Who buys the condoms in a relationship?

[Melody91]

I'd say we have a pretty even relationship when it comes to paying for dates as we take turn paying.

However, I was asked to start chipping in for condoms. I feel a little bit offended, is It socially acceptable to ask your girlfriend to buy condoms?

Guys have you ever asked the girl your seeing to do this?

Girls have you ever had to buy male condoms?

Guys

Girls

Both chip in

Updates

+1 y

As the relationship is already 50/50 in terms of paying for dates.

Also asking your girl to go 50/50 on condoms sort of takes the away the 'make her feel special' part. Might just be me.

[MarianneF]

It's tricky. If that is the only contraception device, I may say that it is just like dinner. If both are on a "he pays because he can afford it" or "she pays because she can afford it" I don't see why not, If both are on 50/50 then it's like when you go out with your friends right?
With them you are not too picky about who pays dinner or chips this time, you just pay this one, he pays the other one, or both put a bill/coins at the same time on the counter, and you don't keep tabs on each other, just keep it cool and have fun.

[Kajiac]

Well personally speaking, I am a fan of traditional realationships where the guy pays for the dates and stuff like that plus I mean I myself by pads and hair products and the other stuff that is traditionally a girls responsibility to take of so if we're going half on condoms we're going half on all that too. But if buying condoms is a problem in you guys' relationship then you guys could find a place where they give them out for free.

[BrittBratt2416]

um pretty sure it's dudes since their the ones who need it and the ones who it's being produced for? sure girls can buy it too, but its best for the guy to buy cause he knows what condom fits him best and which ones he likes the most. It would really awkward if she got you ones that are too big or too small.

[Ayer93]

The girl is the one who has the chance of pregnancy, but the guy is the one that could get her pregnant. It's both parties responsibility and also shows class if the girl wants to pitch half and half. Income is also a factor. If one has little or no income, the one who has more income should get. It's not like just the guy wants to have sex. If the girl also desires sex, then she should pitch.

[Chaz269]

This is for the two of you to decide between you. Let him know how you feel, and have an open, honest conversation about it. If you get your way and never buy condoms that you share, remember that before you ask him to pick up your tampons or pads or whatever.

[taleswapper]

A condom does two things. It prevents disease, and it prevents conception. Both parties should be invested in both of these. In a committed, exclusive relationship, though, an implant may be a better choice. Condoms have a higher failure rate, interfere with sensation, and are messy. Asking you to kick in may be his way of bringing up the topic.

[Browneye57]

What will he want next, for you to buy him a diamond ring?

If a guy can't lead in a relationship then it's not gonna go anywhere. You'll come to loathe his weakness.

If you were on the pill I wouldn't be paying for it either - that's on you. These are petty financial things but important necessities nonetheless. That he would ask is a huge red flag.

[JulieXO]

Both of you need the condom, so both of you should chip in in my opinion.
It's different with hormonal contraception though, which is funny. I would never ask a guy to help me pay for the pill, I feel like it's expected of me to pay for it myself.

[samhradh_leannan]

I think it’s because it’s more personal and more medical. A lot of women stay on the pill even when they’re single, or they choose hormonal b. c. for reasons that have nothing to do with preventing pregnancy. This can make it a little less logical to ask a guy to chip in. However, if I was in a relationship with someone, and we discussed birth control options and decided together that I’d get on the pill, specifically for b. c., and it was costing me a lot, then in that situation I’d expect him to chip in.

[Kitten967]

We don't buy condoms but if we did we'd both chip in. If you don't want to pay for condoms go on birth control or don't use them. You're responsible just as much as he is.

[boggboss]

Yeah that's how my girl is she is on birth control so j got lucky there

[witherwing]

We don't use condoms, but if we did, I would assume my boyfriend would pay for them, since I'm already paying for my birth control pills and they are a shit ton more expensive than condoms.

[Qwertsy]

If I may ask, how much do you pay for the pill?

[witherwing]

It's 40€ for three months.

[Qwertsy]

Wow! I didn't realize. My fiancé is also on the pill, so we don't use condoms, but I always thought condoms would be more expensive. -we are fortunate because our benefits package through work pays for her birth control.

[kaylaS91]

Whoever doesn't want kids anytime soon should be okay with buying condoms.

I bought a few packs of condoms back when we first started dating, and I pay for most of my birth control pills nowadays.

[Cmasterson]

I mean if you both want to use them yes you both should get them, whats wrong with both getting them, you will have a supply of condoms, they aren't that expensive.

[Cmasterson]

I've never been asked to buy them in the past but I have and also my current boyfriend when we started dating, would just buy them. I dont think you should be asked as both of you should be prepared.

[HotJealousy]

Neither, get them for free :D NHS ftw :P I get them delivered to my house for free, easy... unfortunately i won't be used then anytime soon haha

[madhatters4]

since both people are engaging in sex i think it up to them to decide but really either person can be in charge of it

[boggboss]

Why feel offended at the end of the day they benefit both off you and if you little bit could help why be offended

[boggboss]

But How?

[zach92]

Guys buy condoms, girls buy birth control, both chip in as needed, and everybody wins.

[MissMcK]

The men should. Unless they wanna pay for half of hormonal contraceptives too, which they probably don’t.

[Missterio]

but i think if the girl asked for half of the money for bc if she needed it, he probably would give it to her. at least i think it is how decent guys work.

[Missterio]

so on that logic it would be ok if u chipped in once in a while too, if he really needs it.

[splext]

Take it in turns. Who ever is at the shop. If he didn't use them you'd be upset.

[Cosytoasty]

The girl does.

Because if she doesn't, some other girl will ayyyy!

[Anonymous]

Me and him take turns - he will buy it and the next time i will , if he’s low on money or if i am the one with the most or with money on them will buy it. And sometimes we buy the 24 pk or the 3 pk

[Missterio]

I dont think there is really a problem with that, unless he does that all the time...

[samhradh_leannan]

Both are having sex, so both should chip in for birth control.

[samhradh_leannan]

Does it really make you feel that special that he spent $10 on a pack on condoms in order to have sex with you? Is that really such a romantic gesture that you feel deprived without it? I do understand where you’re coming from, but that’s not how he should be making you feel special in the first place. He should be making you feel special in bigger and better ways, so that spending a few dollars on a slimy rubber tube is not what you cling to as special treatment.

[samhradh_leannan]

That said, if he’s asking you to hand him cash to pay him back, I do find that a little awkward and uncomfortable. It makes more sense for you to simply take turns buying them.

[catmandu222]

I think guys should. If girls are the ones paying and using birth control, the guys should help someway by buying condoms

[Listening5]

Dont use condoms in a serious relationship.
Problem solved

[samhradh_leannan]

That means using another form of birth control instead, which will have costs as well (financial and/or physical).

[Listening5]

No birth control, its what I meant

[samhradh_leannan]

That’s a great system, if you’d rather discuss who’s paying for diapers.

[Listening5]

Again with this, I have told u already nobody had to wear diapers if u do it right

[samhradh_leannan]

Yeah, if you are perfect every time... which isn’t likely. That’s not something you want to gamble with, unless having a kid would be okay.

[Listening5]

Having a kid is not the end of the world

[samhradh_leannan]

Technically no, but it can certainly be the end of the life you wanted for yourself. Obviously, if you’re in a position where having a kid would be okay for you, then skipping proper b. c. may be fine for you and your partner. But lots of people are not in that position.

[Listening5]

Hmmm ok

[Hanibambel]

I have to buy them. There's no discussion bc of that. If I'd ask her to buy condoms she would just say that I'm the one who wants to have sex so I gotta pay.

Anyways a relationship is healthier if both chipped in I'd say