Could My Male Friend Have Feelings for Me?

[Anonymous]

I have this guy in my class whom I’ve known for a long time from an old school. We both moved to the same college, and since we didn’t know anyone there, we naturally started talking more. Recently, as we’ve been spending more one-on-one time together, I’ve started developing feelings for him.

I’ve heard that most guys believe men and women can’t really be just friends, so I thought that by spending more time together and getting closer, maybe he’d start to like me too. I consider myself an attractive person—people tend to turn their heads when I enter a room—so I wonder if he sees me as just a friend or if he might want something more.

The only thing that makes me doubt is that I’m four years older than him, and I wonder if that affects how he sees me. One thing I’m sure about is that if he wanted a hookup, he wouldn’t say no—but I’m not sure if he would actually want a relationship with me.

Yes

No

[Summeroflove]

Well men and women can be friends that’s nonsense…. Sometimes one person does develop feelings and the other one does not, sometimes people eventually become more, and other times they just stay great friends.

I can’t read his mind but it seems like he may like you. Here is the thing…. Be DIRECT and ask him. Express interest ask him how he feels then see if maybe he wants to grab coffee.

The last thing you want to do if he does like you is wait too long until he may start liking someone else. Look attraction can come and go… Don’t assume you’re the only woman in his life whose interested. Someone else couid grab his attention or outright make a move on him.

Rejection is scary I understand that and it’s a possibility. If he’s a good friend he won’t be a dick about it. Even if you’re rejected you have closure number one and number two… You won’t be wasting your time on someone whose not interested, only sees you as a friend, and will never make a move. As well as making things awkward between one another. By making more subtle gestures…

If you’re not given a clear answer. Leave the ball in his court and give him some space. If he’s interested he will find you and if he never does eventually you’ll start moving on.

[Anonymous]

Probably.