Do I break up with him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of a year and a half just said that 10k is a lot of money to kiss goodbye after I asked if he could help me cause I am in a tought situation. He says he cares and loves me but his actions contradict himself. Even one time he said hed give me for a hotel but not more than a few bucks. He says he imagines a future together but I just dont see it. You are supposed to help each other, if the roles were reversed and I had the means I wouldn't even think about helping him. I love him but I dont feel supported apart from words, he ghosts he too when I start talking about my problems

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In a relationship, true real passionate relationship you would do everything for your significant other.

[spartan55]

Why are you trying to borrow 10k from your boyfriend?

[Asker]

Cause I'm in a tough situation and he said the needs.

[Asker]

Has* the needs

[spartan55]

It's *has the means

[spartan55]

So for you care = $10,000?

[Asker]

How can you be in a relationship with someone who values you less than 10k and doesn't care you will end up homeless. But then speak of a future together

[spartan55]

Oh please, stop the drama. Go take out a loan at a bank. 10k is, way too much to be borrowing.

[spartan55]

Your entitlement is disgusting.

[Asker]

Entitlement is not the right word. Its worth. He doesn't value me

[spartan55]

No, it's entitlement. You must be out of your mind thinking he would loan that amount to you (which you likely won't pay back)

[Asker]

It's not entitlement. What happened to the men whod do anything for their girl. Nowadays guys became softer than women

[spartan55]

We are soft because we won't gift you 10k? Fuck outta here.

[Asker]

won't you help the woman you love if she is in trouble? You are 55 should have woman and kids hell grandkids if not you're failed but with this mentality you've failed even if

[spartan55]

First of all, you know nothing about me. Of course I would help my wife and kids. You are a girlfriend. How long have you been together with this guy?

[spartan55]

Hell, you can't get my age right.

[Asker]

A year and a half.

[spartan55]

Nevermind I just saw it. A year and a half together? Don't thinks so. There must be a reason he won't do it.

[spartan55]

Maybe the events and timeline that took you to needing the money. Did you offer to pay it back with interest? Or just expect him to give it to you? Do you have a history of getting in difficult financial circumstances?

[Asker]

Yess

[spartan55]

Yes what... Good grief

[Asker]

Yes I've always been in difficult financial situations

[spartan55]

Well why is that? Why is it your boyfriend's obligation to bail your ass out?

[Asker]

Cause I thought he cared about me

[spartan55]

You don't get it.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm just a girlfriend not a wife

[spartan55]

Exactly, so you may want to walk it back a bit.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so you only see a future with him if he provides you with money? 10k is a lot of money; you make it seem like it's pocket money.

[Asker]

In reality it is to him, he is well off

[Asker]

This is not the most helpful option. Whoever put it as it is. It's not. At all

[chilldude33]

Yes, save him the troublere-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Asker]

What trouble?

[jahaims]

Gold digger

[Asker]

Your mom is a golddiger

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Asker]

Only pathetic guys around me