Guys, friends with benefits did check if I got home?

[Unrealiseddream]

I don't know what the standard fck buddy etiquette is. But I have this guy I've met with a few times. We vibe, hang out and fck. This time I travelled two hours to see him in his city. We had a lovely time as always. However once I headed home he did not check to see if I'd made it home. This has completely turned me off because yuck. Even if I'm not his partner he could still check on my wellbeing it's not that hard. Is this standard of fck buddies or do gents actually check on the women they have no strings attached with?

[OlderAndWiser]

friends with benefits is just sex, no emotions, no feelings, no caring: just fucking. Sounds like you want more than just sex. And you drove two hours for this, so it seems that you have some desperation about this. You need to take a few steps back and think about what you are doing.

[Unrealiseddream]

I don't want anything from him. Yes I did travel. He's also travelled to me previously. My concern is even though just fcking I need to know the person has a soul lol. I can agree I'm stepping back and will find a more courteous f buddy.

[236color]

Friends with benefits is a strange relationship model. It's a pretty new concept and there aren't years of social norms defining the etiquette of how to do it properly. The main issue with friends with benefits is how do we avoid developing feelings beyond friendship even though we are having sex. What you feel is common courtesy, he main view as overly clingy and indicating more that friendship. This is partly why this is a difficult relationship model to maintain.

[Anonymous]

Must be nice to have friends with benefits. The guy sounds like he's handsome and hung

[spartan55]

Was he made aware of your expectation?

[Unrealiseddream]

In all fairness no but I think this falls under something called " common courteousy"

[spartan55]

Okay, understand that there are many girls that would think that was simping, creepy or too much for an friends with benefits.
... just something to think about.

[Unrealiseddream]

I have taken it in account and that's not gonna fly with me unfortunately lol. He's outta here. But from your response I've learnt that I'm gonna set some actual boundaries and non negotiables next time. Points for learning.

[spartan55]

Wow, short hook for you.

[spartan55]

Pro tip: expecting respect in an friends with benefits is an exercise in futility.

[bowenw]

Guys should always check. It’s common courtesy.

[Unrealiseddream]

Yeah he didn't I'm so turned off. Not seeing my azz again that's for sure.

[bowenw]

Poor guy. I hope he learns his lesson.