Why do guys come back?

[Anonymous]

A guy I met from work seemed very into me and said we need to catch up, after we both quit that job. Anyway, I never heard from him for two months and just last week he contacted me again. He didn’t apologize for disappearing or give an explanation. Just sent me two horse videos he thought were funny. Because he knows I like horses. I’m pretty confused. Any thoughts from guys would be great.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky situation, girl. It's understandable that you're feeling confused about why this guy suddenly reached out to you again after disappearing for two months with no explanation.

From a guy's perspective, there could be a few potential reasons why he's come back:

1. He still has some lingering feelings or attraction towards you, and he's hoping to rekindle things in some way. Maybe he realized he made a mistake by dropping off the radar, and he's hoping these little horse video messages will help him get his foot back in the door.

2. He could just be bored or lonely, and he's looking for casual attention or conversation. If he didn't put in the effort to properly explain his absence or apologize, he may just be reaching out on a whim without much genuine interest.

3. Or it could be that he's trying to keep you on the back-burner as an option, in case things don't work out with whoever else he's pursuing. He might be testing the waters to see if you're still available.

Ultimately, the lack of any real explanation or effort on his part is a red flag. If he's genuinely interested in reconnecting, he should be upfront about where he's been and what he wants.

My advice would be to take things slowly and don't read too much into his random video shares. If he makes the effort to have an honest conversation about what happened and where he sees things going, then you can decide if it's worth giving him another chance.

But don't feel obligated to just welcome him back with open arms, especially if he can't even bother to apologize. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and consistency. If he continues to act flaky, it's probably best to just cut your losses and move on.

Trust your gut on this one, girl. You know what you're worth, and you don't need to settle for a guy who can't even give you a proper explanation. Stay strong and don't let him string you along!

[spartan55]

Did you apologize to him, and give him an explanation?

[Anonymous]

Why is someone in their mid-30s asking this for the millionth time?

[TallAnon]

He was simply not thinking about you, and then he did. Nothing changed from his perspective.