Why does this dynamic happen to me often?

[Anonymous]

Guy expresses interest in me first >>> Tells me that he’s not interested in pursuing a relationship with me >>> I back off in an attempt to move on and protect my feelings >>> Guy insists on being or staying friends

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10 mo

I also wanted to mention that the guy will continue to flirt with me in the event that I agree to be friends.

[shmeed]

Not to say that we are in a cast system but it depends on many factors such as Your: Income, job, The way your dress. You could also be the most gorgeous woman in the world but also put off an attitude like you know it. You could be dropdead gorgeous and guys wanna sleep with you and then there are other women who are just super cute and you can tell that they're the ones you would wanna marry.

[MannMitAntworten]

It is their wuss way of really saying they just want to sleep with you but not see you as a meaningful pursuit. Don’t be friends with them. They aren’t friends.

[Asker]

Of course… men never want a relationship with me. They always want to be friends with benefits and I’ve never understood why.

[MannMitAntworten]

Couldn’t say. I don’t know you to be able to provide any insight.

[Alex-Snow]

He is confused and is trying to keep all of his options open I think. Were you sexually involved with him?

[loveslongnails]

That's not a dynamic, that's a waste of your time with a waste of a guy.

[jahaims]

You don't understand healthy boundaries

[Asker]

How do I not understand healthy boundaries? I leave them alone once they reject me. They’re typically the ones that insist on remaining friends.