Adding his humber while he's with someone else?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy I grew up with, he's amazing. Should i add his phone number even though he's living with his girlfriend?

[_Maya_]

Well that all depends. What are your intentions? If you are just looking to be friends and don't have romantic feelings for him (and I mean none) then yeah that's fine. Have him talk to his girlfriend if that makes everyone feel better about it. I'm assuming that she knows about you. The one part that makes me nervous is you said "he's amazing". I don't want to jump to conclusions but on the surface that sounds to me that you like him more than friends even if you won't admit it. If you can't respect their relationship or feel like at some point you would be too tempted to get more involved with him than just friends then do yourself a favor and don't add him and avoid the temptation.

[Asker]

I do like him, but I do NOT plan on using his phone number as an excuse to call and text him. Can I dm you?

[_Maya_]

Sure, you can DM

[RebelinSteel]

Okay, think of this from a different angle, you are dating a guy, really into each other. How would you feel if a girl from his past adds him to her mobile and calls or texts him (you only had people to mobile if you are going to call or text them). Have a long think on how you would feel when that happened and what you would say to your guy. Personally getting involved with a couple is never a good thing.

let’s say you do add him, you text him, he texts back but then you text again but this times it’s waiting 2 days for his response and it’s bland. I am really bad at messaging back, I have about 3 messages on WhatsApp from Thursday I need to reply to. Personally you need to talk to both him and her, be open with it and accept they are a couple and don’t expect anything else. If you can’t to that, then don’t add his number.

[Asker]

I dont wanna call and text him. She is a serial cheater.

[RebelinSteel]

If you are not going to call or text him, we add his number, makes no sense.

[Asker]

Can I dm you?

[Asker]

In my country there's an app that tells you who added your number. He has it. I just want him to see I have his number in case things with his gal mess up

[AviatorTom]

There's nothing wrong with having someone's number. It's what you do with it.

If he's living with his girlfriend, he is "taken" and you shouldn't try to establish a relationship. But if it's just to be his friend and occasionally talk, that's fine. Or maybe he's a neighbor and you would like him to watch your pet while you are gone for a few days.

[Asker]

He is my neighbour, I'm not gonna text him or anything I just wanna add his number. His girl is a serial cheater. She had cheated on him multipule times in the past and probably does it now.(he knows about all the cheating, yet chose to get back to her and even move in together. I must admit, I do want him to be with me but I dont plan to use his number to help it.

[Asker]

Can I dm you?

[Firestar01]

Nope. Don't be *that* person.

[Asker]

Why?

[Firestar01]

Because you have nothing to gain from it. If he ignores you, you made a fool out of yourself. If he shows interest, then he's a bad apple to begin with.

[jahaims]

Nope

[Asker]

Why?