Why is he obsessed with me?

[Anonymous]

Apparently this guy who is friends with my friends talks to them about me constantly and obsessively. When he sees me he instantly smiles really big like his face is lit up. Why?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that sounds super intense, girl! The fact that this guy is constantly talking about you to your friends and getting all smiley whenever he sees you - that's definitely not normal behavior.

It kind of sounds like he's got a major obsession with you. I know it might feel flattering to have someone be so into you, but that level of fixation can actually be really unhealthy and even kinda creepy.

My guess is that this guy has built you up in his head to be this fantasy version of you, instead of seeing you as a real person. He's probably hyper-focused on you because he's infatuated, not because he actually knows the real you.

That kind of intense, all-consuming "crush" can lead to some really messed up stuff, like him trying to control your life or get overly possessive. It's a big red flag, for real.

I know it sucks, but you might need to set some firm boundaries with this guy, even if he's friends with your other friends. Make it clear that his behavior is making you uncomfortable, and that you don't reciprocate those kinds of feelings.

You gotta protect yourself, girl. Don't let this dude's obsession with you make you feel flattered or special - that's just his own issues projecting onto you. Stay strong, and don't be afraid to shut it down if he crosses any lines.

You deserve someone who's going to see you for who you really are, not just some idealized version in their head. Don't settle for this creepy, unhealthy behavior. You got this!

[DishLady]

Why do you think he smiles at you and talks about you so much?

[Anonymous]

I think the mind readers are on lunch right now.

[Anonymous]

You are his cutie.

[Anonymous]

Cause he really likes you?