Did I make the right decision to cut him off?

[Lyhra4]

I gave too much of myself to a guy on Snapchat and always expected more. Even though he mentioned he was not into relationships he kept me along having conversations constantly and lately there were days in which he was gone. Everytime he was with friends or family I would completely be ignored by him , some times he answered 8h later other times even on the other day. I dedicated myself so much to him I have confessed him super personal stuff I was so invested that I thought I could expect something. I never understood why he never sent me snaps , the only one I receive was one from the gallery. I have asked many times and he never sent me. Despite everything he meant a lot to me and I couldn’t focus on anyone else than him. Yesterday he left me on read at 9 and today didn’t even have the preoccupation to text me something. I never felt so undervalued in my life even though he said on Monday I was his type. I feel ridiculous to have dedicated so much effort into him to receive so few. Today I decided to tell him goodbye and removed him. I couldn’t handle anymore tge pain of being treated this way, like a pass time. I really tolerated it many times , many times I kept waiting for his messages , while others he was texting all day long. Did I do the right thing to remove him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, that sounds like such a tough and draining situation. I totally get why you'd feel so undervalued and hurt after giving so much of yourself to this guy, only to be constantly ignored and treated like an afterthought.

The fact that he straight up told you he wasn't into relationships, but then kept stringing you along and having these deep personal conversations with you, is a major red flag. It sounds like he was just using you for emotional validation and attention, without ever intending to commit.

And the way he'd ignore you for days on end, then suddenly resurface - that's just not cool at all. You deserve way better than being someone's backup option or side piece. The fact that he couldn't even be bothered to send you a real snap is just salt in the wound.

I think you absolutely did the right thing by finally cutting him off and removing him. You have to protect your own heart and self-worth. Staying in that situation any longer would have just continued to chip away at your confidence and emotional wellbeing.

It's gonna hurt for a while, I'm sure. Investing that much of yourself in someone, only to have them treat you so carelessly, is bound to leave scars. But in the long run, removing that toxic presence from your life is the healthiest choice.

Now you can focus on rebuilding yourself, reconnecting with people who truly value you, and finding someone who's gonna love and respect you the way you deserve. Don't ever settle for crumbs again, girl. You're worth so much more than that.

Stay strong, and don't second-guess your decision. You did the right thing by putting yourself first. Wishing you all the healing and happiness in the world. You got this!

[Lyhra4]

What a beautiful message , thank you very much! 🥹 I am indeed in pain right now and to be honest I don’t know when I’ll be fine. These last days since I removed him I have reconsidered reading him because unfortunately I still can’t accept he used me that much. I’m really resisting to the urge. I will ever believe I was not enough for him 😔. The fact that he never sent me a snap makes me wonder how ugly he might have considered me. I hope one day I will heal 😢

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww sweetheart, I feel you. This is definitely a tough and painful time, and it's totally understandable that you're struggling to fully move on. The urge to reach back out to him or to doubt your own worth is so real, but you gotta stay strong.

Don't beat yourself up for still having those lingering feelings and doubts. Healing from something like this doesn't happen overnight. It's gonna take time and patience with yourself. But I promise, as hard as it is now, you will get through this.

The fact that he never even bothered to send you a real snap says way more about him than it does about you. He's the one who's shallow and unappreciative, not you. You're a beautiful, talented, worthy person - he clearly didn't deserve your time and energy.

Try not to internalize his crappy behavior as a reflection on your own value. This is all on him, not you. You gave so much of yourself, and he took advantage of that. But that just shows how big your heart is, not how "ugly" or undeserving you are.

Keep reminding yourself of your own worth, girl. Surround yourself with people who truly care about you and lift you up. And be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work through the pain. You've got this. One day at a time, you're gonna heal and come out even stronger.

Sending you so much love and support during this difficult time. You're gonna get through this, I promise. Stay strong, keep your head up, and don't ever doubt how amazing you are. Better days are ahead, I know it. 💜

[MissTrix]

Yes you made the best choice you could have! You did amazing and you deserve so much more!

Guys are awful and terrible and even more heartless online!

You deserve a guy or girl who messages first and sends snaps waiting for you to message back! Who gives you the care you give and the love you have in your big wonderful caring heart!

Good luck

[Lyhra4]

Thank you for such a sweet message, I’m grieving a lot in such a horrible way. This guy was present talking me all day since September and suddenly he started to disappear slowly until on Wednesday he indeed opened my message and left me and didn’t even text the other day which was something he was used to to. I meant nothing while he was everything to me. I can’t express how painful this is. I feel abandoned, used and nothing more than a pass time. I can’t even look at the mirror now and appreciate myself. All I feel is just ridiculous and worthless 😢

[MissTrix]

Share away this is why I stopped seeing guys! Girls do it too but it's usually after a fight not just o I'm bored of you after every day!

Your so amazing and worth the love you give out! Here is a hug and a heating pad for the pain!

Your so pretty don't listen to that self hate!