What is a guy thinking when engaging in consistent prolonged eye contact with a girl?

[Anonymous]

What goes through your mind? And what goes through your mind when you keep doing it on a regular basis with same girl?

[DannyUk2017]

Could her facial characteristics, could be her blue eyes like sea, or green like the spring grass, or brown like autumn leaf or hazel like a gray winter day, or just could be that she is so pretty, so beautiful that i would never take my eyes of her...🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Aw wow! Thats pretty awesome. Yeah I notice he consistently does it, as opposed to a once off,

[DannyUk2017]

Then that is Chemistry one on one right there.

[Asker]

Yeah ok thank you

[DannyUk2017]

Very Welcome.

[Anonymous]

I have only had that happen with one girl, because I often avoid eye contact. I had a massive crush on her, and she caught me staring her. Her eyes seemed to freeze me for a moment, and I would usually look away or act normal as soon as I came back to earth.

[Asker]

Aw wow that’s pretty cool though that you were so mesmerised, she must have been pretty special then. Do you think she even knew that you had a crush or do you think she was unaware? Were you worried to approach?

[Opinion Owner]

Mesmerizing is a good way to put it. I'm pretty sure she had strong suspicions at the time, but she definitely found out later. I would want to to talk to her, but everytime I was close to her, I got way too anxious to do anything but play dead.

[BadApple69]

I don’t do that that…. I’ll look and if she looked back I’ll smile at her. If she is making eye contact with me I’ll smile and then go talk to her. Just staring at someone for a prolonged period is mildly creepy.

[Asker]

Yeah ok thanks for this. I’m not sure if the guy is a bit shy, because he doesn’t approach, but he sounds consistently do this, but it doesn’t feel creepy just like we are drawn to one another I guess.

[BadApple69]

Then you should approach him. I was just commenting to another girl on here that guys are afraid to approach girls…. That is more prevalent today than ever in history.

[Asker]

Ah I see, why do you think that is? I mean more afraid nowadays in particular?

[BadApple69]

Think about it…. Go back a few years ago and a guy wouldn’t think twice about flirting with a woman at work… now days that could get him fired. Tell a woman you see at the store that you think she is attractive would be sexual harassment. Guys are afraid to say or do anything.

[Asker]

Sh yeah ok since the me too , yep get it. A bit of a nightmare eh

[BadApple69]

Yea… the me too movement hurt the ability for a man to show interest. Hell, it hurt the ability to date…. If we try to kiss the girl or worse…. Sleep with the girl we fear having it come back on us if the girl has second thoughts in the future.

Personally…. I don’t fear this BS but a lot of men do.

[spartan55]

What 'goes through my mind'? Ugh
...🙄
"she looks good"

Pretty deep stuff.

[Asker]

Haha that it very deep, so if a guy consistently does this though? He just l thinks you look really good? Ha

[spartan55]

He is probably attracted to you. But don't conflate attraction with interest.

[Asker]

Yeah ok thanks, he doesn’t approach so probs just attraction then

[spartan55]

Have you shown him any interest? Or are you just expecting him to somehow know?

[Asker]

Well I give him eye contact back and we lock eyes regularly, smile and say hi, but that’s it really ha.

[spartan55]

That's not going to do it.

[Asker]

As in you don’t think he’ll realise I like him? What can I do really? Just talk to him.

[spartan55]

Talk with him, make excuses to talk to him more. Flirt with him, a lot.

[Asker]

Ok thanks