I’m a stalker, please help?

[Anonymous]

When I was 14, this guy came and talk to me first, he was very nice and mysterious and I fell for him, we start texting and I was clingy and annoying so he blocked me not even a week after I think. Well I was hurt and i made a promise to myself if he ever tries to talk to me I will ignore him like I don’t want anything to do with him and I wanted to forget him then I start stalking his profile which leads me to all his socials I was out to get him. 2 years after he blocked me I created a fake account with him calling him bitch and all words in the book and even though he reported them I created even more insulting his physical appearance, his life and made him feel miserable, of course he didn’t know it was me it felt good at the moment like taking out all my anger towards him, afterwards he figured out it was me cause I wanted him to know too, he hates me and he complained to my family about me and his mom too, it was embarrassing and he said he reported me to the cops. I didn’t contact him ever after that but I still do check his profile, had his pictures, walk down his street one night, stalk people who he follows, right now I have a stalker and I realize how he feels, and I feel bad for what I put him through, I am a horrible person and I would run from me if I was him, I wish if I could tell him that I sorry but I can’t because he already said he reported me to the police so one day I ask god to forgive me and grant him the best. The problem is that I never saw myself as the bad person only as a victim because he blocked me. He was trying to tell me that all the time but I never listened, now I see it how delusional I am. And I got karma cause now I have a stalker and I feel so frustrated and uncomfortable, I will forget about him completely and leave him alone.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow sis, that stalking situation was waaaay out of line. I can understand being hurt and liking someone, but the fake accounts and harassment crossed so many boundaries. Good that you see that now!

The best thing to do is leave him completely alone like you said. I also think it would help you to talk to a counselor - they can help work through what caused you to lash out like that and give better coping mechanisms for the future.

You're still young so there's lots of growth ahead. But you've gotta commit fully to changing your ways now. No more checking up on him online either - a full cutoff is needed.

Focus instead on developing healthy self-esteem not tied to any guy's approval. Join clubs, spend time with supportive friends. Build a fulfilling life so you don't get obsessive like that again.

Mistakes don't define you unless you repeat them. Show through actions over time that you're becoming wiser and more mature. Hopefully with therapy you can even someday forgive yourself. You got this sis!

[Finchie40]

Stop stalking people , that’s some crazy shit and you could get into some deep shit if you don’t stop. I had a few stalker girls’ some were cute by the way they stalked me because they weren’t extreme over it. and some were completely insane. I reported 2 of them to the police and luckily I haven’t heard from them since. The good thing is you admitted to stalking , so you are on the right path to not stalk again. No one is worth that much effort to get yourself in trouble with , whether they hurt you or not , move on from that person , if they wanted you in their life , they wouldn’t be blocking you period. only be clingy to someone that is clingy back to you , never be a convenience to anyone , find someone that makes you a priority the same way you make them yours.

[Viking_Girl19]

I don't consider you a stalker. It's just that sometimes in any relationship you have to have the last word. And he took away this opportunity from you by blocking you. Your emotions were building up and in this way you released them. What he told his parents and reported to the police shows what a worthless idiot he is. He is simply not worth you!!! Forget about him.

Love yourself!! Appreciate yourself!! There are many boys, but you are unique.

[Asker]

Thanks girl it means a lot ❤️ you made me laugh too, I invested so much time and energy towards him and it never benefited me.

[Viking_Girl19]

I'm happy if make you feel better ❤️

[Viking_Girl19]

Remember, no guy is worthy of your strength, tears, energy, feelings, etc. You have to be able to love yourself. And then the boys themselves will run after us !!! haha.

[Viking_Girl19]

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[Anonymous]

Lol. It’s always the poorer party who stalks the rich party. Never seen the stalker being a rich girl or guy

[Asker]

What do you mean rich girl or guy?

[razelove]

TLDR. My wife stalked me for a while before she approached me. I didn't even notice her. She did confine it to only following me at school though, so I thought that was acceptable.

The sexy nerd girl hiding under layers is always the most dangerous...

[blondfrog]

Wow a stalker who admits they are a stalker. That's a rare find. Well at least acceptance is the first step. So your almost cured already from not stalking anymore.

[teamvic]

Uhhh what do you want help for exactly?

you're just venting

[Asker]

I am venting but also asking for help

[teamvic]

I am aware... but with what? You want help with the stalker?

[Asker]

Like how to live my own life and focus on myself

[noohair]

Karma bites hard. Learn from your mistakes.