If a guy invites you on a date out with his friends how is he supposed to treat you?

[melaniegonza]

i went on date once with a guy who had invited me out with his friends (the first date) and i was excited to meet him and his mates. when we met up he was fully engaged with his friends while i was sidelined and he would mostly leave me out of excluded me but would come around and slightly talk with me (by talk i mean a simple phrase).

i thought guys act different with friends so i thought maybe it’s because his pals are around, but why? is is difficult for them to include us or prioritise the date and try to make us comfortable and included? i’m a bit shy and even i would try to make an effort if i had invited a guy out with my friends. he also was on his bike riding around for hours while i had to a stand holding his bag, how unromantic lol. this is also a guy who apparently was in love with me (so he says on the phone).

so how is he supposed to properly treat you? or is the behaviour typical and just male behaviour?

Updates

1 y

i had a few hours that day of just us 2 alone and he was on his phone the whole time

[Makeushiver]

He is supposed to make you feel included at most times. Not going to hang out with his buds and making you feel uncomfortable in any way. Guys tend to need the reinforcement with the gang they hang out with, often they are guys who he's been hanging with for a long time. A good way to determine how emotionally mature he is is his willingness to separate himself from his buds and refocus his attention. Some guys take longer to make that break than others. One big faux pas to beware of is of he needs his friends to know how far sexually advanced your relationship is. Many guys who are just getting out of high school are not yet capable of bringing their attention to the appropriate parties. Staying in touch with friends sometimes requires an evening out but it shouldn't be often and it shouldn't be approval seeking

[EmmaMary]

Sadly you've found yourself with a pathetic, lowlife, juvenile delinquent... Huge Red Flag... Quickly dump this idiot and move on swiftly with your life... Good Luck. 💕

[HumbleDragon]

No this isn’t typical male behavior. This is typical little boy behavior. You’re both young so don’t worry about it so much. You can do better than him.