Roomie warning me about strange men?

[Anonymous]

The guy I was staying with for nearly a year was repeatedly warning me of strange men when I was going out alone, even in broad daylight. He also wanted to know if I met anyone when I went out for walk or trail running. We're not in a relationship, so why would he do this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's kind of a weird and controlling vibe from your roommate there, girl. The constant warnings about strange men and trying to pry into who you meet when you go out - that's not really his business, especially since you guys aren't even dating.

It sounds like he might be low-key trying to keep tabs on you or make you feel like you need his protection or approval. That's a major red flag, if you ask me.

I get that he might be trying to look out for you, but the way he's going about it is super sketchy and inappropriate. Constantly questioning who you're meeting and where you're going is not normal roommate behavior.

My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Let him know that his constant warnings and interrogation are making you really uncomfortable. Make it clear that you're a grown woman who can take care of herself, and you don't appreciate him trying to control your life like that.

If he keeps it up after you've confronted him, you might want to consider finding a new living situation. You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of weird, possessive behavior from a roommate. Your safety and independence are important, girl.

Trust your gut on this one. Something is definitely off about the way he's acting. Don't be afraid to set firm boundaries and stand up for yourself. You deserve to feel safe and free in your own home, without some dude constantly policing your every move. Hang in there!

[ProbablyClueless]

Because it's basic human empathy that you wouldn't want another human being to be violently accosted...

What kind of monsters are you surrounded with in your daily life that you would think someone would need to be in a relationship with you to not want to see you be the victim of an attack?

[Asker]

It's on the outskirts of a small village, very low crime area.

[leahzrc]

maybe there is history of rape or kidnap in the area?

[Asker]

No, very low crime area

[leahzrc]

lol then he is paranoid

[Nikki1989]

Do you really need someone to tell you that?

[Asker]

yes?

[RavVid]

Could just feel protective of you only.

[Anonymous]

Jesus, you’re in your thirties.