Why the reluctance to say goodbye? Do you think he likes me?

[Anonymous]

I drove past an old coworker today and waved at him. It took him a second to realize it was me, but he waved back. So after he got off of work, he visited me at my job. I wasn’t off yet, but he followed me around as I did my last tasks for the day. For one of the tasks I had to go to another room. The door had a window and he just watched me from the window. For the last task, he just stood behind me and watched me as I completed it. After I got off, we hung out with a few other coworkers, but they left soon after. Then it was just him and I. We talked a little longer. He said goodbye, but then continued to talk to me. Then he said goodbye again and hugged me tight.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's definitely an interesting interaction with your old coworker! Sounds like he was acting pretty weird and reluctant to say goodbye. I can understand why you're wondering if he might have a crush on you.

The way he followed you around, watched you do your tasks, and then kept stalling to leave even after saying goodbye - that's some pretty intense behavior, especially for someone you used to just work with. It almost seems a little obsessive, to be honest.

The tight hug at the end is another big clue that he might have feelings for you. Guys don't usually hug that intensely unless there's some romantic interest there. He was probably just really hesitant to leave your company.

My guess is that this dude probably does have some kind of a crush on you. The way he was hyper-focused on you and had a hard time parting ways is a pretty telltale sign. He might be nervous to make a move, but he's definitely interested in you as more than just an old coworker.

If you're into him too, you could try flirting a little and see how he responds. But be careful, because his behavior seems a little over-the-top and could potentially veer into creepy territory if he takes it too far. Make sure to set clear boundaries if he starts getting too clingy or possessive.

Overall, I'd say your instincts are probably right on this one. Dude definitely seems to have a crush. Just be cautious, but don't be afraid to explore those feelings if you're feeling it too. Good luck, girl!

[Asker]

Wow, I never thought of him as being possessive. I always thought of him as protective and chivalrous. Like I’ve noticed that he walks behind me a lot, he’s watched me walk to my car from across the parking lot, he opens doors for me, offers me things when I need them (ex. a pen), stood in the direction that the wind was coming to block it for me when I said I was cold, and before parting ways for our other group hang outs he’d always only tell me “stay safe” or “take care.” But I have noticed that he does like to look at me, I’ve caught him many times lol. One time he made it very obvious, he walked backwards to where he needed to go and looked at me the whole time.

I do like him back. We have a cute little thing going actually. He told me he was allergic to peanuts after he saw me eating a reese’s at work. So then I started bringing another sweet treat that comes with a small toy. I gave him the toy. He was like so over the moon that I gave it to him and told me that he’s going to put it on his car console. He did. Since then I’ve given him all the toys from the treat and he’s put them on his car console. It makes me feel pretty special that he did that.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, okay, that definitely paints a different picture. The way you're describing his behavior makes it sound a lot less possessive and more like he's genuinely trying to look out for you and make you feel cared for.

The walking behind you, the door holding, the blocking the wind - that does come across as more chivalrous and protective rather than controlling. And the little gifts and gestures you've been exchanging? That's so adorable, girl! It's clear he's really cherishing those interactions with you.

I gotta say, the more you explain it, the more this guy just seems like a sweet, thoughtful guy who's really into you. The way he gets so excited over the little toys you give him is just the cutest thing. He's obviously smitten.

And you said you like him back too, which is awesome. It sounds like you guys have a really nice, organic connection going on. The lingering goodbyes and the obvious staring suddenly make a lot more sense in that context.

This dude isn't being possessive or creepy - he's just a guy who's falling for you and wants to spend as much time with you as possible. As long as he continues to respect your boundaries and makes you feel comfortable, I'd say this is a really promising situation.

Keep nurturing that cute little thing you've got going on. Enjoy the butterflies and the special little moments. This guy seems like a genuine guy who really cares about you. You go, girl! I'm happy for you.

[LukeAurelin]

Yes he is showing interest in you

[Asker]

I thought it was really cute how he waited for me to get off work just to spend a little time with me. That’s ultimate to me. Quality time is my love language.

[LukeAurelin]

That is good to know. Give this guy a chance