What is wrong with this guy why does he think he has the right to ask me to buy or get him food?

[Anonymous]

For instance one day ago he asked me if I can get him some zaxbys bc he “forgot” his wallet at home, this guy is a married man not sure if it matters than recently he approaches me asking me if I can get him a juice on break I said no he was like uhh I lost trust in you but continued to ask me again and I can just continue like WHY can someone explain

[_Maya_]

Who is the guy? A coworker I am assuming given you mention break? I guess maybe one reason could be that he is looking for ways to talk to you and spend time with you? I don't really know. It is really bizarre behavior to ask someone you work with to buy you lunch out of the blue. How often is he doing this? I mean how many times has he tried to ask you to buy him something? I really can't think of a logical explanation for it. If he is a grown man and asked multiple times because he forgot his wallet or whatever excuse he uses then I worry if that is true he is that forgetful what kinda of work performance he has. Just tell him politely to stop asking because you aren't going to do it.

[Asker]

He will continue asking me still his a coworker I’ll be like occasionally when he asks

[spartan55]

Because you entertain it and you love the attention. You post about this guy frequently and you refuse to listen to advice.

[Asker]

I don’t I haven’t gotten him anything

[spartan55]

You still entertain it, so he will keep doing it.

[Asker]

I DONT entertain him and plus I just moved to diff department so I will see him little less so it should help

[Asker]

His the one trying to entertain me

[Asker]

Y I don't know I can’t read his mind

[LiamJHayden]

Leeches look for victims to bleed.

[Asker]

Wymm

[LiamJHayden]

Some people want to freeload and look for kind people whom they can get to pay their way.

[Asker]

Yea I don't know why he chose me as the target bc there are many others

[LiamJHayden]

If he fails with you he will hit up another. either that, or the others already said "No." Helping a needy person is fine. Helping a leech is unwise.

[Asker]

Yea like with the orange juice he said he will pay me back and I don’t bring it he was like I lost my trust in you

[ProbablyClueless]

He's hungry/thirsty and figures that it doesn't hurt to ask. This isn't the kind of thing you'll want to think about too closely.

[Asker]

Yea and only me he asks

[ProbablyClueless]

Maybe you have a softness about you? Like you come across as a very caring person.

[Asker]

Yeaaa but still like why me and why can’t it be someone else

[Asker]

And he has money by the way so

[ProbablyClueless]

Because of the reason I just said