Condoms and love?

[Anonymous]

If you wore condoms with your wife/girlfriend when you first started dating, at what point did you stop using them? Does love/trust effect whether or not you continue using them?

[SolitarySolace]

I don't do sex so I have no need for condoms. But I'm just going to say this for any men out there who happen to agree...


Women gain power over men through having sex with them.



1. Emotional Manipulation


• Using Sex to Control Emotions: A woman might withhold or grant sexual intimacy based on how a man behaves, effectively using sex as a way to manipulate his emotions. This creates an unhealthy dynamic where one partner feels the need to conform to certain behaviors to maintain the sexual relationship.


2. Creating Dependency


• Fostering Emotional Dependence: By encouraging deep emotional attachment through sexual intimacy, a woman may create a scenario where the man becomes emotionally dependent on her, making it difficult for him to make decisions or act independently without considering how it affects the relationship.


3. Manipulating Guilt


• Sex as a Tool for Guilt: A woman might use past sexual encounters to guilt a man into staying in the relationship or doing things for her, invoking a sense of obligation or indebtedness due to their sexual history.


4. Weaponizing Rejection


• Withholding Sex: In some cases, women may withhold sex as a form of punishment or control, pressuring a partner into compliance by denying intimacy. This kind of behavior can be used to enforce obedience or control actions, especially if the partner highly values the sexual connection.


5. Leverage in Social Circles


• Using Reputation: In some situations, a woman might use her sexual relationship with a man to leverage social, professional, or personal advantages, whether it be through blackmail, spreading rumors, or threatening to disclose intimate details. This often involves exploiting the man’s fear of social consequences.


6. Financial Manipulation


• Sex for Financial Gain: Sex can be used as a transactional tool where one partner, in this case the woman, might exploit the relationship for financial benefits or material goods, manipulating the man into providing resources in exchange for continued intimacy.


7. False Intimacy


• Pretending Emotional Investment: Some women may feign emotional intimacy or love, using sex to create a false sense of connection, only to manipulate the man for personal gain. Once they have what they want—whether it’s money, status, or something else—they may distance themselves emotionally, leaving the man confused or heartbroken.


8. Exploiting Insecurity


• Preying on Vulnerability: A woman might recognize a man’s insecurities or emotional weaknesses and use sex as a way to exploit these vulnerabilities, making him feel inadequate or unworthy unless he conforms to her desires or expectations.


9. Blackmail or Threats


• Sexual Blackmail: A more extreme form of manipulation involves threatening to reveal private or intimate details about a sexual relationship unless the man complies with specific demands. This can be a form of coercive control, leaving the man trapped in a situation where he feels powerless to escape.


10. Power Imbalance


• Reinforcing a Power Imbalance: In some relationships, a woman may use sex to reinforce an existing power imbalance, using it to manipulate or dominate the man, particularly if she senses that he is emotionally or sexually dependent on her. This creates a toxic relationship dynamic where the man feels subservient or controlled.

[paledreams]

Lol I'd have always worn condoms. Or i would ask a woman if their allergic to latex condoms - and kindly part ways with them if I was upfront that I'm a condoms man first and foremost and politely about it

[paledreams]

And I'd also like my ideal woman to be on birth control from her doctor by her doctor, while I strap on the condom every sex lol 😆😆😆 if I had had a girlfriend ah well 8

[paledreams]

Ignore 8, a typo, or I could put a emoji heart ❤️ lol autocorrected and keyboard for big fingers 🤞🏻

[Anonymous]

I would wear one until we are both comfortable not wearing one.

[trsavas]

If I'm really in love with her I won't use a condom.

[trsavas]

His**

[Asker]

How/when would you know that?

[trsavas]

I understand that I am in love with the girl.

[Asker]

About when did you know you were in love? How long after dating her?

[trsavas]

I fell in love with her at first sight. I observed the girl from afar for a month and decided to talk to her. When we were dating, the girl said she loved me. We dated for a year but now we broke up.