A guy grabbed my boob on two separate occasions during a lift in dance class, was it purposeful or just an accident?

[Perpetuallyreverie]

There's a guy in dance class who is good all around guy. He is great at dancing and friendly, someone you'd want to trust. Though recently during our some of our classes and incident happened. The first time we were doing a bridal spin and he had his hand placed on the side of my boob but I didn't mention it cause it seemed like a innocent accident. This second time though he was spinning me and his hand was fully gripping my boob. I put my hand on his to try to make him move but he didn't budge. I have fairly small boobs but I don't understand how he couldn't have realized he was groping me for nearly 30 seconds. After the lift was done he acted completely normal and didn't acknowledge what happened at all. It made me feel extremely uncomfortable. If it was any other guy I would assume he was a creep but I feel this guy is genuinely good person. Do you think he just didn't notice what happened or is not as much of a respectful guy as I thought? And how do I approach him about something like this, if at all?

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Thank you all for your feedback. Some suggest I press charges but I'm I can't bring myself to go that far, especially if it's nothing serious. If anything close to dangerous territory happens again then I plan on confronting him directly and talking to a teacher/councilor. I also wanted to clarify that we are both minors close in age as there seemed to be confusion.

[SueShe]

If it happens once, one can it may be considered as an accident. If it happens multiple times, then it is no longer and accident and that is called sexual harassment and needs to be addressed with the authorities to take action against the perversion of that sexual offender.

I personally would have pressed charge against him directly and immediately with the police because what he did is unacceptable since you are a minor.

There is a term for what he did and that is assimilated to the behavior of a pedophile. These kind of perverts need to be removed from society as soon as possible and be put away without the option to be liberated on parole.

[red-lipstick-girl]

He did it on purpose, he's a pervert, stay away from him

[236color]

I'm not sure. I'm not a dance guy, but I did take a lifesaving course once. Bringing a drowning person out of the water using something called a "cross chest carry". I often found myself cup a woman's boob doing this, entirely unintentionally. Some of the lifts I've seen in dance or figure skating, it looks like the guy is lifting her by the pubic bone. Having seen this in Olympic competition, I assume they are doing it correctly.

[RavVid]

Confused on whether it was a lift of a spin. Don't see how it could be accidental. I'd suggest you complain directly to him and make it clear you'll escalate if it happens again.

[Perpetuallyreverie]

Just to clarify its a lift where the girl is held bridal style and the guy spins several times while holding her.

[RavVid]

OK, thanks.

[Ironic_Method]

When it happens multiple times, it's likely on purpose and he's testing the waters, especially when he can use dancing as an excuse of it being an accident. Confront him and tell him to grab you lower when he does.

[joehypo1]

What do you think he probably does this a lot and plays it off like whoops sorry , im sure thats how ditty started and it progressed

[Danny_dan92]

Ask




“Yo, why do you keep grabbing my boob for?”

[nawtee_me]

Sounds to me like he has had lots of practice at it. He has probable been doing it for years and to lots of people.

[Anonymous]

let me guess... this guy is handsome so you're giving him a pass...

and they say pretty privilege ain't real

[SueShe]

... and she is a minor and he is a pedophile and you are a pervert!

[Opinion Owner]

@SueShe she never mentioned the guy's age and admitted to giving him a pass. you're getting upset over nothing

[Perpetuallyreverie]

He actually isn't really conventionally attractive. I'm not saying he's ugly but he doesn't fit the beauty standard.

[Perpetuallyreverie]

And I would never give a guy a pass for something like this, I'm just struggling with what my next actions are.

[Wise4myage]

It wasn’t an accident the second time,