My girlfriend running hot and cold with her attitude? Is that how women are wired. Why I am sweet care guys but always getting cold shoulder?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It sounds frustrating to deal with the hot and cold behavior, but it's not necessarily about how women are "wired." People's emotions and behavior can be influenced by a lot of factors—stress, personal issues, or uncertainty about the relationship. Your girlfriend's mood swings may not be intentional or meant to push you away. Open communication is key here.

It might help to talk to her directly about how her behavior is affecting you. Instead of assuming that it's because of something inherent to her being a woman, explore what might be going on in her life. Ask her if there's anything bothering her or if something in the relationship is causing uncertainty.

At the same time, make sure you're setting boundaries for your own emotional well-being. It's important to feel valued and not be in a situation where you constantly feel like you're getting the cold shoulder without understanding why.

[itsannalee]

Because you are too sweet and people think whatever they do or behave you will still be good and nice to them.
So don’t be too nice to anyone, just be nice when people are nice to you.
First give them an example of how you want to be treat, then treat them the way they treat you.

[In_Trance]

It must be something you're saying or doing

[shailasca]

Have you tried talking to her about?