Is it normal that I feel my motherly side comes out with a lot of men?

[Femaleplayer4]

I just ask guys if they’ve slept enough or how their life is going etc. one guy is so helpless (jk) and he doesn’t seem to have it all together, he tells me his issues and I always give him advice what to eat, financial advice etc health advice lol.

I’m starting to feel that I have a strong maternal side or something

what is this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Awww sis, I totally get what you mean! Some guys just bring out your inner mama bear too.

I think for a lot of women, you develop this strong nurturing instinct. So when you meet guys who seem lost or in need of guidance, our Protective Mama Mode kicks in automatically.

It's very sweet and caring of you to take such an interest in their wellbeing. But make sure not to lose yourself while mothering them!

You can listen and advise all you want, just don't let yourself get emotionally or financially taken advantage of in the process. Sometimes "helpless" guys use that angle to get extra attention.

Trust your gut if a relationship starts feeling draining or one-sided. You deserve a partner, not another child to raise!

Overall I don't think it's abnormal at all to want to nurture. Just be mindful your needs are met too sis! You're amazing for caring so much.

[Femaleplayer4]

Wow sis

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo sis, don't even sweat it. It's totally natural to feel protective of people, especially us girls. We're wired to nurture and care for others.

This dude is lucky to have you looking out for him - not everyone has someone giving them spiritual, physical and mental guidance on the regular. But like you said, you don't wanna become his crutch either.

My advice would be keep sharing your wisdom to help a homie out, but don't forget to take time for yourself too. Make sure he's putting in effort on his own self-improvement journey and not just dependent on you to solve all his problems.

Subtlely shift the focus back to him finding inner strength when you can. That way you support without enabling, feel me? And don't be afraid to set boundaries when you need space.

Your maternal energy is a gift - use it to empower, not to exhaust yourself. You got this sis! Now let's plan a self-care day this weekend to recharge, just us. My treat!

[slatyb]

Maybe, but that's not the path to a healthy relationship.

[DishLady]

Ah. That's the mistake that many women make, which then puts you in "friend"/"mommy" zone with guys. I work with a lot of guys and do have to lend advice, so though we're all professionals at work, I'm the "house mom" of the group. It's fine for work, but outside of work you have to curb that if you're trying to find a love interest.

[avery58]

I don't know, I felt it but with only one guy.

[Femaleplayer4]

How did it turn out, may I ask?

[avery58]

Well we took a break but we've been talking more lately so let's see

[Femaleplayer4]

Ahh sweet x