Guys, Does he like me?

[shycutegirl24]

I've been friends with this guy for a few years, but I'd love to be more than friends. The last time we hung out in person, I ended up making the move on him, and we had sex. I think we were both pleasantly surprised afterwards. He brings it up in text a lot, and has asked when we're doing that again.

Obviously he liked the sex, but does he like me? I don't want to group them all and say they just want sex, I enjoyed myself too.

Since hooking up, he's been a lot more affectionate in texts. He's also very good at reading my emotional mood and asking if something is wrong, even if I'm trying to hide everything is fine.

I'm just afraid of looking stupid if I tell him I have feelings, and he doesn't feel the same way

[Finchie40]

Have a talk with him and see if he likes you the same way you like him and ask him if he wants a relationship or does he just want sex? If he is keeping in touch with you on a daily basis and complimenting you? He more than likely likes you more than just sex. So you have every right to express your feelings to him and tell him what you are looking for , if he doesn’t want the same thing as you , than you are best to no longer have sex with him and move on.

[shycutegirl24]

We text all day long from morning until night. He's usually the first to drop a good morning text. Sometimes we'll say goodnight, if one of us hadn't already fallen asleep. But I'll have the conversation with him and ask.

[Finchie40]

Then it definitely abounds like he likes you more than just a F buddy , so you are best to open up to him and tell him what you are looking for, however you want to word it , just be open and honest about your feelings for him , he will more than likely want the same , especially if he is calling and texting you on a daily basis , that’s a great sign someone really
Likes you

[shycutegirl24]

Ya I'm going to talk to him this weekend, we have plans. But we do have phone calls a lot. We're really good friends, and I love our friendship. It would just be fun to see more!

[Finchie40]

Well you both are already more than just friends , Friends don’t fuck friends lol

[shycutegirl24]

Don't friends sometimes fuck? Lol

[Finchie40]

If they have an agreement together , like FWB’s but if that wasn’t talked about than you are more than just friends.

[shycutegirl24]

We never talked about an agreement beforehand, and we still haven't had a conversation about it after. We've talked about the sex itself, because he thinks about it quite frequently.

[Finchie40]

Pretty much every guy wants sex with a girl he is attracted to , but the hard part is finding out on whether he is on it for the long haul or the short haul , Us guys’ deal with the same shit with girls’ we have sex with , thinking is she in it for the long haul or short haul? We never know until we have a conversation about it , So by him staying in touch with you and checking in on you and looks forward to seeing you , he more than likely wants more than just sex with you , if he was barely keeping contact with you? Than that pretty much means he just wants sex with you while keeping his options opened. So the only way you will really know for sure , is to talk to him about it

[shycutegirl24]

I know, I get what you're saying. A lot of you have said to just ask. I'm going to. I just wanted to ask on here first, before I look stupid because I misread what anything was or is. I've never gotten the feel he's using me, because really I was the one who initiated and even asked me if I was sure before it went too far.

But he sends me things that made him think of me, and he'll say that. Or if it's really cute and I tell him it's cute, he'll say I knew you'd like it, or that I was going to say that.

[Finchie40]

Than it sounds like he really likes you

[shycutegirl24]

Good, because I know I really like him. A lot.

[Alex-Snow]

You have done everything right. I would casually ask him if he wants to take your relationship to the next level. Have you only had sex with him that one time? Maybe try to go for it again a few more times and see how it goes. Is he ur age?

[shycutegirl24]

It's only been the one time. I have a hard time picking up on signals and things, I get told I'm cute and innocent for overlooking it. But he's 10 years older than me. He's a lot more experienced. He's only my second partner and he knows this.

[Alex-Snow]

Well ask him when you two can get together again. When the time is right ask him if he wants to take it to another level

[shycutegirl24]

I know. That has been the general consensus. The sex was a lot of fun, so fun. We are both on the same page about being very sexual and liking it once a day or more. I just don't wanna mess up our friendship, because I really do love that part of it

[Alex-Snow]

As you know sex can be a wonderful part of a relationship but u need to see if he just wants a friends with benefits relationship or more! Enjoy the great orgasms!!!

[shycutegirl24]

Yes and the orgasms were a 20/10! Also makes me want to snatch him up before someone else does lol

First partner I never had any. I didn't think I could, but with him I had 4. 1 was really intense. I should probably call him 🤣🤣

[Alex-Snow]

I would.. it sounds like the sex was fantastic... don't forget birth control :) Did you go for round 2 with him?

[shycutegirl24]

I'm on birth control and we used a condom (we had been at his place watching tv and talking)

No round 2. I'm not even sure how long we actually went, it was amazing though. He had to stop a few times because he didn't want to finish yet. But he finally asked for permission after my last one 🤭

I would've loved a round 2. Maybe that's why I'm really nervous about finding out what he's actually thinking. If it's just sex to him, I don't think I can. He was always a little affectionate before, but it's increased a lot afterwards.

[Alex-Snow]

Yeaj u need to figure out what he wants out of it... message me if u want to chat some more about it

[shycutegirl24]

I can't message you, it says I'm not a level 2 or whatever. But I'd love to continue a conversation about it

[Alex-Snow]

I'm following u kniow... so u might be able to message me or u might have to wait till level 2... Please stay in touch!

[shycutegirl24]

Of course I'll stay in touch! I don't know how to get to level 2, but I can't wait to fill you all in on what I find out lol

[MisterWack]

Yes, ask him if he feels the same

[shycutegirl24]

I will 😊

[MisterWack]

@shycutegirl24 That-a-girl! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[shycutegirl24]

Thanks lol

I'm really, really nervous. But I guess we'll see what happens. Hopefully it doesn't put him in a weird spot

[MisterWack]

@shycutegirl24 You’ll do fine and all will be good.

[HawkPerception]

Better to be up front with communication when it comes to your feelings. That's the difference between maturity and immaturity in a relationship. Guys can try to make educated guesses with your feelings, but they can never read your mind. If you want to know something, then ask him.

[shycutegirl24]

I'm going to. We have plans this coming weekend, so I'll have a few days to think about things and what I want to say/ask

[HawkPerception]

I wish you luck with it

[DrPepper12]

Relationships take courage and vulnerability. Shoot your shot! Lifes to short!!

[shycutegirl24]

Thanks for the advice! I just hope I can do it

[BetaBucks]

If he increased affection after sex, he wants a relationship. Ask him to go on a real date sometime. I'm almost sure he'll say yes.

[shycutegirl24]

Thanks for the advice! I do really like him, and I love our friendship. I just don't want to stop being friends if he decides he doesn't want anything more

[BetaBucks]

Yeah, that would suck, but if you're fine with just continuing the friendship, I'm sure he will be too. Especially if there are some occasion benefits. Good luck!

[shycutegirl24]

I'll take the friendship but leave the benefits behind lol

That gets to messy from what I've seen. I'd rather have him as just a close friend then

[spartan55]

You have to be vulnerable to enjoy the rewards of a loving committed relationship. There is no way around it.

[shycutegirl24]

That makes sense. Someone else said to have the conversation in person with him. I'm just not sure what to say, or even how to bring it up. It'd be so much easier if he said something, but it's been months and I don't see that happening

[spartan55]

Absolutely in person. By text is lame af. Did you know texting only gives about 30% of your interpersonal message to the receiver?

[shycutegirl24]

I know texting isn't the best means of communication, wasn't aware it was only 30% interpersonal. You learn something new everyday!

He sends a lot of voice messages now, instead of texting. Which I've since reciprocated. I like the voice ones a lot!

[spartan55]

That's a little better, but you still don't get to see body language.
Interpersonal message consists of: verbal (the actual message), voice tone/inflection, and body language.

[shycutegirl24]

Makes sense! It's interesting because my girl friends have said text, but you men are saying in person. In person it shall be then! When, I'm not sure. I need to grow a pair first 😅

[spartan55]

Let me leave with this about rejection. Most guys (myself included) learn to handle rejection at a young age (14 for me) Unless they never want to have a girlfriend. Anyway, rejection is NOT the end of the world. It sucks, it's embarrassing, it's soul crushing and all of that. But then the next day comes and it's no big deal. After you go through a few times it barely affects you. The first time a girl said yes when I asked her out was the best feeling. It made being rejected however many times a distant memory.

[shycutegirl24]

Thanks!

[spartan55]

Good luck!

[QuietRunner]

he does

he feels more of a connection with the sex

[shycutegirl24]

So sex gave him more of a connection to me?

[QuietRunner]

yes it did

[shycutegirl24]

Interesting. We've only done it once, but he's talked about it every month since. He's the second partner I've had, so I'm very inexperienced when it comes to does someone see it as FWBs or possibly a relationship

[Avicenna]

Someone will have to take the chance. I would ask him where you stand with him and see what he says.

[shycutegirl24]

Text or in person? I just wish it'd be him that asks, seeing how I'm the one that's incredibly shy and I already really put myself out there lol

[Avicenna]

In person is much better, because you will be able to observe his body language.

He will probably be content to stick to hookups unless you demand a relationship.

[shycutegirl24]

Hmmm that's actually a valid point. I wouldn't say demand, but I get what you're saying. I don't want to just be a hookup, especially because I think I'd be the one with hurt feelings in the end.

In person is going to be hard, but I'll try and do it.

[Avicenna]

Good luck, and we're proud of you for being courageous enough to do it!

[shycutegirl24]

Awe thank you

[Avicenna]

You're welcome- you got this!

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex. It was usually courtship and marriage. Women wanted freedom and equality. This is what freedom and equality looks like.

[shycutegirl24]

Your comment is coming from a different place. I'm not asking if sex made him like me. I'm trying to figure out how he feels and if we're wanting the same thing. I take no issue if he is just looking for hookups. It would just not personally work for me, since I've grown attached.

But the bullshit comment about freedom and equality is garbage. Hookups and just sex isn't anything new. You make it sound like it's women's fault for hookup culture.

[MrGSpotHer]

It sounds likely he likes you but most of these questions can't be answered here you have to talk, it still don't mean he will be honest

[shycutegirl24]

True. But like someone else said, try for a date with no sex. We'll see if he's into it

[MrGSpotHer]

Well you said you have been friends for a while so I'm guessing it will be okay maybe

[Dongie]

If you were already tight friends then YEAH. You both love each other. Step it up.

[shycutegirl24]

Working on it! Would be nice if he'd also jump in and say something lol

[Dongie]

He's on here?😲🤫

[Dongie]

Good luck or happy hunting.

[shycutegirl24]

No. I just mean it would be nice if he'd actually say what he's thinking and wants. He's the one who thought about what I looked like naked the first time we met haha

[Dongie]

Well, naked can be a cute look for some. He's probably worried about screwing up a good friendship. I can relate. Boy, can i. Let him know you're all in. Shit, go for it.

[shycutegirl24]

I know our friendship isn't the same, nor will it be. I do think we'd be very good together though. Even from the first time we met, it was an instant connection like we had known each other for a really long time. It's always been a really easy and effortless friendship

[Dongie]

That's cool. Like you can see forever in their eyes.

[shycutegirl24]

Exactly that. We didn't even realize the time the first time we hung out. We had spent 8 hours together but it went by so fast

[Dongie]

Yep, I wish I could meet some fuckin body. About 53 and sexy. They're aĺl married at this age. Or go older and widowed.

[shycutegirl24]

Awe I hope you find someone 😊

[Dongie]

Me too. It would be so nice.

[KelsoAlexander]

you already fucked him and if he cares after then go for it just remember ride like its a rodeo

[shycutegirl24]

Ride like a rodeo?

[KelsoAlexander]

you know, yee haw lol

[shycutegirl24]

🙈🙈

Oooooooh lord 😅

[KelsoAlexander]

lol there you go, now you get it

[Twalli]

Ask him on a date. If he wants more than just sex he'll want the date.

[shycutegirl24]

Working on it! This weekend I'm going to talk to him

[Twalli]

Make sure you don't have sex after the date. If you fo he still may just be after sex. If you want to be close to him just cuddle.

[shycutegirl24]

We've been hanging out since and doing other things since sex. But I'll try to not have sec after a date, even though it's super tempting 😅

[Twalli]

Not after the first date, you can once you figure out if he likes you or just wants sex.

[shycutegirl24]

Ok, ok. But I'm going to think about it in my head at least 🤣

[Twalli]

Of you're really into him and he's affectionate, cuddling can be better.

[shycutegirl24]

Agreed, but we've already done that as friends lol

[MasterKS]

The way it turns into sex sounds its just sex nothing more than that!

[shycutegirl24]

You could be right. Like everyone else has said though, I have to ask him

[MasterKS]

@shycutegirl24 if he honest he also say so!

[shycutegirl24]

Huh?

[MasterKS]

@shycutegirl24 its just for sex!

[shycutegirl24]

Well, only one way to find out. I'll ask. Better to have my feelings hurt now then after months and months of sex.

[MasterKS]

@shycutegirl24 you fucking from months?

[shycutegirl24]

No just the 1 time. I just meant it's best I ask now, and not wait until it leads to more and more sex.

[MasterKS]

@shycutegirl24 dont you want more sex?

[shycutegirl24]

If it came with a relationship, then yes. But I don't want to just be someone's friends with benefits or whatever.

[MasterKS]

@shycutegirl24 you enjoyed the sex?

[shycutegirl24]

Yes. We were both pleasantly surprised

[MasterKS]

@shycutegirl24 followed you!

[boggboss]

Just tell him h would like yo go on a date or u want it to mean more then just sex u already fucked him how could it be any worst

[shycutegirl24]

He's hard to read sometimes. One minute it feels like I've been friendzoned again, but the next he'll be overly affectionate like a partner would be. It's confusing. Maybe he just enjoys playing the field. I know it can't be any worse if I just ask/tell him. It's just the rejection part that I hate, that we all hate. I guess I'm mentally and emotionally prepping myself for it

[boggboss]

What's the fear of rejection compared to the fear that he is leading u on just so he can fuck you

[RavVid]

Sometimes we all need to be brave.

[shycutegirl24]

True 😊

[HH1488]

I doubt it. You gave it up easy and didn't have strings. You are just a slam piece or a friend's with benefits until he finds a pure virgin wife

[shycutegirl24]

Yes 2 years of being friends and I gave it up easy. Yup. It's been months since we had sex, I don't think that classifies as either a slam piece or friends with benefits.

And a virgin wife, ok lol

[HH1488]

He pumped and dumped. You don't have to convince me you ain't shit.

[shycutegirl24]

Well that's really hurtful. I'm a person who has feelings. Please go away

[HH1488]

Hurt feelings are a you thing. As in you fucked up. What you ate, doesn't make me shit. Make better decisions slut.

[shycutegirl24]

I don't understand how I'm a slut? For falling for my friend? And I didn't fuck up, I have no regrets, and I enjoyed every fucking second of what I did. Incel pig.

[HH1488]

I've had sex 276 times this year and there has only been like 180 days in it. Your crying to strangers on the internet and getting mad because the truth hurts.

[shycutegirl24]

Weird flex, but ok

[MacDaddyRico]

I think he feels the same way.

[shycutegirl24]

Feels the same way about wondering if I like him, and worried I'll reject him?

[MacDaddyRico]

I think he has feelings for you too.

[shycutegirl24]

Thanks. Guess I'll try and find out. Not sure when I'm going to ask, but I'm definitely not hooking up until I find out

[MacDaddyRico]

You already hooked up, and since then he's been a lot more affectionate in texts. He's also very good at reading your emotional mood and asking if something is wrong, even if you're trying to hide everything.

[shycutegirl24]

This is very true. It would just be easier if he went the route of saying how he feels. But I know it works both ways. I just need that extreme confidence I had when I made the move, which really shocked him.

He's joked around about me having a secret boyfriend I'm hiding from him. I don't have one. But occasionally I'll get hit on, I don't ever really notice because I just assume everyone is being nice and friendly. But he'll call them creeps

[SotiCoto]

Nope.

[shycutegirl24]

Ok then lol