Why do guys always come back?

Question

There's those type of guys who constantly break up with their gf's and then come back and end up begging for them back. Why do guys do this? Why do guys always come back? Is it because of obsession or is it because they really like the girl what is it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is the truth about why men come back. They come back because they never actually wanted to leave, they just don't know how to talk and deal with issues. As a consequence to their own inability to communicate, they choose what seems (at the time) the easiest option...leave. RUN AWAY! AVOID AVOID AVOID. Ultimately however, issues surface. Then they find themselves alone with their relationship problems...that's when they come crawling back.

A really mature (and unselfish) man is comfortable talking through relationship (and personal) issues. When a man like that breaks up with you, he'll never come back.

My opinion is that you shouldn't let a guy come back. Just accept the break up, and be grateful for the happy times you had together. You only live once, there is no point to stress about something you can't control. And I know it is hard...my boyfriend just broke up with me two days ago (and I just found out that my mom is terribly ill with cancer). So if I can keep a smile on my face and move on, any woman can.

Don't waste your life waiting for someone. You are too good for that.

catt17 · Accepted Answer

I find that guys like that have big time trouble talking about how they are feeling or what bothers them, so they just run away. Then they think about things, and about how they were wrong for doing what they did, and then they try to come back and talk about it. Its basically a difficulty in expressing emotions that they don't know how to deal with. A lot of time girls get blamed for it, and if she doesn't get blamed she feels as if she was "left in the dust" and is totally confused. Then the guy ends up feeling like he doesn't know what he wants, if it would be better to find someone new or to try to make it work with you and deal with their feelings. (seems like the more difficult choice) But in the end, they end up feeling bad for treating you that way. I know, my ex was like that and that is how he explained it...He even got to the point of saying that he thought he should move on because he knows he was being unfair to me..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I honestly think it depends on the type of relationship you had in the first place.  If it was casual, and he was barely invested in it the first time round it most certainly isn't because he has come to the realisation that he loves you, but on the other hand if it was a loving and intense relationship some guys (and girls) do get scared and run off. They try someone new and then think "What the hell have I done?" I've seen that happen a few times...

acmocaco · Accepted Answer

Jeez I do a lot of this, really trying to stop.

I always have a good reason for dumping... but usually I don't think it through. I never try to talk things out, I just go straight to the dumping. Then I realize, shit probably could have talked through that one.

dfg456 · Accepted Answer

It's because they see another girl that they feel is more attractive and interested, but either get shot down or find out that she isn't available. That's when they come crawling back.

Qdbrown · Answer

I got into this twice in my life. And it started when the girl I was seeing wanted to advance the relationship faster than I was ready. I would get scared off because I wasn't ready.

I would breakup, and be gone for a few months and she would initiate a follow up that lead us to get back together for a short time again, until she started back up with advancing the relationship.

Looking back, it was a pathetic attempt to get me back, and me being horny and not minding to get back into a comfortable with a simple relationship.

After the third breakup I didn't come back.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

They don't always and you explain this by stating there are those "types of guys" which implies there are other types that don't do this.

Why does anyone do anything like this? Sometimes people act before they think and regret their actions later. I would guess that a decent amount of people have acted or said something before thinking and regretted it afterwards.

Knowing this doesn't excuse the behavior however.

darkangelina · Answer

haha! ye I know what you mean.. why are they so stupid? anyways.. I just say no, ur loss sukka! lol  i know what didn't answer your question, becuz I'm not a guy.

finecute · Answer

I don't think obsession lol, hey it might be, but I think it's because there is something about the girl that they like and whose knows, they guy might have strong feelings for that girl. They always came back when they realize what they have lost.

Ascarymanasks · Answer

I usually have a sensible reason for leaving her but than sometimes I think that there could’ve been a way to solve it and that I should go back and make things right lol

Anonymous · Answer

i have had a situation or two where I'm really into a girl, so I date her and I find that I'm into her physically, and there is no other reasoning for the realationship. so it ends and I stayed friends with her and we talked a lot and then I found that mental and emotional click between us and I wanted to be back with her.

Anonymous · Answer

It's fear of being alone...when they break up with the girl they realize they are alone, or worse yet that the girl will easily find someone better and they won't be able to find anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

INSECURITY. Some guys feel like they have to be with a girl in order to feel worthy/important so they come crawling back because they can't stand to be alone and can't find someone else.

Anonymous · Answer

cause these are immature guys.they chose the easy way whenevr it gets tough they dump the whole relation.but a true man won't ever dump you unless he is sure he doesn't want u

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

BC you are my strange addiction bad bad news one of us is gonna loose i am the powder you are the fuse just add some friction

MJtheCoach · Answer

Because he thinks he has other options, but probably because he’s fat or has no skills or sense of style he comes to the same girl

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

No idea. Those kind of relationship, always on and off, as far as I am concerned is no relationship at all.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Drama queens. Same with the girls who keep taking them back.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

No clue lol. They’re nuts.

PeterSmith1983 · Answer

Did you have that happened with a guy?

In_Trance · Answer

because women let them

jasco · Answer

they just horny

Fuentes · Answer

I ain't coming back

LegendaryIcon · Answer

desp.

Why do guys always come back?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said