Do you think he purposely hanged by the other side of my building?

[Anonymous]

So there was this guy who would purposely be at places that I will be, he would sit at the bus stop near my building. So I started to take the route on the other side of my building and today I saw him with his friend. The stalking stopped for awhile. For like two weeks. Then today I saw him on the other entrance of my building. Do you think he did it on purpose or is it only chance

[BetaBucks]

There's no way for us to know if this is coincidence couple with paranoia, or if this is you being stalked. Do you have any more context to add?

[Asker]

Well, this guy used to purposely bump into me, for a month he would do this everyday. He recently stoppped, perhaps he thought I was annoyed or he found someone else to stalk. And we spoke to each other a year ago and exchanged numbers.

[BetaBucks]

How do you mean that he purposely did it? What was the situation each day?

[Asker]

Well he followed me to mcdonalds then when I came out from the bathroom, I saw him standing there staring at me and then he sat down. Another time he saw me at tims, and I walked back to my building through the mall, and when I almost reached my building I saw him sitting at the bus stop, then his friend said hi to me. Ever since he saw that I lived in the building, he would sit near that bus stop. but then he stopped for two weeks now, I guess I gave off signals I was avoiding him

[BetaBucks]

This doesn't really sound like an everyday thing. Does he still call or text you?

[Asker]

it was, it occured everyday either he was sitting at that bus stop or he was on his bike and when I walked out my building he would pass me and when he bumped into me he would swerve his bike infront of me and stare at me. He texted and called before but he doesn't anymore. Well a year ago I wore a mask so he probably doesn't want to get the wrong girl

[BetaBucks]

Him sitting in a stationary location isn't him stalking you. You live at the same building so you will see each other regularly. Just like how I see my neighbors every day. Because we live in the same neighborhood. If he's staring at you, it's a real issue. Swerving your bike in front of someone after you pass them is what you're supposed to do so you don't block the other side of the pathway. Following you to McDonald's if he wasn't going to eat is a real issue. If that's what happened.

Going back to the original question, him being on the other side of the building he lives in, is not an indication of anything. I've spent time on all sides of every building I've ever lived in. Has definitely had some concerning behavior, but also has some completely normal behavior. If anything, your guess is going to be better than mine.

[Asker]

No he said he lived in a house lol. "Him sitting in a stationary location isn't him stalking you" I guess thats true lol but i mean he never sat there, until he saw me going to my building one day and I saw him too. And he swerved his bike infront of me like about to hit me but then away from me.

[Asker]

Anyway, I think I will continue to avoid him. I actually liked him, I was trying so hard to get over him, then today I see him again and then feelings are coming back and this overthinking.

[Asker]

How can I get over him when we bump into eachother, and I take the bus

[BetaBucks]

My bad, I thought he was in the same apartment complex. Are there houses right next to the complex? But even so, if he only started using that bus stop after that day, I'd say this is an issue too. Is this guy homeless though? If he's always sitting there, but not getting into the bus, I'd wonder if he actually has a home. Or a job.

[BetaBucks]

It might be hard to avoid him, but it sounds like you're better off doing so. Even if you liked him. Something is definitely not normal about him.

[Asker]

Yeah, he has a lot of free time because I saw him everyday. I think he does drugs. I'm not sure if he's homeless. I really try to avoid him because I see not future with him because he does drugs but I hate being reminded everytime I see him. What do you think is the best way

[BetaBucks]

Lmao you should probably move. And never give your number to drug addicts again. I'm sorry you're stuck in this situation though.

[Asker]

lol right now i'm in debt and dont have a job so I live with my parents. Yes so I will probably see him all the time.

[Asker]

i need help, how can i get over him if I see him often even when i try to avoid

[BetaBucks]

By continuing to avoid him. And talking to men that aren't drug addicts that are possibly homeless

[spartan55]

Yeah, his whole world revolves around you.

[Asker]

sarcasm?

[DishLady]

Nope.