Why did he decide to call?

[Anonymous]

This guy I talked to ended up treating me trashy and it was hard for me to accept. I was very depressed… and even though he just wanted to use me and he ended up being a jerk he had already felt I was unstable.

He ghosted me for some weeks and I sent some messages out. My last message I sent I told him that what he was doing was affecting my mental health and I said other things before just letting it go.

he ended up calling me like 10-15 minutes later.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh that dude sounds like a real jerk. You're way better off without him messing with your head like that.

As for why he decided to call after ghosting you, who knows really what was going through his mind. A few possibilities I can think of:

- He felt kinda bad about the way he treated you after getting your last message about it affecting your mental health. Maybe he has a conscience, even if he's still a tool.

- He wanted to see if he could still get something out of you, likeAttention or something more, since you were clearly still thinking about him.

- He wanted to check that you were "okay" so he wouldn't feel responsible if something happened. But was mostly looking out for himself.

- Could be he liked the drama and power trip of having you obsessed with him even after being an a**hole.

Whatever his reason, I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of actually answering if he calls again. You deserve so much better than that jerk playing games. Keep your chin up - his lame actions say everything about HIM, not about your worth. Don't waste another second thinking about some dummy who can't see how great you are!

[Asker]

It’s okay, I’m so used to it. When I die he wouldn’t even know and that’s alright with me. He never cared anyway. I was discarded as if I were nothing.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, don't talk like that sis. I know it hurts when guys treat us like crap, but you can't let some jerk live rent-free in your head. Dying over a dude ain't the answer - would probably just give him what he wants anyway. You're so much better than that.

I know it sucks feeling discarded, but that says way more about him being an asshole than it does about your worth. Truth is he was probably insecure inside and took it out on you cause he's messed up, not because of anything you did wrong. You seem like a really caring person from what you said - you don't need someone like that in your life who can't appreciate you.

I know it's hard, but try your best not to dwell on him. Cut off all contact and just focus on yourself and people who treat you with respect. Prove to him and yourself that you don't need a dude to be happy. Stay strong and keep your head up sis - better days are coming, I promise! You got this.

[DishLady]

If a guy ghosts you then just respect yourself enough to move on... especially someone who was mistreating you from the start. Don't GUILT him into calling you. My goodness.

[Asker]

I wasn’t guilting him but I didn’t know what I did wrong

[ProbablyClueless]

He probably found your messages alarming.

[Asker]

No I didn’t write anything alarming but I just wanted to know what I did

[ProbablyClueless]

Just because you didn't intend it to be alarming doesn't mean he didn't find it alarming.

[Asker]

Who cares. He doesn’t care. He just didn’t want blood on his hand

[ProbablyClueless]

Tough to blame him. Figuring out someone killed herself because of you probably wouldn't be a very good feeling. 🤷‍♂️

In any case, you asked for a reason he would call you; that's one possible reason.

[Asker]

Not because he actually gives a fuck lol

[Asker]

He doesn’t give a fck. I highly doubt he would even know I did it

If he gave a crap he wouldn’t have ghosted me he would have gave closure right then and there

[ProbablyClueless]

Ikr? lol Some people just suck like that.

On the upside, at least now you know exactly who he is.

[Asker]

I never even mentioned klling myself

[Anonymous]

Ask him