We split long back coz he didn't want a relation. Now he is acting all weird. Is he planning to come back?

[Anonymous]

We loved each other but more like a push and pull. When one push the other run away. I got tired of this humiliation and started minding my own business.

After that it was like I send him a follow request and he text me back or he send me one and I text him and eventually ghost. It was more of an ego boost. It was like he keeps read receipts off to see he has read and turn them back onn to check if I have read. Or other times a complete jerk. He often gaslight me and I decided to live my life.

Now a good time has passed. I am living my life in a big MNC. I have good friends, colleagues and life. I am blooming to the best version of me.

I accepted this position despite knowing he works there in my department since I was laid off, months salary pending and this was simply the best offer to me. My work now allows me to travel and get paid wrt the country I am going. This helped me earn higher than my CTC.

Anyhow at work I completely ignore him. Largely coz I don't want the trauma and I am hating him for playing his narc game on me.

However he seems to be all into me. He looks at me, cares about the minutest thing I like but not mention, try to talk, do things I absolutely hate (talk loudly or chew with sound), drop things near my table to come pick that up just to grab my attention. Moreover he seems to care beyond a colleague when I talk to other guys or angry stares when I smoke as reported by my fellow friends. They also say he smiles at me ONLY when we cross paths. I ignore him. Also he tells everyone that we are friends with a silent tone of Im only his'. When we were together he doesn't even acknowledge knowing me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Listen girl, this whole situation sounds pretty messy and confusing. It sounds like in the past, this guy really took you for a ride with his hot and cold behavior. You don't deserve to be strung along or mind games like that.

That said, it does kinda seem from what you described like maybe he still has some lingering feelings if he's paying this much attention to what you're doing and who you talk to. Guys don't usually stare and try to get your attention that much platonically. But at the same time, his behavior in the past was definitely not cool either.

I think the best thing is definitely to keep ignoring him for now since you're not interested in going back. But you could also try paying subtle attention to see if he makes any actual moves - like asking you to grab coffee just the two of you to talk. That would give you a better idea of what he really wants.

If he never openly admits how he feels and just keeps these stupid games up, I'd say forget about him for good. You don't deserve the confusion and mixed signals. But give it a bit more time to see if he man's up at all. Just be careful not to let yourself get hurt again! You're doing great living your best life - don't let some guy drag you back down 💪

[devilish-cutie]

He is not planing to come back and ignore him still. If he was planing anything he shall make it clear like ask you on a coffee or something. Besides with people like that it never works out. Im sorry but thats the truth, I've been there. Its hard but the only right thing is to ignore him. This is not a man you can count on and I bet you desire stability and reassurance. He could never be able to give you that.

[Danny_dan92]

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