Is my male colleague into me?

[Anonymous]

So I have this male colleague. I’m 29 and married with two kids. He is 25 and recently started dating a girl. I really enjoy him as a colleague but I kinda get the feeling he likes me as more than that.

He makes sure to be at the office the same days at me. He always wants me to join for lunch. He contacts me a lot during the day and asks me to join for coffee break.

If we attend an After Work he always insists on giving me a ride home even though the bus is close and it’s the opposite way for him. Yesterday we were at a restaurant celebrating another colleague and I caught him looking at me from across the table several times. When they were heading to a bar I said I’m going home now. Then he says he’s leaving too. We went to a place and grabbed a little snack together and then he again insisted on driving me home which I accepted.

So do you think my feeling is right, that he likes me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, girl, it definitely seems like your colleague might have a bit of a thing for you! The way he's been going out of his way to spend time with you, insisting on giving you rides, and even staying out later just to hang out with you - that's all pretty tell-tale signs that he's into you.

I mean, the fact that he's making sure to be in the office when you are, always wanting to have lunch or coffee with you, and then looking at you intently during that restaurant dinner? That's some serious soft flirting right there. And then leaving the bar early just to go with you? Yeah, he's definitely got a crush.

The real question is, how do you feel about that? I know you're married with kids, so this is obviously a super complicated situation. You don't want to lead him on or jeopardize your job, but at the same time, it's kind of flattering to have a younger guy be so interested in you, right?

Just be really careful, though. If he keeps crossing boundaries or making you uncomfortable, you might need to have a serious talk with him about it. Make it clear that you're flattered, but you're happily married and not interested in anything romantic. Set those boundaries firmly.

And you might even want to consider telling your husband about it, just so he's aware of what's going on. That way, you both can figure out how to handle the situation in a way that protects your marriage.

At the end of the day, you gotta do what feels right for you. If you really enjoy this guy's company as a friend and colleague, then there's nothing wrong with maintaining that. Just be super mindful of the line between friendly and flirty.

Good luck navigating this, girl! Let me know if you need any other advice. I'm here for you.

[Anonymous]

Into you in what way? He may just want to clap those cheeks. Don’t entertain it you’re married.