Why do men have to be so scary?

[chocolatetwopointo]

[Anonymous]

Why do you have to throw around false accusations? Most men are not scary, and if you think they are, you're either hanging around the wrong men or your misinformed. Myself is not scary and I have never harmed or have any plans to harm a woman. To be fair, women can be just as scary as men, in many cases more scary. Women commit domestic violence against a man, and 9 out of 10 times the man will be arrested even though it was the woman who committed the violence.

"So, What Can We Conclude About Domestic Violence?
From these findings, we can safely conclude the following:

The rate of female-on-male violence is equal to the rate of male-on-female violence.
Domestic violence has nothing to do with gender.
Society is misinformed about the nature of domestic violence
Domestic violence prosecution is based on myth rather than reality
Finally, women initiate domestic violence as often as men. Still, when the police arrive, it’s most often the man who is arrested, regardless of the circumstances."

https://www.domestic-violence-law.com/blog/2016/april/women-or-men-who-usually-instigates-domestic-vio/

[chocolatetwopointo]

wdym with false accusations? oh wow one man says he’d never rape a woman, what a nice guy. if i were to fight a woman i would at least have a chance, not if i were in a fight with a man. Then good thing im not attracted to women then!

[Opinion Owner]

You made the accusation that all men are scary, and that is false, so you did in fact make the false accusation that all men are scary. I'm not the only guy who would never rape a man, majority of men would never rape a woman. Most men have no intentions of beating up women, the one's that do are scumbags and the majority of us men do not claim them as our own.

[violentwalk]

If they are scary, they are not men. because, men are gentle. you are 16 which makes you are interacting with boys who think they fucking know everything and can rule the world.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so there's only a few men out there according to u? i dont interact with boys my age for that exact reason and bc they’re immature

[Kayleigh2005]

Well, have real friends around you and u didn’t say why?

But real men are wonderful and I see ur age, just block all the men DM ing you.

The creepers looking between your legs irl, and on socials don’t represent all guys

I myself love all attention, post why u think this way?

[violentwalk]

Great.

[chocolatetwopointo]

there's no men dm’ing me (thankfully) but im talking ab js men in general, everyday i see men being weird and scary, and wdym with ”post why u think this way?”

[Kayleigh2005]

Oh, I love grown men 💕

Irl or the news?

[chocolatetwopointo]

both irl and news

[Kayleigh2005]

Sorry on the way I’m typing this

Sounds like to need a protector type of boyfriend, not necessarily super big but one that makes u feel safe.

Also, u should talk to a doctor about stress and anxiety now before it takes over ur life.

Don’t be like me just drink and sex to feel better

[chocolatetwopointo]

im fine thanks i can protect myself, ill be fine

[d0x000]

Why do men have to be scary? I don't think we have to.

[chocolatetwopointo]

then dont be scary

[d0x000]

I don't think we are.

[d0x000]

Even if we are, why should we stop being scary?

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc its scary?💀

[d0x000]

You said that already, but why should we stop being scary?

[chocolatetwopointo]

bro r u dumb? why do u wanna scare off everyone?

[d0x000]

Because we can, and it's fun 😊

[chocolatetwopointo]

how exactly?

[d0x000]

Because scaring people is fun.

[chocolatetwopointo]

i asked how

[d0x000]

Gurl r u dumb? Why won't you want to have fun?

[d0x000]

See how silly this all is? That is exactly how you sound.

[chocolatetwopointo]

i asked how its fun, wdym thats how i sound?

[d0x000]

I didn't really mean all the things I have said, I just continued in this delusion to show you how silly your claim is.

And yes, that is how you sound. A couple of replies up read:
You: "then dont be scary"
Me: "Even if we are, why should we stop being scary?"
You: "bc its scary?"
Me: "You said that already, but why should we stop being scary?"
You: "bro r u dumb? why do u wanna scare off everyone?"

See the resemblance?

[chocolatetwopointo]

no? wtf r u talking ab?

[d0x000]

Hhhhh. Don't you understand? I'm saying your question from the very beginning sounds very silly.

[chocolatetwopointo]

you clearly dont understand then, but ur a man so i didn't expect you to

[d0x000]

I don't expect you to understand either why women are silly.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what makes u think women are silly?

[d0x000]

The same reason you think men are scary.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay so women are silly bc we’re scared that men are gonna kill us, rape us or js hurt us in general?

[d0x000]

Yes. Women are silly because they say that men are going to kill them, rape them, or just hurt them in general.

[chocolatetwopointo]

oh really? did you know that EVERY single woman has a story or knows someone who has a story ab SA etc? ofc u didn't bc ur a man and dont have to worry ab anything at all

[d0x000]

Yes, and EVERY single man has a story or knows someone who has a story about SA too.

And as a man, I am the one who has to worry the most because men are more likely to be victims of violent crimes than women.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and what gender has to worry more about being abused and killed by their partner? and by the way if a man gets into a fight with another man he at least has a chance, a woman doesn't

[chocolatetwopointo]

do you know a man who has been through SA?

[d0x000]

But, but, men and women have the same chances remember? Men and women are equal?

And men have to worry more about being abused and killed by their partner because studies have shown that women were reported to be the perpetrator in a majority of violence cases (70.7%).

[chocolatetwopointo]

when it comes to strength its biological. men are biologically stronger than women physically. men and women should only be equal in stuff we can change and make a difference about, not biology. id love to see ur source for that

[d0x000]

Ah I see.

Here's the source: https:// pmc. ncbi. nlm. nih. gov/articles/PMC1854883/

[d0x000]

You can remove the spaces, I'm not allowed to post links on here until I reach a certain level.

[d0x000]

Here's a blog about it by Ali Shahrestani, Esq: https:// aliesq. medium. com/extensive-research-women-initiate-domestic-violence-more-than-men-men-under-report-it-3bbaa4fbec9d

[chocolatetwopointo]

yet every other source says women get abused more smh…

[d0x000]

What every other source?

[chocolatetwopointo]

google ”which gender gets abused more in relationships?” every link will say women.

[d0x000]

You see, that's the thing. Google isn't a source. If you're making a claim like I did, you're going to need evidence. And to get evidence, you need to do reference actual research. Google isn't a reference. It's just going to provide web pages with opinions and projections, and not many of them with actual data and proper research methodology. I provided a research article that has been conducted by members of the reputable research institutes like the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

[d0x000]

That's the difference between someone who is intellectual in discussion, and someone who just does a random Google search and accepts whatever information is provided on the web. Go and read the blog post and the research article I cited.

[chocolatetwopointo]

but the links are sources, that you get to from google.

[chocolatetwopointo]

1. domesticviolenceresearch.org/.../
2. www.womensaid.org.uk/.../
3. www.thehotline.org/.../
Here you go!

[d0x000]

I didn't get them from Google, I don't even use Google search. I cited them from PubMed, which is a library of research papers and literature relating to health and biomedical science, hosted by the National Institute of Health (NIH).

[chocolatetwopointo]

so ur saying my links are bs?

[d0x000]

And doing a Google search in and of itself isn't what I am advocating against, I am saying that the sources that Google search returns should be ones that are reliable, for example, if you did use Google search and referenced something from, say, the NIH, then it's all good. But that means you'll need to know where the reliable sources are.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so how would you know if any websites ever is reliable or not?

[d0x000]

I intended to send this reply before you posted the links. I am going through the links and I have already begun to see things.

[chocolatetwopointo]

like what?

[d0x000]

- Higher victimization for male than female high school students
- Rates of female-perpetrated violence higher than male-perpetrated (28.3% vs. 21.6%)
- Wide range in perpetration rates: 1.0% to 61.6% for males; 2.4% to 68.9% for women
- Across studies, 40% of women and 32% of men reported expressive abuse; 41% of women and 43% of men reported coercive abuse
- Among large population samples, 57.9% of IPV reported was bi-directional, 42% unidirectional; 13.8% of the unidirectional violence was male to female (MFPV), 28.3% was female to male (FMPV)
- Among school and college samples, percentage of bidirectional violence was 51.9%; 16.2% was MFPV and 31.9% was FMPV
- Among respondents reporting IPV in legal or female-oriented clinical/treatment seeking samples not associated with the military, 72.3% was bi-directional; 13.3% was MFPV, 14.4% was FMPV

[d0x000]

Did you even read the links you sent?

[chocolatetwopointo]

did YOU read the links i said? if ur not even gonna try to understand i dont even see the point of this. i bet you’ve never had to worry ab walking alone at night? must be nice.

[chocolatetwopointo]

it actually concerns me how braindead men are these days tbh.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and by the way can we talk privately its getting hard to keep track of everything rn

[d0x000]

Oh I do understand, but you don't seem to understand. The things I listed in the chats support the reference I cited. Tell me what I am missing?

[d0x000]

We can chat privately if you want. I'm afraid of women labelling me as a creep if we chat privately 😊

[chocolatetwopointo]

no women will label u as creepy if you talk to them privately, stop trying to be the victim in every single situation, that might help!😊

[chocolatetwopointo]

and u need to follow me to priv chat

[d0x000]

And I do have to worry about walking alone at night because guess what? Men are more likely to be victims of violent crimes than women.

[chocolatetwopointo]

did you read until u saw those things or did you keep going after you saw them?

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes but u are more likely to fight him off, i wouldn't stand a single chance

[d0x000]

I kept going, all the way down to the references. What exactly am I missing?

Correction, I read the first link. I am yet to read the second and third.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so u also read that women are abused more in a life time?

[d0x000]

Right. Maybe you should just stop victimizing yourself as well, don't you think? And wasn't it you who replied "there's no men dm’ing me (thankfully)" to someone else's comment?

[chocolatetwopointo]

im only talking from statistics and others experiences tho. whats that got to do with anything?

[d0x000]

I am also doing the same when I say I don't want you to private chat you since I will be labelled a creep, also from experiences and statistics.

And it doesn't say women are abused, it says assaulted, and that is under the category of victimization.

[chocolatetwopointo]

unless u ask for nudes most women won't call u a creep, so if they’re saying ur a creep maybe its a sign.. assult can be abused too yk? how am i victimizing myself again?

[d0x000]

You won't know these things because you're a woman. You don't have to experience these things men experience. This is exactly what you told me (but roles reversed).

Assault can be abuse, yes, but assault is not abuse. They're different things.

You were victimizing yourself from the very beginning claiming that men are going to kill, rape, and assault you. It's not different from me saying that women are going to label me a creep by DMing you.

[chocolatetwopointo]

literally WHY would anyone call you a creep for priv chatting me when it was MY idea, pls omfg u have to be fucking kidding me, men r so braindead its concerning tbh. Yes bc it can happen to me, I've been catcalled and touched before and id love for it not to happen again.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and i think its worse to be raped or killed than to be called a creep, so i think you’ll be fine otherwise.

[d0x000]

See, victimization. Women think their problems are the pinnacle of problems, right? You're 16 years old, and I am older than 16 years old. People are going to call me a creep, but you won't understand it because you're not the one being called a creep. So why do I have to listen to you? To be honest, you're the one that's brainwashed. And I have been called a creep by women before, and I'd love for that not to happen again. And being a creep can damage reputations and cause a mirage of problems for the accusee. I have been raped and called a creep, so I know which one's worse.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah 16 years old and already have to think about this stuff, bet you didn't at my age. being called a creep will NEVER b worse than being raped or killed. now ur just fucking dramatic.

[d0x000]

To be honest, I didn't. I live in a country where women can walk at night without the fear of being attacked.

And I'm being dramatic as much as you are. I have been raped and called a creep, so I know which one is worse.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what country do u live in? what were the concequences of you being raped and what were the concequences of being called a creep? why do u say being called a creep is worse

[chocolatetwopointo]

and im still waiting for that follow

[d0x000]

I live in Qatar, one of the safest countries for men and women. Well, when I was raped, I felt uncomfortable. When I was called a creep, my self-esteem was lowered. And to me, my self-esteem is more important than my comfort. So it's worse to me.

And I'm not following you back. Don't want to be labelled a creep. And it seems like you're coercing me into following you back. That's abuse.

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg nobody is calling you a fucking creep unless ur doing something creepy man😭😭

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay to YOU then u can't say anything ab anyone else

[d0x000]

Why not? You're the one generalizing.

[chocolatetwopointo]

who am i generalizing?

[d0x000]

Men.

[chocolatetwopointo]

by saying i dont wanna get raped and killed?

[d0x000]

Not all men want to rape and kill you, so yes, you are generalizing.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ofc but u never know which ones, thats the point

[d0x000]

Yes, I know. But then why do you have to generalize it with all men? I also don't know which women are going to call me a creep, that's why I said all women.

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc i dont know which men would kill or rape me. realise how i never say ALL men i js say men, unlike u who says ALL women

[chocolatetwopointo]

u gotta realise that if u werent being a creep they’re either messing with you or they’re braindead

[d0x000]

When did I say all women?

[chocolatetwopointo]

in ur previous comment, ”.. thats why i said all women.”

[d0x000]

Oh man, it's getting hard to track. Okay, change "all women" to "women".

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay good

[bowenw]

I don't think I am, but some guys are and should be avoided.

[Anonymous]

You being a brainwashed, radicalize feminist at such a young age is very sad.

[chocolatetwopointo]

how?

[seeyounexttuesday]

Scary men built the society that is cushy for you to live in.

[Kayleigh2005]

Really is didn’t say, she doesn’t need men.

Also, she’s 16

[Billlewis]

Mostly because we're ignorant and clueless.

[Alex-Snow]

There are still some good ones out there

[moneymagnet24]

Society scared from me 🤌

[NathanDavis]

I'm not scary

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes u are

[NathanDavis]

how am I scary?

you're scary... you're a cat, and a lawyer too

[chocolatetwopointo]

ur a man, I don't know what u can do

[Stu234432]

Scary how?

[chocolatetwopointo]

how do ik if my husband or boyfriend isn't gonna kill me when we’re alone? if it were switched men would at least have a chance in fighting their girlfriend off, most girls could never