I met a man (45 years old) on Instagram. We’ve been chatting for a few days, with voice messages and WhatsApp texts, we have not called yet
He said we can meet up when he visits Europe.
Today we chatted about our favorite meals and when I told him what I was cooking, he told me he wants to cook a meal with me and sent me a heart emoji.
3 days ago I caught a cold and he texted he wants to be here and take care of me.
Does he like me? If so, how can he like me just based on my Instagram profile and my voice messages?
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Do you want to cook with someone that you don't like? Would you take care of someone that you don't like? Usually you can answer the question by asking yourself the same thing. If you wouldn't do things that you ask about with people that you don't like then chances are neither would he or anyone else. As far as why he wants to cook with you I bet it was because of the conversation about favorite meals. That was his way to suggest meeting up with you and doing something that apparently you both like to do... cook. Don't overthink this. My guess is that he does like you because of the connection through the conversations you have had with him.
Cooking together is a great date. Plus you get to learn a lot about the person. How fluidly they move, how well they adapt to pressure/unexpected things. Plus while the inverse is not always true (now that I think about it, neither is the converse), I've never met a woman who could move well in a kitchen who couldn't move well... elsewhere.
Now all those reasons aside, if he can cook well, you'll get a great meal at 1/4th the price you'd get in a restaurant and you can stand around and drink wine in the kitchen and have a great laid back atmosphere while you're doing it.
Great advice, thank you.
He said, he would love us to go shopping together and that it doesn’t matter what we cook as long as we cook together.
When I said, I am jumping into the bed to sleep, he told “I hope I can enjoy that with you someday.” “I can’t wait to meet you.”
He sounds a bit like a player to me.
How does that sound playerish? I think I'm missing essential details.
He is traveling now and texting me from there. He told me he met up his Colombian female friend who acted like his tour guide there.
I hope he doesn’t want friendship or something casual with me too. I am only interested in a relationship.
I was thinking since he started talking so romantically just 10 days after we started texting, maybe he’s just playing along, why else, would he get so interested so soon?
Don't confuse sex with romance. I'd literally cook a meal with 100 women I know or work with just because... F it... it'd be fun. Doesn't mean I want to date them. Doesn't even mean I want to have sex with them.
Let's cook dinner and hopefully I can enjoy that (sex) with you someday... that could be romance, that could be hookup, that could be anywhere in between or something totally different. Men don't need emotions for sex.
I know. That’s why I am confused. I don’t want him to think he can just meet me and we can cook and have sex right away. I am not interested and I don’t know how to let him know without scaring him off.
Well if that IS what he's after (and nothing wrong with that as long as everyone is in agreement) and you're not, then scaring him off shouldn't be a concern... you're not moving forward together.
How do I know he wants to date me and not just cook a meal with me just because it’s fun as you said?
I need emotions to have sex.
You ask him.
I don’t think he’s just interested in sex, he texts me everyday, even though he’s on a vacation, traveling in South America. He texts in a very sweet way. He is now in airplane and told me he’ll message me as soon as he gets to Chile.
Sounds awesome! I hope it works out for you.
Maybe he enjoys cooking