Well first of all a guy will say anything to get into your pants. So dont believe your the most beautiful woman ever or I want you forever or your the one... feelings like those take time they dont happen in the first few months of meeting someone lust happens.
Lust makes people do and say things they generally wouldn't... to get what they want the ultimate satisfaction.. sex is a very good thing when both people are on the same page. Guys give love to get sex and Woman give sex to get love.
My biggest piece of advice is to be kind with yourself you saw more of a potential for a relationship than he did... so missed communication is key for example women say things like "I want someone to grow old with. That will love me no matter what.." when in reality she's thinking this is my somebody and he answers me too.. all he heard women was someone thats what he wants too he didn't see someone as being her he was thinking in the future. she's alreadu seeing wedding bells. You have to be forward talking to guys "I want someone to grow old with. That will love me no matter what. Do you think it could be you? Do you see us together for as long as we live?" Cause the guy didn't lie in the first scenario your two communication was off.
a lot of people just want sex today relationships are rough its hard to know who you can trust. So before you sleep with a guy ask him about his life goals.. Do they match up with yours? If not your looking for something serious and you already know he wants to be a pilot so he won't be coming home to you every night.. its unfair to him if you pursue the relationship knowing this cause one or both of you will be miserable. Before you have sex id wait 3 months at least establish a foundation what are his likes/dislikes, his desires, his dreams? If you jump right to sex thinking that will give you a relationship why buy a cake when you can get one for free? Always establish what you are... wait at least 3 months.. dont tell them you are waiting just say your not ready you will weed out the ones that just want sex.. if they find out your waiting most will try harder to get you too only two I actually respected that fact.. I have 15 exs.. some dumped me after a week of no sex.. now I am in a wonderful relationship for a year and a half so dont give up.. I know its discouraging! When you meet someone ask them if they are looking for a relationship or a fuck buddy... cause if someone just want sex no strings attached thats totally okay.. I have been there.. it becomes wrong when one thinks its just sex and ones looking for a future with that person.. as long as you both see eye to eye thats all that matters and for that to happen communication is key!
That is the problem with western guys. You only can know it by waiting till marriage, otherwise there is no guarantee. So i never understand guys who complain about high bodycount of women (-even one can be high for some men-) but use dating as a way to hook up with girls instead of marrying them, and blame them for giving sex so easily but also complain when the girl is prude and want to wait till marriage. When they whore around till their 30s, they suddenly want to settle down with young women by grooming these girls, instead of marrying in their 20s (-when their sperm quality was not shit -). The same hypocritical guys get butthurt when young women do the same shit as them and dont marry their old ass.
Of course i can't generalize and i am summarizing the conversations from many guys from internet/ real life.
This is the first time that i am happy for being middleeastern lool. We date to know eachother and not to fuck, and when we know eachother enough, we marry and that is it. Unfortunately many western guys would think you are crazy weird christian prude girl when they find out that you want to wait till marriage
There's no quick answer. It's all about how he treats you when sex is off the table. So, for example, if he's spending the day at the park with your family, with a bunch of kids around, etc., then he's going to know that sex isn't going to happen there. Does he still treat you well? Does he still pay attention to you? Does he enjoy his time together with you? If so, then the chances that he's looking for a real relationship with you are far higher than if he doesn't. But, you really have to look at this over time, because anyone can put on a good front for a short period of time, but if it's not real, it won't last.
Also, look how he treats other people, especially people that are in "lower" social positions: service-people, waiters, etc. Someone who views folks like that as "below him" and treats them poorly will eventually treat you just as bad - but if he's respectful, then you can probably expect that in the long run.
Here's the deal, EVERY guy wants to have sex, period. There is really no way to know if someone wants a one night stand or a relationship unless you ask them.
The problem with asking is that all guys want sex so the ones that are honest and tell you they do not want a relationship are far and few in between. You now have a decision to make. Have sex and take a chance or don't and wait until you are married. That is the great thing about being a women, you control who you give yourself too. Unless you live in the middle east and those women are just plain screwed.
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You’ll know because he won’t do all the boyfriend things that are typically done by guys when they’re really into you. No he’s not playing it cool or taking it slow or is scared or being casual and friends first, if he wants more and is serious about you, guys are simple- you will know because he will either tell you or show you and you will not question it. If he isn’t doing anything special, like doesn’t text you often or ask about you or invite you out and just wants to “hang out” and is super casual, the guy is a dud and just wants sex. If he isn’t consistent and attentive then scrap him.
Examine his actions more than his words. I know that’s difficult online than irl but its true.
if he gets all touchy feely despite your uncomfortableness that is definitely a no no and you should drop him immediately.
online if they try to sext you before you really get to know them well enough id also raise red flags.
just pay attention to how much or little they push or just talk about sex with you especially when you haven’t brought it up yourself.
if he's crossing your boundaries despite your wishes id also raise concern. But that requires you to express them early on when talking to him.
A friend told me a guy who pretends to like you will look at the big picture but forget the little details, he might remember you like candy, but forget what flavour is your favourite, he might remember you like to wear blouses but forget the colour of the blouse you were wearing last week, when I like a guy, I always remember what he is wearing and how he styles his hair, if I don’t remember it’s probably because I’m not interested in him and if I like a guy I will ask him questions because I find his life to be fascinating. Those are ways to tell if a guy likes you. Especially if he is curious about your sisters or brothers or uncles or aunts, a person who wants a long term relationship will find your extended family to be fascinating.
I mean you can clearly tell if it's going to be a wam bam thank you ma'am one night stand or not. I mean if it is a hit it and QUIT IT type thing they will be super nice to you and overly polite to try to get in those panties. Fuck he may even buy u new outfit towear fuck id wear it. I am taking anything I can when it comes to shit like that , cause I have always been on the other end of this fuckery
When you say no to sex he won’t get mad. He will make u be comfortable and WAIT. He will talk about other things and want to get to know you as a person.
Never have sex on the first or second date. If there's a 3rd date and he's not pressuring you, that a good start. Then on the third date, you blow him away and say "We've had 3 dates now and I'm getting to like you, and I think you like me. But I want you to know right now that sex isn't a priority for me unless I know we're in this for more than that".
Of course, don't say that unless you mean it and you really want something with the guy. Read his reaction and see what he says. You'll have your answer right there.
Ask him when he would bring a girl home to mother/his parents.
Most men that bring a girl to his parents at least make an effort to have a relationship because he doesn't want to keep explaining why things end.
If you can, meet his parents before having sex, even if it's accidental at the farmers market or for Sunday tea or when they pop in town.
Parents can bully a guy into thinking reasonably in a way sometimes siblings can't. Lol
u A gu who actually wants a relationship with you probably does NOT want a girl who jumps into bed on the first or second date, because if you do that with him, you have probably done it many times before. So tell him up front that you are looking for more than a ONS or a quick romp in the hay and you hope he understand that. If he gets angry and tells you to go fuck yourself, that means he was just looking to get laid. . . now.
There is one all time best clue. If you won't have sex with him within 3 weeks and he is still there then he most likely is interested in you for more than sex - or is really patient. If, for instance, you don't have sex with someone by the 3rd date and he ghosts you then he was in it for sex. You in tuition is your best friend here.
Is he trying to immediately get you in the sack? Does he seem genuinely interested in you and learning more about you? Does he enjoy doing non sexual things with you like going places and doing things?
Tell him you believe in sex after a year of being in a relationship. See if he stays past a few weeks. If you're adamant about that ideology around him and he still wants to get to know you more or enjoys being around you, then it's most likely more than just sex he's looking for.
Wear something pretty on the first date. But don't have sex. On the second date. Wear something sexy but don't have sex. Then on the third date. Wear something. Slutty. But don't have sex. If a fourth date happens. Then maybe just give him a blowjon. . on date number 5 have sex if you want. If he has made it to date number 4 then you know.
Almost every guy wants you for sex.
Accept it and prepare yourself for it.
Don't be scared, be prepared.
Don't trust anyone.
Everyone should earn the privilege to be in your presence.
I used to make guys wait a month for sex and if they were still around and making effort i knew. My current boyfriend and i slept together on the first date and it was so confusing for me lol because i couldnt tell for months if we were dating or just having fun
Make him wait. You'll soon work out what he's after.
Steve Harvey recommends 90 days minimum. I'd even say longer. If he's into YOU, not just in it for himself then you'll know.
Just tell him at the outset, that you need to be happy with a relationship before sex.
if you get to date 3 or 4 then he is likely stopping.
if he goes after first date… well there’s your answer
If the guy is rushing to sex and not bothering to get to know you is a pretty good sign that's all he's after.
Netflix and chill. Wanna hang out? Invites you to his house.
Yes, he enjoys doing other things with you. But instead of "looking out", just have sex because YOU want sex. Then if it doesn't work out, at least you had some good sex.
Usually if you go out on a few dates first and spend sometime getting to know him you should be able to have a good idea about it.
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