]

Because I think that can only happen if there is no attraction if there is eventually it will turn into something more

[BLP11520]

Yes, I have had several that worked

[Jltakk]

Yeah if I'm not attracted to her, sure.

[Gooddaze]

For sure they can be

[bubblegunnn]

Ofc tho why not

[Pinay_ako]

Definitely

[Bklynbadboy12]

I disagree

[Pinay_ako]

@Bklynbadboy12 ok 👌 😂

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm just saying if you have a a friend and you attracted to him and he's also attracted to you do you honestly think you 2 would remain just friends

[Pinay_ako]

@Bklynbadboy12 yes. I have been in those

[Bklynbadboy12]

@Pinay_ako And you ended up being more than just friends right

[Pinay_ako]

@Bklynbadboy12 nope. Just friends for sure. I don't know about them if they see me the same way.

[jimmy2]

It don't work that way

[Anonymous]

Yes I have many female friends...

[Tina19]

Yes of course

[RavVid]

Sure can.

[Smoothing]

Absolutely.

[darkoflights]

yeah absolutely