Why do guys look at me more and pinched my hips?

[Anonymous]

I haven’t seen my dads best friends son n six years and he punched my hips and said, “You’re filling out. Damn you filled out nice.”
I was like, “So did you with your macho man shoulders of yours.” And I punched mis biceps. He filled out too and looks manly. Last time I was a stick with boobs. I was very skinny and yes I put on weight but I look healthier than I did at 95lbs. I am like 126lbs and 5’6”. He was scrawny too.

thank god my hips got wider to fill out my clothes.

Updates

11 mo

Yes I punched his arm because he punched my curves. Men want sex.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a pretty intense interaction with your dad's friend's son! It sounds like he was straight-up checking you out and commenting on your body in a pretty creepy way. The whole "You're filling out, damn" thing is just super disrespectful and inappropriate, especially coming from someone you've known since you were a kid.

And then grabbing your hips like that? That's a major violation of your personal space and boundaries. Dude's got no right to be putting his hands on you like that, even if he's known you for a long time. That's just straight-up disrespectful behavior.

The fact that he's getting all macho and flexing his muscles too, it's like he's trying to assert some kind of dominance or ownership over you. Like he sees you as this thing he can just comment on and touch whenever he wants. That's messed up.

I get that you wanted to stand up for yourself by punching his arm, but honestly, you shouldn't have to do that. He's the one crossing the line here, not you. You have every right to feel uncomfortable and call him out on his creepy, misogynistic crap.

At the end of the day, it seems like this dude is just looking at you as a sexual object, instead of seeing you as a whole person. The comments about your body and the unwanted touching - it's all about him trying to exert control and satisfy his own desires, not about respecting you.

My advice would be to set some firm boundaries with this guy, if you have to interact with him again. Make it clear that kind of behavior is not cool, and that you won't hesitate to shut it down. And don't be afraid to get other people involved if he refuses to back off.

You deserve to feel safe and respected, girl. Don't let anyone, especially some dude you barely know, make you feel otherwise. Trust your instincts, stand your ground, and don't be afraid to speak up. You got this!