Guys, He accused me of cheating?

[Anonymous]

New relationship. We each attending a carnival at different ends of the city so we barely communicated that day. He facetimed me in the evening and I ask for a moment to fix myself before coming on camera. He hung up and said there's men with me and I'm cheating on him. Mind you I've never cheated and he has a history of cheating. He ended it with me ! I'm so sad but I'm thinking he's projecting. If you have cheated before did it make you paranoid? 😢

[Anonymous]

Ok I don’t understand the logic of a lot of people. Especially women. He has a history of cheating but you still chose to be w him. Too many women think I’m special, I can change him. He wouldn’t do that to me. The signs were there. You just chose to ignore them.

[Asker]

I didn't think I could change him. I thought he had done the work to change himself but clearly I was wrong.

[BadApple69]

Him ending it is a good thing. Yes he has cheated and now thinks everything you are away from him you will cheat because he knows how easy it can be done. You are better off with someone else. That relationship was doomed from the start by him.

[Asker]

This is very true. I am used to being in ldr so I don't have issues with trust. His biggest issue with trust is he doesn't trust himself

[BadApple69]

You are better off without him. Good luck.

[bowenw]

He may have done that as an excuse to end the relationship. On the bright side it is over early on and you didn't waste years with him.

[Asker]

Yes he wanted to end it because none of it makes sense.

[LiamJHayden]

I've never cheated. For me the accusation is sufficient reason to end it. Too many sane women out there for me to waste my time on someone who assumes the worst.

[Asker]

This is true. I have had a lucky escape I'm still sad though

[Anonymous]

Cheating is disgusting. You are lucky that you get out now. What were you thinking about dating somebody that has a cheating history they never change

[Asker]

He said he wants to do things differently and I believed him.

[Opinion Owner]

But you have to realize are you comfortable with that

[Asker]

I guess I was because I believed he wanted a better life and relationship. Also I am in a community that says all men cheat so it wasn't a deal breaker for me. But I didn't think about the possible projection etc

[seeyounexttuesday]

sounds like you dodged a bullet.

[Asker]

True. I never had anyone do that before.