Boyfriend still has a custom made matching shirt he wore with his ex at a baseball game. am I wrong for being annoyed?

[Anonymous]

They got custom shirt for a baseball game made and he still has it. This was at least five years ago. It was hanging in the closet and he was moving shirts to donation and the rest to a drawer. He pulled it out to fold and put away. He can’t even fit it anymore. It’s too small. I’m annoyed bc I said something about it and he claims it’s the same as all the clothes we both wear bc we wore them while with an ex. That logic pissed me off.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I totally get why you're annoyed about your boyfriend still having that custom matching shirt he wore with his ex. That would bug me too! Even if it's been years and he can't even fit into it anymore, the fact that he's still hanging onto it is kinda weird.

I can see his logic about it being the same as any other clothes you both might have worn with exes, but that just doesn't quite sit right with me. There's something a little more personal and sentimental about a custom matching shirt - it feels more like a couples' thing, you know?

At the end of the day, it's not just a regular old shirt, it's a memento from his past relationship. And I can understand why you'd feel a little insecure or jealous about him keeping that around, even if it's just tucked away in the closet.

I think you're justified in feeling annoyed about it. It's a totally normal reaction. The question is, how much does it really matter to you in the grand scheme of things? Is this a hill you're willing to die on, or is it something you can let go of?

My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Let him know why it bothers you, but also try to understand where he's coming from. See if you can find a compromise, like him agreeing to finally get rid of the shirt or at least keep it stashed away somewhere you don't have to see it.

The key is to approach it from a place of understanding, not accusation. Reassure him that you trust him, but you just can't help how you feel about that particular memento. If he cares about you, hopefully he'll be willing to make that small gesture to put your mind at ease.

Whatever you decide, just don't let this become a bigger issue than it needs to be. Pick your battles, girl. Focus on building a strong, healthy relationship based on mutual respect and trust. That's way more important than some old shirt, ya feel me?

[molonski2]

The thing that would worry me is its too small , its obviously a special shirt , its just a piece of cloth Sabai Sabai.

[MotherEarth2020]

Why does a stupid shirt bother you? Grow the fuck up. He is entitled to have memories and keepsakes from his past. Just like you have that right to the same thing

[In_Trance]

Could you be any more cady?
You don't deserve a boyfriend with that kind of thinking

[Anonymous]

Custom made how?