My boyfriend of seven years wants to record women at the beach?

[SamanthaSamantha99]

My boyfriend of seven years wants to record women at the beach so he can become a millionaire. I told him that it is creepy and pervy. (I know it is legal,) but it upsets me that he is like this. He said he can either record women half-naked or record me. When I told him I don't want to be on the internet like that, he said he would have to get rid of me. Is it normal for men to think this way?

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+1 y

To be honest he's always been like this but I was hoping he would change I know it's stupid but I am unable to leave him because he provides financially and we have one child together. I've been unhappy for a long time but I can't leave. I got with him when I was two months from turning 18 and a virgin and he's 10 years older than me. My hormones got in the way so yeah my dad told me be happy or change my situation I've tried leaving him in the past and keep ending up back with him so this is it

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+1 y

Thank you all for your comments. I will no longer be engaging in any further discussion on this topic

[SueShe]

It is time to get rid of that pervert. Even if he was just joking, it is something that has been brewing in his mind and he will not stop until he can realize his sexual fantasy.

The problem is that he will also take pictures of children and that makes him something like a sexual criminal because he will not be able to make the difference between a child aged 17 years and 364 days from an adult of 18 years and 0 day.

Thus, he is willing to waste 7 years of relationship with you simply because of his perverted kink.

You deserve better. You deserve a person with dignity and self-esteem and not a perverted potential sexual offender.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I'm with Sue on this one. I'm typically not one to kink shame, but this one's creepy. As open minded as I am, even I wouldn't accept this from my partner; large part for the same reasons SueShe stated.

[avery58]

If a man loves you why would he record you half naked for other guys to see and make money off of your body?

[WindAtMyBack]

He's too lazy to work and make money the proven way. He wants to take shortcuts and it's clouding his thinking. He thinks it will be easy money, but it won't. Most likely he'll lose a bunch of money trying it.

"Is it normal for men to think this way?"

It's pretty normal for both men and women to want to take short cuts. In his case he probably thinks it would be cool to record a bunch of women. People have been immunized with all the porn on the Internet. He probably really doesn't see anything wrong with it. The thing is that there are a lot of people who would agree with him on that.

[SamanthaSamantha99]

He has a job but has said it is so easy for women to become rich (only fans) I told him that's because men and women aren't equal in my opinion and he should try and become a millionaire not being creepy and he said he doesn't care as long as he gets rich

[WindAtMyBack]

He's vastly over estimating how easy it is to get rich. He sees Insta women and OF women get rich and thinks it's easy. It's not. Only a tiny percentage get rich. It's not even possible for a large percentage to get rich, because the money would be spread too thin.

Anyway, it's all about taking short cuts, with no regard for whether it's right or wrong. It's not difficult to get rich by doing it the normal way (depending on how you define rich). But people are too lazy and too undisciplined to do it.

[Finchie40]

No that’s not normal , and it’s valid proof that he doesn’t really appreciate you or value you , he just likes the convenience of you , if he truly valued you and appreciated you , he wouldn’t even consider doing anything like this whatsoever , It’s disrespectful and shows what kind of person he truly is , selfish and disrespectful , How would he feel if you wanted to take videos of half naked men? So I can’t tell you what to do , but if I was in your shoes? I would be single again.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Wait a sec... He said he'd have to get rid of you for not wanting to appear naked on the internet?

What I want to know is, why there wasn't a you shaped hole in the wall as you legged it away from him as fast as you could go!

[spartan55]

He knows you aren't going anywhere. That's he's throwing wild inappropriate ideas like that around. He won't change, and it won't get better. I don't buy that you can't leave. You just don't want to be uncomfortable. Another age gap relationship that is not screwed up.

[spartan55]

*IS screwed up

[SamanthaSamantha99]

Oh yeah? And where will I go?

[spartan55]

Friends, family, get your own place? You don't just throw up your hands and give up.

[SamanthaSamantha99]

Nah, I'm good. Thanks for the suggestions though. If I was giving up, I would've been dead already. Everything happens for a reason. If God wanted me somewhere else, he would've made it difficult for me to find my way back when I left my boyfriend two months ago

[spartan55]

Yeah sure. You really really shouldn't be complaining at all. You've always known he's an asshole. You had a child with him for some reason. You don't want to leave. Stop griping about it.

[spartan55]

And no, everything doesn't happen for a reason.

[SamanthaSamantha99]

I asked a question. Not to be judged on why I have chosen to stay 😐

[hahahmm]

Okay, so you wasted 7 years on a dead end relationship. Sometimes it happens. Just dump him and find a better guy.

[MikeTheBartender]

Sorry you have a grammatical error (s) in your question... I'll fix it...

My EX boyfriend of seven years wanted to record women at the beach.

All done ❤️

[MicahRaine]

What the. . . on behalf of the Society of Men, we do NOT endorse or accept such behavior.

But seriously, that's crazy. Dump his dumb ass ASAP. You can (and more importantly, should) do MUCH better than him, guaranteed.

[DryGermanGuy]

Awesome guy. 🙄 Chances are he gets his nose broken by an angry beach jock before he becomes a „millionaire“.

[BTigers96]

Lol... no it's not normal.

Break up with him now. He's a total creeper.

[hahahmm]

Yeah & the thing is that behaviors tend to start out small and then escalate as the person tests your boundaries. Today it's take a picture. Tomorrow it's "do porn with the football team"

[Staximus]

No, this it not "it". You can leave any time. I don't know why you would have a kid with a scumbag like that in the first place.

[SamanthaSamantha99]

I was upset from my miscarriage and tried right away for my son

[SamanthaSamantha99]

The first pregnancy was accidental let's just say I conceived with my very first cream pie on my 18th birthday. I never wanted kids but planned to keep he/she. I was upset about losing the baby and tried again

[genericname85]

how the fuck is recording women on the beach supposed to make him a millionaire? like how is he gonna make money with this?

[Alex-Snow]

That is kinda weird... I think you can do better. Is it messing up ur sex life after he said this stuff?

[standardguy]

I dont understand if he makes a movie ofte women at the beach that he will gain that much money. Besides the women can accuse him because they weren't giving him the consent to do so.

[shortster]

Technically, you need to get permission to film others for commercial purposes. Also he is a terrible person and you should find someone better.

[SamanthaSamantha99]

Really?

[shortster]

Yes, they can sue you if you don't.

[shortster]

Did you have sex with him before you turned 18?

[SamanthaSamantha99]

Age of consent is 16 in my state

[shortster]

That is typically for people who are 19 or 20; not 28.

[exitseven]

It may be legal but he will probably get punched out.

[Iron_Man]

Are you sure he’s not kidding around with you?

[SamanthaSamantha99]

I've been with him for 7 years he is not joking

[Iron_Man]

I have a serious conversation don’t allow it

[SamanthaSamantha99]

I'm not allowing it tbh our relationship has been rocky for a long time he doesn't like being told no. He'll probably try and do it secretly

[Iron_Man]

if he does a sickly then discipline him

[Iron_Man]

Secretly

[SamanthaSamantha99]

😂 discipline him how?

[Iron_Man]

Act like you’re busy don’t talk a lot. Don’t set up a lot of dates be distance for a while. He’ll get the point.

[SamanthaSamantha99]

I live with him

[Iron_Man]

Then move out for a while see how he likes it maybe he will change

[Iron_Man]

I would never want my girlfriend going to the beach and taking pictures that would really infuriate me I won’t tolerate it

[Wise4myage]

He's doing t hat for one reason, and that should be obvious.

[nawtee_me]

You need their permission to post them on the internet

[Anonymous]

Leave him and get the cops to put a note on his file

[MasterKS]

I still dont know why some woman stick with such asshole dudes!

[rachel776]

how do u become a millionaire doing that

[RavVid]

Ah give me some think time... that would be a NO.

[ChicoFromThe305]

No it's not normal, that's an L mans

[noohair]

It took 7 years to find out he is an asshole?

[SamanthaSamantha99]

He's always been one

[woahhh152]

Wow! What a jerk! You deserve better

[Bklynbadboy12]

Is he gonna record them with out there permission

[Fireguy17]

Sure he does

[In_Trance]

Dump him

[Anonymous]

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