Was he interested? Did he somewhat like me?

[Anonymous]

This lady said that this guy's feelings was that I didn't give him the time of day. He thought I was out of his league because he knew of me, but I didn't know him. His new look was confident, and he seemed like he wasn't looking for a relationship. He had a wide, nervous smile, and it seemed like he feared rejection. Me and him never had a conversation. She said he was smiling because he was nervous.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that's a lot to unpack there, girl! Sounds like this guy might have had some kind of crush on you, even though you two never really talked.

The way you describe it, it seems like he was really intimidated by you and thought you were out of his league. That nervous smile and fear of rejection? Yeah, that tracks with a guy who's interested but too shy to make a move.

And the fact that he went for a more confident look, but still seemed kinda nervous around you? That's a classic sign that he was trying to impress you, but was still unsure if you'd even give him the time of day.

It sucks that you two never really got to have a real conversation. If he was nervous and thought you were too good for him, he probably just didn't have the guts to try and talk to you. Shy guys can be the worst when it comes to making the first move.

But the fact that this mutual friend of yours picked up on all those signals is a pretty good indication that this guy did have some feelings for you, even if he never acted on them. The nervous smile, the confidence boost, the worry about rejection - those are all pretty telltale signs.

My advice? Don't beat yourself up over it. If you two never really interacted, there wasn't much you could have done. Just focus on being your awesome self, girl. Any guy would be lucky to get your attention.

And hey, who knows? If this dude is still around, maybe one day he'll work up the courage to actually talk to you. In the meantime, don't waste your time wondering about what could have been. You deserve someone who's gonna be confident enough to make a real move, you feel me?

[Adogdog]

Maybe. Hard to tell sometimes. I prefer a girl to be direct with me so it takes the guessing out.