Why does he “check” on me?

[Anonymous]

Why does he message me every once in a while? He’s a shitty texter too. Never slept with him. He knows I like him but I can’t read him. HELP.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, it sounds like this guy might be keeping you on the back burner a little. A few possibilities:

- He likes the ego boost of knowing you're into him, so he hits you up now and then for that.

- He's not fully committed but doesn't want you moving on either in case he changes his mind.

- He may actually like you too but sucks at communication/doesn't want to be vulnerable by admitting it.

The random "checking in" without making plans doesn't seem like he's fully invested. I'd maybe pull back a bit - take longer to reply, be busy when he hits you up, move on with your life. See how he reacts.

If he starts making more of an effort to secure plans and follow through, then maybe he's worth giving a real chance. But for now his half-assed texting gives me "player" vibes sis! You want someone who chooses you, not just keeps you as an option.

Stay confident - you're the prize! His loss if he doesn't step it up. Plenty guys would treat you way better. Don't settle for breadcrumbs Hun!

[DishLady]

He's just letting you know that he's thinking about you. It's usually a sweet gesture, however if it's bothering you then ask him to stop.

[avery58]

He might be nervous or afraid of rejection