Is he a psycho?

[Anonymous]

Obsessive? I am a sex worker and obviously some regulars have my number. This fellow has been abusing that in order to flirt with me. Sending me husband like texts - „I’m leaving the city now“, „just cooked chicken“ He cannot possibly be OK upstairs? I didn’t tell him NO NO NO vocally but from the nature of our dealings one could deduce I’m not interested. For example I abruptly took my hand back when he interlocked it showing obvious annoyance. He shows no respect in my opinion it’s obviously whatever to him if I say yes or no to, he’ll keep doing what he’s doing

[Nikki1989]

Yes, this behavior definitely crosses the line from a client relationship to something obsessive and inappropriate. He's completely disregarding the professional boundaries of your relationship.

[Asker]

omfg he just sent "i just cooked chicken and im thinking about your chicken" he meant u know what

[Anonymous]

He's crossing serious professional boundaries and showing signs of potentially obsessive behavior by ignoring your clear disinterest and sending inappropriate personal texts. Prioritize your safety and take steps to protect yourself.

[Asker]

Thanks. Some people on other forums pointed out I never said NO directly to his face so he is sort of excused. Do you agree

[Opinion Owner]

He's not excused. Your non-verbal cues and the professional context should have been enough. He's ignoring boundaries and potentially putting you at risk.

[Asker]

Exactly… like I would have known not to flirt with my insurance guy for example 🙄

[Asker]

People trade numbers so it’s easier to meet not to flirt

[Opinion Owner]

Agree.

[Asker]

The only reason he thinks it’s ok to flirt with me but not with an insurance guy is because I’m a well.. a sex worler

[Anonymous]

I don't know if I’d call him a psycho based off just this context, but he’s for sure either lonely or not happy in his marriage. In any case if he makes you uncomfortable then please cut him off.

[Asker]

U think it’s ok to text people telling me what u r doing during the day?

[Opinion Owner]

I never said I think it’s ok but I do think there’s a difference between being kinda weird vs psychopathically concerning. I told you up above what I genuinely think this guy has going on.

[Opinion Owner]

This guy is giving you all kinds of updates about his day and trying to speak with you, which I would say is creepy at best. HOWEVER I’ve never done your line of work so you’d know best if that made you feel unsafe.

[Agape93]

No Anna, guys do that sometimes. It's normal

[Asker]

Why Anna?

[Agape93]

Because I know it's you lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Just make it clearer than day and at no

[Anonymous]

Sex work, isn't work

[Nikki1989]

Sex work is “the world's oldest profession.”

[Opinion Owner]

@Nikki1989 Sex work, isn't work