What Do Guys Think Of Scenes?

[abg_doubleds]

All relationships are different, but I do consider it as cheating. My boyfriend is making excuses saying it is in guys nature and they don’t intentionally try to do it and hurt their girlfriend. "They just want to get their nut in.” He said most guys have an addiction. They don’t want the girl in the video and have no feelings for her. The next day, they won’t even think about the actor anymore they’re just using her to just jerk off. Is that true? If it is, guys need to know most girls are not comfortable with that and will get insecure. It’s very disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

What he said is true; guys are much more visual when it comes to sex, while girls tend to focus more on the emotional side. That said, if you don't agree with him watching it, it's up to you to make that clear and set a boundary, and it's up to him to either respect that or leave. If that's your plan, though —especially being in an LDR — make sure you give him plenty of content of your own to fill the gap so it doesn't become a problem.
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[abg_doubleds]

I appreciate your feedback. So if you guys watch porn, you don’t want the girl usually?

[Opinion Owner]

The girl in the video, you mean? Not in any meaningful sense, no, it's just lust in the moment.

[abg_doubleds]

He literally said the same thing. Why are guys like this that’s disrespectful and nasty is they have a girlfriend. Like stop getting turned on by another girls ass or tits

[Anonymous]

Something to value about your boyfriend: he didn't lie to you, he won't stop watching it. Most guys would have said "sure babe" and start being more sneaky about it. He was sincere and you should appreciate that.

Your boyfriend is right. Its just to get our nut off whenever our girlfriends/wives aren’t around or in the mood to have sex.

Sounds like you didn’t really come to listen and understand why. It also sounds like you’ve made up your mind and regardless of what others say you’re not gonna let this go. I think you should let it be or you can make it an issue and potentially break the relationship.

[abg_doubleds]

Yes, I do respect the honesty. So I shouldn’t worry? Guys don’t care about the girl the next day and if she’s hot? I guess that’s fine then lol it just hurts to know

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure he would much rather be having sex with you.

[abg_doubleds]

Of course, we’re long distance so haha

[jahaims]

I don't think about porn before or after. I don't pay attention to names etc. It is just a nut. Most guys are not addicted to porn though. A guy nutting to keep mental clarity is true though. If he chooses porn over you then there is a big issue.

[abg_doubleds]

He said he rather watch the POV porn too 😭 so the girl is only focused omg that’s worse, getting insecure now 💀

[spartan55]

I will bet he doesn't even remember who he jacked off to.

[abg_doubleds]

THANK YOU but it still hurts to see him think another girl is hot than me 😂

[spartan55]

Where are you getting the 'hotter than me' part? What are you expecting him to do?

[spartan55]

Do you expect him to not watch porn when you are long distance?

[abg_doubleds]

I get it because we’re long distance. He has videos of me. He should watch those instead lol

[spartan55]

Are you being serious?

[abg_doubleds]

I never lie

[spartan55]

Lol... okay... good luck controlling him.

[abg_doubleds]

Appreciate it

[BarryLiverstone]

You mean movie scenes?

[abg_doubleds]

No, I mean porn 😂 I had to be sneaky because it wouldn’t let me post it

[BarryLiverstone]

I didn’t know that porn was restricted. Yes def sneaky. Think both guys and girls use porn as a temporary tool in a sense. But if you are not feeling desire from him when you are together I can understand how you feel insecure. How long has it been an issue?

[abg_doubleds]

We been together for a year. He told he his addiction was worse before me so that’s good I guess. I was just shocked seeing that shit 8 months in the relationship already.

[BarryLiverstone]

It was shocking because he hasn’t been open and shared that with you. Could be a red flag that he can hide other addictions from you. So it’s worth a discussion and whether or not you ever understand the porn you should remind him in a relationship to be more open and honest.

Do you think he’s keeping other things from you?

[abg_doubleds]

It was shocking see his search history the first time. I really don’t think he hides it from me. He lets go on his phone if I want to. After my breakdown he said he won’t do it anymore because he hate seeing me like that

[BarryLiverstone]

Umm he lied. He will do it again, just now he will do it in secret

[abg_doubleds]

Why? Is porn really hard not to watch lol

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes and no. If he’s gotten used to watching it and it’s so easy to access it anywhere. So because it’s a habit, him quitting cold turkey is very rare

So while it’s possible, just expect to “find” porn with him again. And when you do what will happen?

[abg_doubleds]

He said he will only watch porn if it’s in pornhub and guess what. In Texas the website is banned. So he told me he stopped. I will probably go psycho again

[BarryLiverstone]

Instead of going psycho try to work on it in other ways. The fact he knows you will flip out only motivates him to hide it from you

[BarryLiverstone]

Why not make your own porn with him so that he can watch that when

he gets horny?

[abg_doubleds]

Good point. Maybe I’m too controlling am I? If everything you said is correct like it’s just porn you don’t even like the girl and y’all’s just want to nut I should not worry about it?

[abg_doubleds]

We do have some 😭 I guess I’m not enough HAHAHA

[BarryLiverstone]

Woah, you all made porn together? Then he should be using that!

[BarryLiverstone]

Well tbh he may like the girls he sees in porn, the stars make lots of content. So I can’t lie and say that he forgets them

[BarryLiverstone]

You being controlling could be positive and negative. If that causes him to feel trapped and like he can’t make healthy choices it’s bad. But if you are holding him accountable and reinforcing limitations he’s placed on himself it’s a good thing

[abg_doubleds]

We don’t post it, it’s just for us haha but that’s why I feel insecure like why is he watching these whores 😂 he did tell me he watched so many girls from the past he doesn’t even care to remember their names lol

[BarryLiverstone]

Damn. So when he tells you that I imagine you must think “so I’m gunna be like one of those whores and he will forget my name too”…. Or something like that? That’s rough af

[abg_doubleds]

No it’s different because I’m actually dating him. The pornstars don’t matter they are just there for a nut right then move on? Omg he did "accidentally” call me by his ex’s name when we were playing video games 😭

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes and no. Yes they are there to be a tool and help him finish. BUT no, he may remember their names or how they look later on. Oops, I hope his exes name is close to yours.. eek

[abg_doubleds]

I was shocked. He apologized quick though. I got mad, but he didn’t care about the game anymore but more my feelings. I don’t know, both our names starts with an A. He said he slipped up because he doesn’t call me by my name and says baby instead. Excuses fr

[BarryLiverstone]

Calls you baby.. ngl I’ve fucked up in the past and know how he felt. Never called a girlfriend an ex but we all make mistakes. As long as he does repeat it or start moaning your dads name lol