Why did my boyfriend show my breast to his brother on FaceTime?

[Anonymous]

Tell your opinion.
So I have an Italian boyfriend
Long distance relationship ♡︎

He is 25, me 21.
One day when he was here in March. The guy came towards me calling his brother, pointed on my breast and said «Can I?»
I said «yes» (I had jumper on) and then he took the hand under my breast up and down on videocall with his brother? I don’t get it lol
His brother saw him touch me.
The Italian boy (My boyfriend) did it while smiling
and his brother smiled and laughed too

Is this normal to do a girl? And me with no experience, and I have Aspergers.

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1 y

I said yes bc as autistic I can’t always
separate healthy or unhealthy boundaries and
especially from my boyfriend one I wanna be with.

[Abbycado]

He did it because you allowed him to. How is that hard to figure out. You said yes.

[Asker]

Yes, I’m going to start saying no, sometimes I say yes to things without knowing what’s really going on. I have Asperger’s and it makes it difficult for me to separate healthy and unhealthy boundaries.

[Flower7]

He has no respect for you and is treating you like an object. This is very unhealthy. No, it’s not normal. You should end this relationship. Long distance things are a waste of time anyway.

[Asker]

You right…WHAT! he did other things
too. Kicked me in my butt little
hard, playful? But shit I am object,
that sounds dangerous. Thanks for advice!
It’s hard to leave, I like him soo!
He has strong sexual attraction to me.
Can at least only keep as friend
True what you say about long distance,
but I only like Italian men hehe

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Your boyfriend did this because he was showing off that he has a hot, big-breasted girlfriend, and that he's allowed to touch her big boobs whenever he wants to, as often as he wants to.

He was also showing off how much his hot, big-breasted girlfriend will let him get away with.

How you feel about this is up to you.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

How old is his little brother? Just curious.

[Asker]

Yes I get that he proud and think I have nice breast, but show another family member or friend intimate part? Hope I’m not seen as object

[Asker]

They are twins brothers, both are 25

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

How large are they? Am I allowed to ask?

He didn't actually SHOW your breasts to his brother, did he? He was playing with them over the shirt, right?

[Asker]

So they are small, D80, sure you can ask, yes he did play outside the shirt, but it was a thin slim shirt that I had a boob crack, so they kinda saw when he made my boob bounce to brother

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Did the brother gut turned on? Did he say anything about them?

[Asker]

Yes they laughed and the brother said «nice tits, fantastic» got turned on, he touched inside his pants…

[Asker]

I feel like he did, bc I saw
something even all happened fast

[Asker]

Then after my boyfriend ran to the bathroom contiued talking there locked door
Spoke all in Italian, didn’t
undertood so much what they said

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Where do you live? Your boyfriend is Italian, you said, so I guess you live in roughly the same part of the world?

[Asker]

Can be his best male
friend was there too

[Asker]

I live in Norway and him In Italy

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

You can message me if you want. This thread is getting awfully long.

Just a thought.

[Asker]

He says since then he was
here that, he misses
me so much and his dick too 😭

[Asker]

There is also worse things in
this case, after this visit

[Asker]

People I know tell me it’s worse

[Asker]

Thanks I can message you 🌸
And this is only between us?

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

What's worse?

[Asker]

He kicked me a little hard in my butt
2 times just randomly. Can that
be sign of abuse, violence?

[Asker]

Kicked me

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I mean, hopefully the kick was just meant to be playful? Maybe he accidentally kicked you harder than he meant to?

what's your username?

[Asker]

Yes playful, maybe that
was harder than he meant to

[Asker]

The boob flash was the worst

[Asker]

Username:ladysimonette

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Feel like talking on message? This thread is getting really long.

[Asker]

Yes can we write private?

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I tried to message you, but I couldn't. But I'm pretty sure you can message me.

[Asker]

I tried to message you and it sayid that me with lower XP can’t yet

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Well, try following me, and then I think I can message you

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

i messaged you

[In_Trance]

You lost me at Long Distance Relationship

[Asker]

How? Oh, I just day it to explain how it is.
But all I don’t get is why he did it
and if guys do it, what can it mean :’)

[jahaims]

He doesn't respect you

[Iron_Man]

What will you do now?

[Asker]

Should leave him, but I can’t
cause I like him so much.
Will set boundaries and talk to him!

[Iron_Man]

Work it out fix it

[Asker]

Do you have any advice? 😊

[Iron_Man]

Just talked to the guy honestlyN

[Asker]

Good idea, I hope he won’t be mad, but I will talk to him online and when me and him meet in real life again.

[Iron_Man]

Good job

[Asker]

I’m scared to be seen as sex object

[Iron_Man]

Then don’t have sex