Guys, does he like me?

Question

I had a really amazing first date with this guy 3 days ago, we hung out for 5 hours, got drinks, and went to a viewpoint and it went by so fast. very good vibes between us the entire night. he kissed me goodnight & texted me when he got home after dropping me off and let me know he had a great time. we also mutually agreed that we’d go out again soon but I haven’t heard from him since we went out. is it a red flag if he hasn’t texted me in 3 days? we both work full time and he has mentioned that he’s not big on texting, but I’m new to dating so not sure what’s normal

Lliam · Accepted Answer

My first date with my future wife went similarly. I paid for the meal at the nice restaurant and we talked for hours. It's a funny story.

Two days later, she called. I was surprised to hear from her.
She said some friends had offered her two tickets to a concert and she wondered if I would be interested in going.
It was the Rolling Stones and Red Hot Chili Peppers.
I was thrilled. Of course I was interested!
The thing is, she knew I was a rocker, but she wasn't. So I'm not sure if someone actually happened to offer her tickets or if she heard about the concert and decided to ask if I wanted to go before buying tickets. It was probably the former. She had probably been telling her friends about me.
Either way, I admired her courage in calling me and her initiative in coming up with that brilliant idea.

We went to the concert about a week or so later and had a great time. Walking from the car to the arena, she slipped her little hand trustingly into mine and we held hands throughout most of the concert.

After that, I set up another date and, at that point, we decided to start dating exclusively.

I'm not suggesting that you ask him to a concert. They are expensive these days. But you might think of something that you know he enjoys, call him up, and invite him.

Guys like initiative. A little push lets them know that you are genuinely interested.

GoodEnoughThen · Accepted Answer

Maybe he's following some old dating rule, like wait 72 hours after the first date. Whatever, you don't have to wait for him to contact you. You can send him a text or call him if you're interested. If he's still interested then he'll be delighted that you reached out first. Regardless, don't overthink it as you've only been on one date. I know, that can be hard to do with the newness and excitement. :)

exitseven · Answer

3 days,? I know people today are used to instant gratification but maybe he is busy with work. When I was younger there was a 3 day rule. You had to wait at least 3 days before you called a girl for a second date or else you would look desperate

LeQuebecois · Answer

If I'm interested in someone I text them to make certain they get home. I definitely am not going to ignore them for three days. Of course I have no idea how younger men act.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That seems fairly normal, especially since he told you that he isn't big on texting. He probably won't text you again until he wants to set up another date.

Guido · Answer

Sounds like you had a good date. Give it some time. 3 days is not that long

In_Trance · Answer

Chill

Danny_dan92 · Answer

He’s not interested. Did he try to push for sex but you told him you wanted to wait?

Solo3k · Answer

Guys are straight forward. If he says he doesn't like texting then that's what it is. How about you just text him if you wanna see him so badly instead of wasting time