If a guy is looking only for sex, can a woman change his behaviour?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

No. One of the most important lessons you can learn in life is that you cannot change other people, and that most people will die with the same morals, values, and priorities they had when they graduated high school. Trying to change a man is like trying to teach a pig to sing: it's a waste of time and it annoys the pig.

Your job is to find a man who is ALREADY the man you want - more specifically, who already has the morals, values, and life-goals that align with yours - and one that you can accept the things about them that you don't like, because you will be dealing with those things forever. That means if you find a great guy, but he leaves his socks on the floor, or leaves the cupboard open, or doesn't put the toilet paper back on the spool, learn to accept that, because it's not going to change, and arguing about it won't change anything.

The big problem is that women always want to choose a bad boy, because they're exciting and interesting, but then they want to change all of his bad behaviors. In the entire history of the human race, that has NEVER worked. Morals and values are the LAST thing that will ever change, so if you don't pick a guy with good ones from the start, then you better get used to having bad ones in your life, because they'll be bad forever - or at least until you end the relationship.

Likewise, if you pick a guy who just wants casual sex, you will NEVER be anything more than casual sex to him. When men tell you these things, BELIEVE THEM. If you choose to dismiss these things because you think you will change him, you are simply living in denial, and you WILL get played and it will be 100% your own fault.

It's a lot more work - work that must be done UP-FRONT, BEFORE you commit - to get a guy with good morals, values, and compatible life-goals, but vetting guys at the beginning and disqualifying all men who don't meet your standards in those areas is the ONLY way you're ever going to get those things. If you don't put in the work, you will virtually always end up just wasting your time on some guy who was never going to give those things to you.

It's also the case that if you just follow your feelings, you will almost always fail. Your feelings don't care one bit about long-term success - they will always encourage you to make extremely short-term decisions even if it brings you long-term disasters. That's why you must always use logic and reason, INFORMED but not LEAD by your feelings, when choosing a partner.

DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

The "thing is" that a woman cannot "change a man's behaviour", what actually she does... she just puts "barriers up", so everytime He does what She doesn't Like, she will make sure that SHE WILL SHOW HIM, that she's NOT HAPPY, with that Action/Decission, so he has to "either" change Tactics, or Drop it all together, which she will be Happy because of that... and later on in "conversation" she Will Take Credit for the "things" that HE DOESN'T DO ANYMORE, as she will brag about how "she changed him"...

Booklover_90 · Accepted Answer

😂😂😂 No. A man has to want to change for  himself.  Since women are naturally nurturers, we think we can change someone. Unfortunately, this is a myth.

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

The only power a person has in this world is that over themselves. You will never change anyone. People change themselves.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

The correct answer is yes.  depending on the guy and what you want to change

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

If she brings enough to the table, sure. Happened to me a few times.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe temporarily. But the guy will ALWAYS revert back to who he is unless he flat out WANTS to change.

shortster · Answer

About as likely as winning the Powerball jackpot.

nawtee_me · Answer

Yes, by giving it to him….

Billlewis · Answer

I think so.

jahaims · Answer

Nope

dudeinohio · Answer

Doubtful

In_Trance · Answer

Lol no

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No not at all

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