Did we move too fast?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy a a Birthday party in the city last Saturday and I slept over his apartment, the next night he brought me dinner. He went away on a work conference all week and facetimed me every night. He met me out on Friday night and stayed at my apartment until 7 pm the next day. He left, and i haven't heard from him since. i texted him "hi" last night and he sent a very dry response and never answered again. Did he lose interest or is he taking things slow? Did he love bomb me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that is kinda weird how he ghosted you like that after moving so fast before. From the outside looking in, I'd say maybe things did progress a little too quickly between you guys. Some red flags there.

Going back to his place after just meeting, daily FaceTimes while away, then a super long hangout session at your place.. that's a lot all at once. Usually guys like to take it slower so they don't scare a girl off.

My best guess is he probably got overwhelmed by how intense it got so quickly. Moving in that fast can be a lot of pressure, you know? And maybe now he's feeling unsure or wanting to back up a bit.

The radio silence after your text is definitely not cool though. Least he could do is be straightforward. Sounds like maybe he did go a little overboard with trying to impress you right away. That's what people call "love bombing" sometimes.

I'd give him some space for now but also don't just sit around waiting if he stays MIA. There's a chance he'll come back around once he's had a chance to process things at a less rushed pace. But you shouldn't have to chase after him either. Just see what happens I guess, and in the future maybe go slower with someone new next time.

[BarryLiverstone]

That depends. You said you both stayed over at each others apartments. Was there sexy time? If yes then you likely moved too fast and he’s happy knowing it was a casual thing. Did you want it to be casual?

[spartan55]

Like your message of simply 'hi' wasn't dry? You gave it up too soon.

[JesseP1nk]

Pffff... you two were not on the same page. He saw you as a booty call, but you saw him as a boyfriend. That is why communication is so important.

[kaucky1]

Having sex without speaking n just meeting first time lasted days