I really want to destroy him and I’ve exposed him but he doesn’t care …
nobody believes that this man has coercive behavior he became mentally, emotionally abusive (negging) when sex wasn’t going to happen
Revenge shouldn’t be the goal since it won’t provide happiness & closure. What you need is to accept this mistake and look for the signs in a future relationship then cut it off before it gets out of hand & make sure to “forgive” though never forget. It is awful, dehumanizing, and piece of shit behavior he did and I think the best course of action is to move on while retaining the lessons that you learned. You deserve THE BEST! ✨
F Him!
You're right. Nobody cares. So time to move on. Focusing on him is only going to damage you. Doesn't mean shite to him that he's occupying all that space in your head.
How can you ask if it won’t get to him, when you literally wrote that you exposed him and he didn’t care? You answered your own question honey.
Well well… if it isn’t holly21
We meet again. I’ve already exposed him and you know who I’m talking about.
What did I do?
😳😳
Please, he deserves it and I included a pic of the trans woman and I mentioned that he has predatory tendencies and he WAS verbally and emotionally abusive. I didn’t deserve it.
I’ve exposed him on instagram while tagging him and different Facebook groups but one group blocked me because they took his side and called me crazy but that’s far from the truth. None of you were in my shoes
You’re the one who commented? I’m responsible for your mood? I did nothing but replied to your statement
I think women like you lowkey want to fuck him bc me exposing him shouldn’t have you in any mood
I literally did what I wanted I don’t understand your problem
He’s a fappot a$$ man and I let him know that and let women know that he’s not all the way straight
It’s not stressful. We just have two different views… why are you saying what I did was wrong?
Chels this is the strangest shit from a woman that I’ve ever seen in my entire life. Like it’s been nearly a year since that one date and you are just as riled up and hurt about everything as you were the day it happened. You haven’t moved on, refuse to move on. There is no progress being made and somehow it’s gotten worse. You’re going into chats, spreading all that slander, I don't know what needs to happen to make you feel better.
https://ibb.co/FDkthLg
I actually have a different caption. The only thing that will make me feel better is him being ashamed and remorseful
It’s not slander if it’s my truth.
What’s not happening?
"Craig" is the name he told me, but that is not true. He’s a manipulator with predatory behavior. He preys on vulnerable or potentially wounded individuals to get what he wants. At first, he appeared patient and understanding, making it easy to miss his coercive behavior. When he didn’t get his way, he became emotionally and verbally abusive, even though clear boundaries were set from the start. He’s also not honest about his sexual preferences, and all he does is run when faced with uncomfortable truths about himself. He’s done a great job proving me right. If you're a straight woman seeking straight men, I’d advise steering clear.
That’s what I really wrote
I don’t want a man who’s attracted to dick
And I let him know
I. DID. NOT. LIE.
When he blocked me after calling him closeted the first time he followed another tranny
You didn’t even get on the whole trans thing until way after cutting ties, so not wanting a man who’s attracted to this or that didn’t matter. The whole story you’re running with doesn’t matter either. Like it’s so over, I wish you’d leave him be and move on. You have a life, a job, do none of those things deserve the energy you put into him? Have you just abandoned your own life and future? Because you’re acting like you don’t give a single fuck if your school, students, students, your family, or anyone personally in your life, connect those comments and slander to you. All this over a man who looks like Dopey. Stand up.
I’m exposing a dl man and yes his existence itself is pissing me off
Because how is a “man” going to play and disrespect me when he’s an undercover gay?
Nobody agrees with that logic Chels, and you’re so deep in denial because “y’all didn’t go through what I went through”. Nobody will agree you went through as soul-crushing of a time as you make it sound. It was like 1-2 weeks knowing him, one date and then basically over, but you’ve turned a simple case of incompatibility (that everyone should be entitled to) into this whole outrageous thing. It’s just too much and everyone who has enough context about the situation will fully agree. It’s why you’re getting blocked and stopped — you’re just doing too much.
Lying and not disclosing his sexuality is a red flag.
This was not incompatibility.. this was a very complex form of manipulation.. it’s hard to see the coercive behavior but it was there! He NEVER wanted anything with me that’s why he didn’t want to share his name with me. He’s a liar and a gaslighter.
Holly you don’t have to believe me. He has rapey behavior… he became emotionally and verbally abusive after he didn’t get what he wanted and you saw it! Regardless of how I was dressed no means NOO.
He wanted sex but he didn’t want a relationship either and he was trying to make it seem like he was looking forward to that. HE wasn't HONEST
He probably gave you his “American name”, which is common practice to fit in. Years ago I dated a man who immigrated here from another country and he used both a different name and had two birthdays — his real birthday and his American birthday. You said that guy is African, so if he came here from someplace else at some point in time then there’s no big mystery around that.
No. He does not go by Craig and he told me that because I had to force it out of him.
You can defend this man all you want but I’m not backing down on what I said. Everyone can call me crazy.
Point out the inconsistency?
Chels this story has evolved so much since the first time we spoke I don’t even think you’re aware. For starters, his sexuality was not a debatable topic In your mind until you fixated on it, trying to find any little thing to justify being rejected. First he was gay, then he was a trans lover, when he wasn’t those things as of like February, that’s when you switched lanes.
If you’d been saying that from the very start, this would be a whole different conversation. The very first issues you presented to me is that you didn’t feel good enough and he deserved a high caliber woman. The other issues presented referred to his behavior during the date and after when he wasn’t responding and you went out of your way for his attention. In fact I think that all this is about, shock value so intense that he HAS to speak with you. Then if he did, it would never be the conversation about reconciliation that you want deep down. It would be going offer, threatening legal action or both. Do you understand slander? Do you realize you can be sued, jailed or something you can’t scrub off your record? Maybe you’re miserable now but I promise if you keep doing what you’re doing you’d be even worse have to deal with legal consequences.
He wasn’t those things because I didn’t know about them!
He’s sleeping with that tranny
I tried talking with her
I keep going through the emotions… some days I’m extremely regretful other days I just don’t care… It’s like I can’t stop.. I’m scared myself Holly..
I don’t know where I stand with my therapist
You’re scared for you I’m scared for you because this has just gone so far. Maybe a mental health evaluation would be good, like asking for that specifically from your therapist. She’s not exactly a psychiatrist so maybe her approach is slower than you need. I just think you need to figure out what’s going on upstairs then get help for it, I just think it’s crucial right now. You could destroy your entire life he just isn’t worth it.
What do you think is wrong?
He doesn’t want anything to do with me right?
He fucks that tranny. She stopped responding to my message. She knows him.
He’s a predator idc what anyone says
Chels she stopped responding because you’re a stranger to her. I would never in my life engage extensively with some random woman sliding into my dms about a man I most likely do not know. I don’t think he wants anything to do with you but it doesn’t have to be some big negative thing, or even a big deal at all.
No I posed as him…
She knows him..
I’m looking for a lawyer now
Yeah.. ik.
I pretended to be him… I truly believe she knows him and they’ve hooked up
It’s what you believe, not what you know for fact. The way you’ve lashed out, blasting him on FB, messaging that stranger, it’s been driven off your own thoughts not solid proof of anything, just let that sink in. Not an affair, not sexual contact, you don’t have any proof of anything to accuse him of except hurting your feelings during the date and not getting back in touch with you, along with him not responding afterwards. I just wish you’d move on because it’s like you’re committing to making him the focal point of your entire day for who knows how long going forward. That sounds miserable as fck Chels.
You really believe I’m this upset over a rejection? Because the date didn’t go well? No. I’ve been rejected before.
This is about lies and manipulation and I’m sorry you can’t see it.
Again I didn’t deserve it
This is entirely about the rejection because you weren’t ready to let him go. Even to this day you wonder if he will come back. It is beyond lies or manipulation, that happened long ago. You don’t think the average woman hasn’t been lied to or manipulated? Majority would never handle it like this, so much longer after. They would’ve let that shit go in January that’s 2 months after those 2 weeks even happened. The average woman will not fixate like this. Ir is mental health issues now
Sometimes victims love their abusers bc that’s what they are used to. You ever think about that?
You really don’t find it sketchy that he didn’t want to tell me his name (not protecting his Nigerian name.. .. he never planned on telling me, sexual preference … trans and possibly sleeping with them, insulting me and being disrespectful when sex is off the table..
No man who wasn’t trying to “play” me would do that
Really think about it
… wow okay..
I apologize. I just think that you’re not seeing how I was played by this man.
Yes but there are also others who agree.. and yes I told the whole story to
I truly believe he’s a gay man who wants to be with trans women while also sleeping with actual women
Wait what? What’s happening?
I don't know but okay I’m in!
Please do so… make sure you don’t leave out any details!
Of the messages or tranny?
And you don’t think he’s gay? Mm okay
I’ll send the messages but why do the messages matter? If someone is putting on a facade the mask fell off.. ofc it’s hard to miss his corceive behavior! Cmon!
Okay lmaoo 😭 you really don’t think he’s gay?
Holly I thought we already mutually agreed that he only wanted sex when I told you he said he wasn’t looking for anything and just wanted sex? He didn’t want a relationship.. he said that on the “date”…..
Yes
Girl they slept together!!
Yes in November
When i pretended to be him texting him online at first she couldn’t recognize the pic then when I showed her she stopped responding
Lady, get help. If it's been a year you really need to move on. He's not ashamed or remorseful because nothing you say matters. Who are you? Some random kook on the internet? That's the narrative in his head. The more you fixate the more you reinforce his narrative.
As soon as you use the term "my truth" no guy cares what you have to say any longer. There aren't multiple realities with multiple fact patterns. Whatever happened, there is a truth. It doesn't bother him. It bothers you. Don't let it.
Wow the more I read the more I see that restraining order and stalking charge being filed.
@BoopBoopBeep oh, you don’t know the half of it. I try my best each time I speak with her to shine light on where things went wrong, been with her on and off with this journey since it started nearly a year ago and it’s like nothing changes. I want her to heal from this and move on but it’s like constant refusal. Who knows maybe I’m just indulging her at this point, but I also recognize that she’s truly struggling and I’m not sure what will help her out of it. I do try my best, despite everything. We all deserve to be happy, I know it’s what she wants. 😔
@BoopBoopBeep that is my biggest fear for her, that she keeps down this road and lands in huge trouble. They went on one date, he just isn’t worth throwing her life away. I worry very much.
@HollyK21
Let's say dude IS gay and having sex with every transgender person in a three mile radius. Doesn't matter. In most places that isn't illegal. If he's still in Nigeria then you're threatening his life, and he's going to sue the shite out of her (at a minimum). For whatever reason he might wanted to stick his junk in this nutjob, she probably gave off the real clear nutjob vibes she's giving off now, so no great wonder he didn't stick around. In fact, I'd probably say I was transgender/liked transgenders/had pieces of a transgender in my glove box if it got her to go away, so maybe he was shooting for that and it just backfired on him.
That’s the thing about it, she’s only connecting him sexually to the trans woman because he follows them. Unfortunately she’s gone out of her way to speak with that person and posed as the man in question. The woman didn’t respond anymore, which somehow translates to a sexual past. I just feel like this has gotten so blown out of proportion, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I have to just tap out
Yeah this after one date is "inpatient" level.
@BoopBoopBeep I’m not a whack job because he’s a liar and manipulative. He’s the nut job with predatory vibes.
Chels my love I don't know how you can say he’s a predator. The man would’ve (unfortunately) ghosted if you hadn’t tried all those avenues of reaching out. He responded, gave you closure, what’s crazy about that? I just feel like you glue these labels to the guy without much grounds to do so.
Because his intentions were never to be with me! He just didn’t want to sleep with bc he wanted an easy way to get rid of me! He wanted to use me! Why is that so hard to see!
And your intention was to be with him? You literally called yourself a placeholder. To which he said “I don’t understand why I would want to invest time in something that is going nowhere”. So why are you insisting on making this about anything else when you got your answer? You just won’t accept anything other than your own narrative.
Holly. I liked because he made me feel safe despite of being a placeholder. I thought he liked me and wanted more… but he was playing games and saying the “right “ things all along
Why do you keep bringing up the placeholder thing? I already know that.. I told you that I changed my mind
Then I felt like the girls in the group wanted to jump me and they were concerned about his safety… what about mine? They are probably trying to reach him to blast me.
I won’t accept anyone else’s narrative because I’m the one who witnessed it first hand.
I don’t want to live anymore. I’m not believed, women hate me and worship him, I’m a “whack job”… I’m the woman they think is an idiot.
He completely tried to make me feel less about myself.
I bring up the placeholder thing because it’s important Chels, even after you changed your mind the damage was done with that statement along with you accusing him of being slick and wanting sex. We can’t look at his wrongs without taking yours into account as well. You have way too much alone time to be in your own head and it’s not healthy. Now your opinions are pure fact and you won’t accept otherwise.
If this blows up and ends up on TikTok or if it really goes down. Please trust that I won’t be here to see it and ik I dug my own grave. Just wanted to thank you just in case. I can’t live with the embarrassment I caused on myself.. but his goal was to use me even though he didn’t. He did and the only reason he didn’t is because he didn’t want me getting attached
I don't know …
He thinks I’m a nobody and I’m trying to prove I’m not.
All he’s done/ did is ignore me and I thought he was genuine.
If his goal was to use you then whether he thought you would get crazier or not, he would’ve done it. If he were that gung-ho about getting in your pants you would’ve been a conquest. But he said he wasn’t looking for that and even said you were getting the wrong idea about him. If he can’t convince you of it then you just genuinely do not wanna believe anything else. Now I don't know if you’ve been to your therapist lately but please reach out. If she isn’t meeting your needs, forget her and find someone else. It’s trial and error but you will find the right person. I’m praying you get the help you need.
BECAUSE he's A LIARRRRR! THATS WHAT LIARS DOOOOO
HE WOULD NOT HAVE HAD ANY REASON TO DISRESPECT ME IF HE WERE TRULY GENUINE.
He would have kept it at “I’m just not looking for anything “
Bc it’s true Holly
So he just didn’t like me? And he wanted to insult me to get rid of me and didn’t want a relationship with me
Fine. But I do believe that he just wanted sex. He was never “into” me. He wanted to see what he could get out of it
Yes the trans part is the hardest for me to get over.
Of course it’s the hardest part because it’s not factually true Chels. I’m being real with you right now you have no solid proof of anything physical or romantic, just a bunch of assumptions you’re running with it’s too much. You can’t just convince yourself of something then pass it off to everyone as fact.
That’s the hardest part and his indifference towards me is worse than my hate for him
I just feel like he really doesn’t like me even as a person. He treats a trans better than me.
Tell me what makes you claim he treats a trans person better when you’ve never seen any interaction between them? You never even confirmed they knew each other, you just took the fact that she didn’t respond to you and created a whole new narrative off that. Mind you, I also wouldn’t be responding to someone random sliding in my dms, especially a man, who I’d just assume messaged multiple women and seeing who responds. I have factually experienced that.
He already follows her and she is a sex worker.
I think you’re being a bit naive
You even said it yourself that you wouldn’t want your man following that and he follows two now so yes he has a sexual or romantic attraction to trans women
The same drama you want to repost? I’m waiting
I started writing it but thought better of it once boopboopbeep commented. Then looking at your comments to others, it would just be the same thing. You don’t seem to comprehend or agree with anything people say. So what good would my post do? I thought it would be helpful and give you some perspective, but it is just so pointless. You don’t have anything to say but more excuses.
Post it. I can “comprehend “ and gain a new perspective. Let’s see.
But his comments did sting. The name calling does get me down
Chels you’ve been on this topic for a year. You have talked to countless, countless people on several platforms, you and i have discussed this endlessly, hundreds and hundreds of comments each conversation. All that and there is absolutely zero change in your perspective on this situation. You don’t want to do anything better or different only worse. You won’t stop, so I am not posting that any more.
I was looking forward to it!
Does he care at all? Is that why he hasn’t sued me yet? 🥺
How is it weird I was just asking?
It’s weird to ask if he cares?
You’re also always insulting my intelligence. Is that what he thinks of me too
My feelings are everywhere.. I just never felt liked or cared for by him.. I just wonder if he does
There just wasn’t enough time for that, girl. Maybe that’s hard for you to understand since you seem to get attached pretty quick, but in a general sense, expecting someone to care a who bunch in less than 14 days just isn’t going to happen. You have built a deep connection with him as if he’s your ex or something.
I’m horny and I felt safe enough to sleep with him. I do get attached but ik I liked him. I don’t feel that way with every guy.
I was just heavily attracted to him. The fact that he didn’t have kids, had a good job, daddyish face, logical when I’m illogical.. comes from a 2 parent home and his parents are respected..
I get he’s a jerk and he honestly only wanted sex because of how it all went down.. but he didn’t want to sleep with me bc he was afraid I would be overly attached because he didn’t want me honestly
Ik im correct on that
That’s why I’ve said before, you don’t like him you like the idea of him. You didn’t get a chance to know him as a person to develop these deep feelings. I already know you’re gonna bring up the fact that he didn’t share that information then go on to tell me everything he did wrong on the date and how you felt disrespected— I don’t care to rehash all that for the trillionth time. The basic, moral of this story is that you did not know him well enough to be where you are now.
So what he showed me is the real him?
And he is gay because he now follows 2 trannys
Okay fine. Maybe you’re right. Im trying to find answers that aren’t there…
But he follows 2 trans women now don’t ignore that. He followed another one after I told him I thought he was closeted and into men or trannys.
I don’t know how many times I can ask you Chels, PLEASE, I am not discussing anyone’s sexuality when they aren’t around to defend it. If you don’t remember a single thing I’ve ever said, you have to remember that because I’ve said it so many times. It is precisely why we fought the last time, now you’re trying to drag me back into that conversation? There are so many other people who will dig through that topic with you but respectfully I’m not doing it. I hope you can show that respect mutually.
My bad damn
I’m listening. Sometimes I don’t think you understand where I’m coming from…
But your view point is that you felt he was interested, I messed it up because I was insecure and he saw the signs.. still wanted to give it a try.. I ruined the date / date wasn’t good. Fuck him being disrespectful lol and trying to slut shame me… he ghosted me and here we are… correct?
Lord fix it. I literally have to ask you repeatedly every single time we speak not to discuss his sexuality with me and you keep doing it, so are you really listening? Or do you just not care? As for my whole viewpoint and shit you wrote that so passive aggressively I’m not even gonna get into it. You already know where I stand on everything and if you wanna purposely misconstrue my words like that then that’s your own prerogative. I’ve never even talked about your sexuality freely anyway for you to sprinkle on some slut shaming like it’s some stinky fucking parsley.
What are you talking about?
I didn’t after that! I asked something else
You need a nap
Okay, I will have a mature conversation for now on. I am open to listening and learning new perspectives on the situation.
Where do we start?
I’m scared Holly. No matter what. Could you be here for me until I can try to become sane. I’m afraid to speak up about what’s going on.
Is he going to sue me?
What do you think he’s thinking now? What do you think about what I wrote?
"Craig" is the name he told me, but that is not true. He’s a manipulator with predatory behavior. He preys on vulnerable or potentially wounded individuals to get what he wants. At first, he appeared patient and understanding, making it easy to miss his coercive behavior. When he didn’t get his way, he became emotionally and verbally abusive, even though clear boundaries were set from the start. He’s also not honest about his sexual preferences, and all he does is run when faced with uncomfortable truths about himself. He’s done a great job proving me right. If you're a straight woman seeking straight men, I’d advise steering clear.
Where did you post this? Facebook? I wish you hadn’t, because despite this being your feelings, it’s still slanderous. It doesn’t matter how certain you feel about something, you can’t just convince yourself that it’s true and therefore it’s true. Now you’re smearing his name to strangers, telling them to steer clear because he isn’t a straight man, like that is a full blown accusation not even suggestive. If I were you I’d just be hoping he doesn’t connect all this to you and seek legal action should he see fit. Try to avoid doing that ever again Chels, before it goes too far.
I deleted it. On instagram where I did tag him out of anger and I’m trying to find all the facebook post … in the private groups to remove them.
Holy shit… it’s like coming in and of of consciousness… instead it’s guilt..
What have I done.
I’m kind of mad at my therapist bc I thought I would have gotten more help. I’m afraid to speak up bc I could still lose my job if they found out
Chels honey this situation needs help, and you need it right now. You found a therapist but honestly a psychiatrist would probably be the better option and voluntarily checking yourself into a facility for even just a weekend. I do not need to comment on the fact that you actually tagged this man online, you already know that was wrong, incriminating, and don’t need me adding to it. I’d rather focus on the action within itself and how far it’s gone. You clearly lack restraint, and gradually just giving into all your impulses. You can’t control it anymore, so please go somewhere and find someone who can help. Like I don’t even know if you take any meds for this and people take them for far less. Therapy happens in psychiatric wards, they can honestly connect you with someone more compatible.
How rude. You’re acting like women haven’t done something like this. I get what you’re saying and I agree I do need help with this…I think I was on my period and It triggered my feelings higher than normal and if I speak up I don't know if I’ll keep my job.
I did something crazy but I’m not crazy
I’m emotional, I’m still hurt about it, I took it too far.., trying to humiliate him for hurting me and it backfired
Yeah Chels your behavior all year has been pretty crazy. It’s not just your period or a mood swing at this point. You don’t have restraint, that’s a fact. You lose control of the situation, that’s also a fact. Suggesting you get psychiatric help is not rude, it my solution to your ‘where do we go from here Holly?’. No one is above saving their mental health at all costs.
Everyone hates me. He hates me. The women from the group. I’m embarrassed but it’s not fair that you and them are calling me crazy when I do in face feel like his intentions were not good regardless of the fact that he didn’t sleep with me. His reason not to sleep with me to me is still as bad as if he actually slept with me because he still only cared about himself.
He didn’t want to sleep with me because he didn’t want me to get attached and be “crazier” … he wanted it to be easier to dump me. How come you can’t see his coercive behavior?
Anyway I just noticed the fact we are probably blowing up @BoopBoopBeep notifications. Sorry for that, man. Let’s just leave the conversation alone Chels, if isn’t going anywhere.
What have I fucking done SO bad besides just be confused on what I wanted? Me being honest in the beginning about being a placeholder or just a friend.. I deserved to have my feelings played with.
Fuck him
I didn’t deserve what he did. I thought he was genuine and it’s hard to see it from a different perspective bc I saw it first hand
But I will get extra help
Black therapist and black people are judgy and call you names
You're not a whackjob because he's a liar if he is one, you're a whackjob for a whole host of reasons. Stop obsessing and get on with it. So he's f'ing a trans. How about that? To him it was better than being with you. That seems like a great reason to move ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
I just felt like he shouldn’t have even talked to me if that’s what he’s into. He’s not straight… he felt I was unstable so why would he continue to talk to me? Why would he continue to talk to me if he’s not into women?
No it’s fucked up. You’re wrong.
I wanted to be with him bad that’s why it hurts because of what he did and what he represented.
And he knew he was wrong! At the end of the day he knew what he was doing. That’s not okay
He is a liar and a mass manipulator.
@BoopBoopBeep
Chela all this rambling and stuff it just looks bad on you. Stop it. Not everyone can be wrong, please listen to the people (and me) at some point if you insist on having this conversation. Boopboopbeep may be harsh with how he says stuff, but there’s truth in there. It’s time to move on.
Whatever you say. Him being attracted to trans women and not telling women is too much. I hate his guts. He put me through a lot just to be gay.
You can think that if you want, but please don’t go around spreading that shit anymore. That is how you get yourself in trouble because until you have confirmation directly from him you cannot publicly assume his sexuality and pass it as fact. That is literal slander and can get you sued. Hate him if you want, but leave it at that. Like what you’re doing now, repeatedly calling him gay and trans loving to anyone who will listen is slander.
Yeah.. what I said is fact. I agree. I shouldn’t say it put on social media but he’s gay. It hurts. It all still hurts
That’s what you believe and you’re entitled to that, but it’s not YOUR sexuality to argue about the validity. I will never on gods green earth unsweetened this level of hurt ONE YEAR after a 14 day (give or take) period of knowing a man, with one date, but it’s not for me to understand!
I sent a letter to my therapist about ending my services with her… and I’ve called a Psyc hospital for an assessment.
I took the first step but I’m struggling with another impulse… I want the doctor who follows him to see my post on instagram…
Chels, that is genuinely such amazing news. I’m so glad you took that step and I hope you’re proud of yourself! I think the outcome there will be much better, then they could pair you with a therapist that aligns better with your needs. As for your impulse, please ignore it. If the post is about him, take it down, you don’t need the trouble.
I blocked him so how would he know..
Bc I don’t think she would bc I think they’re probably just “talking “.. if that..
I’m struggling again… I’m really really struggling trying to figure out why the tranny ignored the message… does she know him and just felt like my messages “weren’t “ him…. Like I’m getting worked up
They know eachother…you know it
I think so and I feel another crash out..
I believe they’re fucking
No because he’s gay.
Fuck you Holly. You know exactly what the fuck I’m talking about! DONT DO THAT!
Don’t do that. But you know exactly what I’m talking about and you this isn’t with some “girl “… he’s with a man!
Holly it’s your passive behavior to things you know aren’t okay. It’s annoying. And I think women should know that he’s attracted to Tran women because that is not straight men behavior. SHE is NOT the only TRANSGENDER he FOLLOWS.
Who tf are you? Exactly.
GTFO
I’m the only person talking to you and giving this situation the time of fucking day that’s who I am Chels. Tell me who else, on any other platform, has spent hundred of comments, thousands if you factor in all these months, talking about this with you? NOT A SOUL! They dip out a few comments in! You better stop talking fucking crazy and taking my presence for granted.
SO WHEN HE ASKED ME WHEN I WAS LAST INTIMATE AND WHEN I ASKED HIM BACK AND HE LAUGHED! He’s fucking playing in my face ! He was fucking that tranny and trying to laugh in my face that he’s been intimate. I SHOULD HAVE SLAPPED TF OUT OF HIM FOR BEING DISRESPECTFUL THEN !
PROTECT HIS SEXUALITY WHEN HE DID NOT GIVE AF ABOUT HE EVEN MADE ME FEEL?
Girl fuck you for being passive and protective his poor little sexuality and FUCK him for trying to play in my face THIS WHOLE TIME AND NOT TELLING ME THAT HE IS BI/ GAY
HE HAS a lot OF NERVE!
You’re acting like I don’t have a reason to crash out! BUT I DO!!
Fuck you too Holly. You’re fucking weird
Just like him YOU don’t give a fuck and you defend ALL his actions
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I think it is bad since he could sue you for defamation or take you to court over that…. I think it is best for you to learn from this experience to figure out his type before it gets out of hand so you can opt out of it. These relationships are evil, vile, horrible and it is good that you know the signs and can flee once it is getting to the same “vibe”. Best prayers to you.
He is an awful piece of sh-
Marcus Aurelius, my favorite philosopher, said "The best revenge is to not live like he who committed the wrong."
Confucius said "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves."
I really believe that. I can also see that as of now you don't forgive him for his transgressions. That's fine and I support that but I just want you to consider that when and if you do give forgiveness, you are not giving it to him, you're granting YOURSELF grace, catharsis and wisdom.
u Holding on to get revenge is just using an excuse to avoid letting go. Are you in love with this guy?
Why would I be in love with someone who is indifferent towards me and disrespected me
Why are you still devoting time and energy to him, as if what he thinks or feels matters?
No, but I want revenge. I want him to feel embarrassed.. he likes nasty trans dick so I made sure to post the tranny content he watches. Expose him for not saying that he likes dick too
How will that make your life better?
I’ll feel in control… I’ll no longer feel less than. That’s how he feels about me
So you still care about what he thinks?
I just want to humiliate him
It really won't make you feel better and you pay a price for staying entangled with him. And potentially you get labelled as a drama queen.
Doesn’t matter.. I exposed him for being a user and a gay man who likes trannys.. he deserves it entirely.
He has caused me hurt and pain and I took it like a dummy… no.. he verbally and emotionally hurt me he can get it back
Okay. Keep holding on to him.
I don’t want to hold on to him… why would I? I’m trying to let him go
Your actions contradict your words.
I’m trying to hate to stop pining for him …
As long as you seek revenge, he will remain the most important person in your life.
I just want him to care or say something..
As much as you would like that, you can't make that happen. Sometimes, you must walk away from a failed relationship without having the closure you want, without understanding what went wrong, like you are perpetually waiting for the other show to drop. Once you learn to do that, you will realize that, with the passage of time, the closure is not as important as you once believed.
Believe it or not he did give me “closure “…. It’s been 10 months since we last spoke… I know he wants nothing to do with me.. I called him a closeted man for following trannys and I said some other bs and he blocked me.
But nothing I said in my caption is a lie and I don’t understand why I still can’t let him go.
How is a tranny better than me.. why didn’t he tell me his sexuality before we started talking and he rejected me bc I wanted to wait until marriage for sx.
There are some very screwed up people in this world. I had a girlfriend who got drunk, tried to grab my phone, lost her grip and fell backwards. She hit her head and called the police, accused me of domestic violence, and i went to jail. I was in jail over night and she stole almost everything in my house. Yes, i felt that i wanted revenge, but that leads nowhere good for me. I forgot her and then merry a wonderful woman who not, four years later, is my wife.
Yes, it will profit you to leave this behind you and to move forward.
He fucks trans protitutes and he tried to disrespect me
So that information means he was a horrible mismatch for you. . . . You leave him in the dust and move forward . . . unless perhaps you are embarrassed about having misjudged him so badly.
Now he's coercive and emotionally abusive? It's something new every week.
It’s not new. I’ve been saying this forever!
Bruh look back
Maybe he’s embarrassed because he knows they were true and feels too bad to block you
@spartan55 why do you think he didn’t block her?
@WhitneySnow
He doesn't care. I've been following this saga since it actually went down which was over a year ago. This is a guy she went on one date with.
It’s more to the story. He’s a liar and manipulative
What did he lie to you about? How did he manipulate you?
Hahaha @WhitneySnow buckle up...
Okay being truthful by saying that I didn’t want a relationship or casual sex in the beginning because I needed to heal but didn’t mind talking to him? What exactly do I need to be truthful about? I know I was difficult in the beginning
What am I lying about? Let’s start there?
There’s literally nothing to the story.. he made it seem like he wanted something with me when he didn’t. He’s liar. Bc he didn’t get sex he became verbally and emotionally abusive
Nothing to the story, but you've carried on about it for over a fucking year about it. He didn't want it after he went on a date with you and found out how unstable you are. He changed his mind, which he is allowed to do. That's not lying. Verbally and emotionally abusive? Give specific examples.
If I told him that im protecting my mental and emotional wellbeing and don’t want to get into anything… that doesn’t mean find other coercive ways to get her to have sex. He already knew what was up in the beginning because I told him.
The games began when I eventually gave in and told him that I was willing to take things slow bc he made me feel safe….
He started slut shaming, calling me names because I hurt his ego. BC I still didn’t want sex
Crazy, unstable, trying to downplay my dad, talked about the pics I posted, ghosted…
He said "does your Dad know you posted those pictures"(paraphrase)
This is not anything to go nuclear about. He called you crazy and unstable after your date (which you admitted you acted that way during the date) After the date he was not trying to have sex with after seeing things he didn't like.
I never acted crazy anytime. I was just indecisive with what I truly wanted. How can I act “crazy” with someone i barely know? He wanted to insult me because he couldn’t get what he wanted ALL along. Saying “I’m scared to sleep with you bc I’m scared you’ll be crazier “ was hurtful especially when I didn’t even have any plans on sleeping with him…. So what are you saying. You have the story mixed up
I don't have anything mixed up. You can you didn't act crazy all day but that is what he perceived. You don't have to know someone at all for them to think you are acting crazy.
So, after the date there was no more sex talk correct?
'just indecisive with what I truly wanted' so you did act weird during the date... just stop already.
What are you talking about? No I didn’t act weird or crazy. I was too nervous to even talk but we did have conversation and in the end his intentions were not genuine
Yes because he didn’t want anything serious with me… how is this not making sense to you? Being “crazier “ just means “I don’t want you to get attached because I don’t want you” ..
The trans thing came up way after… I was trying to see if he was had a girlfriend bc his behavior was so off… and after looking at his social media I found some other stuff.
Again with this shit? Like I said, your bag is getting empty, you are recycling the same crazy over and over.
What?
Why is he?
Let it rest or you might find yourself in court defending a defamation lawsuit.
How if it’s the truth? It’s defemation if it were a lie
That does not matter. He can still sue, and lose, but it will consume your time and resources to do so. The best revenge is always to be happy without the person.
If you keep it up, the people with think you are the one who is the problem. Let it go and find someone who treats you right..
Yeah one group literally called me crazy and blocked me because they didn’t feel like he was a predator
If people don't believe you, then there's no reason it would get to him.
Bad idea. Leave it and him alone lest you bring more grief and trouble on yourself.
How is it a bad idea?
You’re just as petty and pathetic as him it seems. You two are a match made in heaven.
I’m not pathetic. I was honest and upfront
You got screwed over, we all do. Don’t be petty and pathetic and stoop down to that level. It is pathetic what you’re saying, regardless what he did, you’ll accomplish absolutely nothing on this mission besides looking butthurt.
Would bother him a lot more if you moved on and found someone else and became happy. Right now he probably just sees how pathetic you are and just laughs lol
I agree… I just feel so emotional and I am hurt
Yeah, it happens. I’ve had the same experiences, you’ll get over it. Everything happens for a reason, that hurt will turn into happiness soon enough.
you're asking for trouble if you're trying to destroy him
I don't do revenge. Karma can kill and you don't go to prison.
I don't do revenge, Karma always bites harder that I can.
Negging is that big a deal now? Why not just let it go?
You are seriously out of your mind.
How so?
Fuck youuuuuuu. You let it gooo
He’s a gay ass man who loves trans dick
Or what are you going to do? As many names as you call me on a regular for yearsssss revolving every guy I mention
No STRAIGHT MAN watches chicks with dicks
Awww mad as always.
How am I handling a user poorly?
Clean my room? Uh..
He sounds like a real awful guys
And yet she's obsessed... did you catch that?
How am I obsessed?
Good...
Is it really?
I don't know
Then don’t answer. KNOW
Fuck off
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