Guys, How can I tell if a guy is more than sexually attracted to me?

[Anonymous]

I reconnected with a love interest from 12 years ago. We liked each other, but our lives were in different places, and it never amounted to a relationship. He recently started messaging me after making comments on a Facebook post that I had posted. He’s been very flirtatious and I have been as well. Some of our messages have been sexual and many have not. Definitely is clear that we are wanting each other but not sure what his intentions are. I recently went over to his place for the first time, and he asked me to stay the night. We stayed up all night talking and fell asleep talking. There was some kissing and lots of cuddling, but no sex and no pressure to have sex. After we fell asleep, he’d occasionally reach over to pull me closer. I haven’t been with anyone in 7 years so I felt a bit awkward sleeping next to a man but he made me feel comfortable and wanted. I didn’t plan on spending the night, so it surprised me when he asked me if I wanted to sleep over right when I got to his place. I told him I hadn’t planned on it but if he wanted me to I would. We have been texting nonstop since we reconnected, and he sends me paragraphs and paragraphs about what he is doing or how his day was. He always responds to my texts right away. And if my message does not require a response, he mostly comments with ❤️. I’m not used to any guy using ❤️ for anything. So I’m not sure if that means anything or not. There’s been lots of laughing and joking, we have a similar sense of humor.

[RingOfFire]

I wouldn't rule this relationship out, but I would be very careful because you are clearly hungry for a relationship after so long without one. That puts you in a vulnerable position and you have to make sure you are not just settling for something that doesn't really exist except in fantasy.

My advice... take it slow. If he's seriously interested in more than just sex, he will stick around.

[Asker]

Thanks. Sounds like good advice. On my end, I never forgot about him, so part of me wonders if my attraction is more about unresolved feelings and curiosity. Definitely not wanting to jump right into anything because I feel like once you start having sex, it makes things so much more confusing. He also got out of a long term relationship seven months ago, and he was with this girl for like eight or nine years. She left him for another woman. So this might just be him figuring out what’s out there these days and it’s really easy to reach out to somebody that you had a previous relationship with when you are recovering from a break up. I guess like you said, time will tell.

[MasterKS]

Whatever happens the truth is men want sex in any term.

[Asker]

Well sex is the obvious part. And honestly, if a guy doesn’t want to have sex with you, that would just be obvious that he’s not into you at all.

[MasterKS]

@asker so nothing more than sex, its just a myth people created in mind.

[Asker]

I’m just saying that if a guy likes you, he’s probably gonna want to have sex with you regardless of whether or not he likes you beyond having sex with you. And my apologies if I don’t understand what you said

[In_Trance]

Ask him

[Asker]

That would be the easiest way to find out. I guess I’m afraid to know the answer and at the same time I don’t wanna put any pressure on the situation because I’m not sure exactly what I’m doing. But you’re right that would make sense to ask him and then it would eliminate all the wondering.

[Asker]

Since I see that you were 26, I’m going to ask a separate question-
Would you be able to tell me why men in their 20s are attracted to older women?
For the last 20 years the only guys who approach me have been in their 20s, so even though I have aged, the guys who ask me out are still in their 20s and usually have dead mothers or were raised without a mother. And no, I am not finding these guys on dating apps or at clubs. Starting to think I’m giving off some kind of milf energy 😂

[In_Trance]

Stability
While it's not always the case chances are older women have their shit together so to say as opposed to younger ones who don't, more often than not