Why do men act like they don’t care but they really do care?

[JazzGirl27]

This year I’ve experienced two encounters with two of my exes. Both of them told me pretty much the same thing. You were the one that got away. I remember when you did this. No woman does that. Or how you use too etc.. But during the relationship they never took notice and act like my gestures didn’t matter. Why do men do this? They can tell me everything I use to do. But when they have it they think the next woman will treat them the same.

[Anonymous]

First off, your question and description are 2 different questions.

Why do men act like they don't care but they really do care? Because women are NOTORIOUS for trying to manipulate/exploit men. As a guy you learn pretty early on to never fully let a woman inside your kitchen🧠. Because when she knows exactly what you're thinking that is when she'll try to work you.

As for why guys never tell you in the moment? That's a little harder to explain because that's not one single answer. It depends on the woman and they guy. First off, guys want a successful relationship as much as a woman dies. But while women look at a already successful relationship and wasn't to improve it. Guys conversely are about maintaining the status quo. He says to himself, "if it's not broke, don't fix it".

A guy knows he NEVER has control of a relationship. Because woman are borderline feral.😆 The only thing a man has going for him is the Bond she has with him. If not for that NO WOMAN would stay with us, AND WE KNOW IT! So when it comes down to the guy it's just whether the guy is trying to maintain the bond or not. Because like I said. We KNOW we have no control in this. We have no control over the goblins in her head. And guys that have been in enough relationships know there's a very small percentage of women that are worthy of commitment. So most guys are just going to ride the ride until the ride ends. And then he'll repeat that process until he meets a woman that is truly worthy of putting it all on the line for.

But guys do not know all this from the beginning. So guys learn this young, some guys learn this old and some guys will never learn this. But when a guy learns he passed on a good woman because he didn't understand at the time what made her good of course he looks at it with regret. And he can verbalize it now because it's over and done with. He won't be penalized for sharing his feelings.

Now everything I just said is all predicated on the assumption he's being genuine. A man is just as capable of lying as a woman is.

[jahaims]

They are immature. That isn't a gendered trait. You just interact with immature partners.

[scott04sa22]

They think their not worthy!