I’m 22 but I always loved babies, at a point where I want to be a pediatrician. Every time I see a baby or a toddler I just want to hold him, kiss him and play with him, and most of them always end up liking me. But every time men see me doing this they start to get flirty with me, and ask me for a date. They usually do, but they hit on me more when I play with their little siblings or nephews. When I talked about it with my brother he told me that men were probably wanting me as a mother of their future children and that’s why they were hitting on me more. Can this be true? Deep inside I don’t truly believe in that cause I think that the majority of women are maternal And protective with babies, so I wonder how being maternal truly played a role.
Just cause the majority of women have maternal qualities doesn't mean that can't be the reason why were attrected to it. Your brother is right. Many tend to be more comfortable flirting with you and asking you out in that setting because the underlying catalyzer isn't sex rather relstionship, and its obvious to both parties because of the setting. The guy doesn't have to worry about you thinking he's a sleezeball, removing a lot of the doubt behind flirting or asking someone out. Personally i find it hot af when gals are good with children as long as theyre average looking or better. And even the ones who are not or are still noted like "hey thats good woman, maybe not my cup of tea but thats a good woman". Its just coded into us, and only a few have f up enough childhoods or deviate enough from the genepool to not be affected by it or even worse dislike it.
Being maternal in this day and age is rare, especially to the extent your saying you are. Yes men want that, I imagine its just like when women see paternal men (I love kids, not necessarily babies (they terrify me, I am to freaked out because I'm afraid of dropping them or god knows what else), but I'm great with kids and while I've never been hit on for it, women seem to appreciate it at least)), you want a partner you know will be good with children because that's the point of getting into a relationship really, or at least one of them. So yes maternal women are good, nurturing women are very good (Personally would love to find one but unfortunately I seem to have bad luck in this regard).
Yes it is true that many men especially those who want a family will find a maternal woman more attractive even on a subconscious level couse she will seem like a good mother to their future children. (About the pediatrician thing you said: I have felt the same way until I actually started med school and started seeing deformed, sick and suffering kids so I understood that and kids dying on me would be too mich for my heart to take so I dropped the thought).
Your brother is spot on. At least I agree with him. If I were to see an attractive, kind and gentle woman playing with a child, knowing that she's single, I would certainly be more inclined to go talk to her as opposed to her just sitting reading a book. It's nice to see another person being kind to children since I like children. It's even better when that person could be a potential partner. The first thing that we see in other people is our physical attractiveness to them and then as we observe, we might see other things we like. Kindness, playfulness, a sense of humor and many other desirable qualities. By then, I think we've made up our minds..."Yea, I'm gonna go talk to her"... and that's where you have all these guys flirting with you. Men like women who get along with children because maybe they'll be good mothers to our kids. It's a very desirable quality.
It is common for me to be attracted to women who wish to be a mother or to care for kids as much as you, as quite a few men believe that going as far as having kids with you in a relationship will be the point of no return for you, as some men think that you will have no choice but to stay with him and the baby (s) even if the relationship goes south.
My belief is your probably giving off the signal that your approachable. Not your fault, you probably just really friendly. Remember it's very hard for men to approach women organically. Because they have to be with being turned down. When you open up like that, well they are definitely going to take their shot. Because your probably pretty or really nice with an amazing personality which is super attractive and they just had a mini conversation with you..
yes we are, but for men who don't have kids in former relationship is accepting a child of another man very difficult and a deal breaker for serious relationship option. However don't think this doesn't work another way around. I'm tall and fit but women disappeared after few months when the relationship started to become serious because I have to pay for child support. The world isn't fair and everyone wants the perfect partner.
I agree, yes, we find it attractive. But also be aware of his intentions to. Make sure he's not just hitting on you cause you can take care of an infant/children. So one day down the road he's not just expecting you to take care of an unexpected baby as well as himself at the same time. This should go both ways, is he also a caring person that could take care of himself as well as an infant/child?
It's really personal preference but I believe that they are seeing a future with you and how caring you really are. Some men are attracted to this some aren't but maybe they are seeing that you are a loving person and if it ever did go that far, that you would be a caring mother.
You are perfectly right most of the women are maternal and protective with babies. Men just need women to flirt with maternal or non matetnal is not a part of it. Obviously there are people with diff pov's. So there are men too who ddefinitly wanting you as a mother of their future children. You see only mother of future children and then gets relaxed. Future and family secures with a true caring personality like you. well never mind its just an opinion
Quote "I think that the majority of women are maternal And protective with babies"
Let's say this is true even if just for a moment the thing is not all women shoe that side of and that is why it is so appealing when it comes to dating most people want to show there best side for some it is their figure for others it is their knowledge and if I would have to guess your best side is your maternity and your protective behaviour with babies and hell yeah that is 100% attractive
I don't particularly want a future girlfriend jumping on "baby obsession" coz I don't want kids any time soon. But I must say I do find it endearing when a girl has a natural way with children and animals. It shows she's a nurturing and loving person. Even if I don't want kids, there's no reason I wouldn't want a woman who is nurturing and loving towards ME. (Not in a "motherly" way, settle down wannabe-Freuds lol. Just in a "it's nice to be nice" way)
I think it's true, because personally i don't want a cat woman, that hates babies That's a useless partner... that's just a slut for me that is looking to ride every single d*ck that she can until she gets fat and uglier than a cramp on the face... on the other side a woman that wants to get married and love kids is a lot more worthy, and i would only date or marry a woman with that mindset.
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This doesn't mean shit, this is probably the only even remotely subtle thing a man would pick up on and it could just mean he thinks you will be an easy fuck or easy to fool.
Most people are complete assholes.
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I think it has to do more with opening rather than maternal affection. Babies might give men an opening to approach and talk to you. Like how puppies/dogs provide opening to approach girl/guy walking them.
yes I personally would, I'd say it's my dream to start a family so at the end of the day I find it highly attractive quality that a woman can be a good mother, because I grew up without one
Sure they are. I believe that it is a male instinct to select a maternal woman that would want to build a family lovingly and responsibly. In addition, it is less likely that she hates men too.
I would flirt more, I want to have children and finding a woman that is good with them is a plus. However, Postpartum is a real thing and can change a way a woman acts towards children if it is not being addressed properly.
It’s extremely attractive and beautiful. By corollary, do you happen to be attracted to men who are protective, gentle and strong? (unlike today’s generation of backbone-less hook ups and dumps).
If you can handle and take of the actual baby, then you can take care of the adult baby. Seeing this tells the guys you'd be a good wife and mother and that's why they hit on you more
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