What would saying “thank you “ could have really caused?

[Anonymous]

If someone sends you a thank you message remembering your kindness what would make you leave it on seen or not respond with a simple thank you

[WhitneySnow]

No clue. What is your relationship with this person?

[Asker]

He is married and has a family but I reached out to him to thank him for his kindness during camp years ago as teens. I was a loner and he was nice to me. Listened to me when no one else would, changed the page of my book when I was on the wrong page, he was just overall a kind person and his mother got my mother’s number to carpool and his twin sister tried talking to me when I was by myself… so I just remembered it and I congratulated him on his fiance told him thank you and hoped his mom and twin sister were well.

[WhitneySnow]

He might think you were subtly hitting on him. I think I’ve read this question before.

[Asker]

No I wasn’t and I don’t know how he could of read that especially if I congratulated him on his fiance

[WhitneySnow]

It’s the only reason I can think of why a guy would deliberately ignore a nice message like that. Unless like somebody else said he was just busy and forgot about it.

[Asker]

I feel like he was being rude and was trying to downplay knowing me

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe he was. But I suspect he was doing so because he felt that you were thanking him as a prelude to hitting on him as more than a friend.

[Asker]

Did it sound that way to you? And I did call him a jackass after he left it on seen and he replies with “camp?”

I say yes, I just thought your kindness was impactful and wanted to thank you

He does the same thing and leaves it on seen for hours

And I say “ where else would I know you from? The circus? 🤡 referring to him as a clown. I told him that he was mistaking my kindness for weakness and that he being disrespectful and distasteful. I apologized if he thought I was coming at him in another way

But it did anger me because I felt he was downplaying knowing me and I felt a tad bit hurt especially when I came correct and respectfully

[WhitneySnow]

I think you’re making a big deal of this when it isn’t that big of a deal. It sounds like he had completely forgotten about his camp experience and had no interest in remembering. It doesn’t sound like he wants to be friends or have any kind of relationship with you. You told him thank you. You did the right thing. Best to just move on and leave it alone.

[Asker]

True and that’s fine I never wished to be his friend I just think human decency would be nice.. especially since he follows 2 of my cousins that he doesn’t know at all.

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with you. But don’t stress over this. Not worth it. Best to just move on.

[Asker]

So true. Just hurt a bit

[Saamee]

Busy that's why

[Asker]

But they seen it

[Saamee]

Just ask him

[Saamee]

If he's busy or not