Can a guy who negs stop negging? What should I do if I want to give a negger another chance? ?

[Partygirlsj]

I’m a lifelong bullying victim. Needless to say I probably have very low self esteem deep down and so I really can’t take the negging stuff some guys like to do.

He took it too far recently and I really just can’t take it. I can take abuse. I like to be dominated, controlled by my man and bossed around by him but negging is one thing I can’t take.

I figured people don’t just up and change especially not because you tell them you wish they would 😝 . He’s tying to interact with me at work lately and be helpful to me outta nowhere.

I don't know what he wants. I think he likes me tbh but again how can someone like a person yet also keep negging them.

[BlackRose97]

If you aren't making a troll post about the word negger sounding like the n word, then you have to distinguish if this is playful teasing, or harmful insulting. If it's the latter, tell him to get lost, and report him to your boss if it doesn't stop. If it's playful teasing, learn to tease back. This is how people build friendships. If you really can't stand it, just tell him that teasing isn't funny to you and won't play along. Then, ignore him.

[Nikki1989]

It is possible, but it requires sincere self-awareness, a willingness to change, and genuine effort.

[ohsheeT]

I have never ever met one person that did that has ever changed as a matter of fact they get worse as I get older and they get grumpier and they become ruder and their tone of voice gets uglier and so do they

[Purpleronnie]

Who knows / cares. I cared so little for this question I nearly nodded off half way through reading it 😂… what the hell is a negger anyway … no wait.. I honestly don’t care. #neverknowinglyanegger

[Staximus]

Why don't you try being a straightforward and effective communicator and just tell him you don't like that shit, and tell him to stop doing it.

[Partygirlsj]

I know. I’m trying to get the chance to say that. I just don’t know if someone would be able to change their personality just because I asked them to.

[Staximus]

Who cares, tell him to stop

[Partygirlsj]

Why?

[Staximus]

What do you mean why? Because you don't like it, ding dong

[Partygirlsj]

But I already started ignoring him but I didn’t say it’s because he negged too hard but he already knows his negging bothers me but now he’s trying to be nice and interact with me again and I’m letting him in but if I tell him stop negging me in the future, would he really stop? It seems like it’s part of him

[RingOfFire]

Is there something that seems politically incorrect about this post or is it just me?

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[BlackRose97]

Seems fine to me. I can't stand them dirty neggers, personally. Let me guess though, you're a negger lover, aren't you?

[RingOfFire]

😯😯😯

[BlackRose97]

This might be the first time I made a guy uncomfortable with a joke. Marking my calendar 🗓️ The tables have turned 😂

[RingOfFire]

To be, or not to be, that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles
And by opposing end them. To die—to sleep,
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks
That flesh is heir to: 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To die, to sleep;
To sleep, perchance to dream—ay, there's the rub:

[LiamJHayden]

Negging is pure manipulation, so be aware that even if that stops the negging he might still use other manipulation techniques.

[WhitneySnow]

What is negging?

[Still-alive]

@WhitneySnow its when a guy will deliberately put you down in a way that makes you seek their approval. its pure manipulation.

it was developed during the PUA days and i guess still persists.

[WhitneySnow]

@Still-alive thanks. That’s awful. I would never even talk to a guy who did that to me.

[Still-alive]

@WhitneySnow yeah here's some examples. backhanded "compliments" is basically what it is

[WhitneySnow]

@Still-alive gross

[jeremy_09]

This is a guy posting this, no girl would know what a "negger" is.

[kaucky1]

They are the downfall of EVERYBODIES lives🌀🫧✨💫💢

[spartan55]

Who said he wants anything?

[Iron_Man]

What is a Negger a nagger

[DryGermanGuy]

Don’t encourage the mass spammer.

[disappoint3d]

It sounds like you guys should just fuck.

[In_Trance]

Ridiculous